What should I do??--Prob in married life...?

Question

I am in late 20's and my wife is in mid 20's. I am really perplexed with my wife's response in copulation. She says she doesn't feel much pleasure in penile intercourse.She says she even doesnt feel anything inside but while finguring she clsoes her eyes and after 5 min.s she hold my hands and stop doing anything. When I ask her have you reached to your peak she just smiles and says I dont know??--And I feel totally confused..
We both love each other too much and have deep level of understanding in all other things.
I feel I am totally normal, last enough (say 30 mins) during copulation and even my wife says my organ looks good to her...
My question is " Is it normal with gals tht they dont pretty much feel penis inside there organ?? Do I oe she need some medical help?? and how can i judge that a gal has reached to her peak?
I request you not to make a fun of me. Its a sereous prob with me.
~I thank all in advance who can give there valuable inputs.

Answer 1

First of all she needs to know what an orgasm feels like, ask her to let you or her bring her all the way through a climax.

If she is not feeling anything inside, she may need to see an OB/GYN to figure out the problem.

Answer 2

Hey you.
Nothing to be ashamed of. This happens more than you think.
Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological problem.
Check this out......

Physical causes. Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes, heart disease, neurological diseases, hormonal imbalances, menopause, chronic diseases such as kidney disease or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function.
Psychological causes. These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma.

Is you wife depressed? Is she on any medications? Has she been honest about her sexual feelings and has she acted responsively to seeing a doctor?
My opinion is (I'm not a doctor of course), but communication is the first step. Second: I suggest that seeking medical help is good way to address the problem. And thirdly, if it is psycholigical, then you may support her in obtaining "sex therapy". I don't mean it in a "nasty perverted way". I mean proffesional and private way. I mean exclusively for couples who have that problem.
Do you have children? Because after bearing children, the mucsles inside a woman's anatomy changes and is not the same creating some lose of feeling.
There is hope.....just sit down and talk to her, but be supportive.
I know it is difficult especially for men because becomed aroused easier and faster than a woman. Maybe you need to take a little more time with foreplay and be gentle. Ask her what she likes, and how she likes to be touched, what REALLY turrns her on. Is she ashamed of anything? I got married at 17 and I am now in my early 30's and all I can say is that you not alone. It took me 7 years to finally become comfy with my spouse because I was embarrassed. I was that ashamed believe it or not.
Lastly, pray together, especially before going night night and ask God for some help!

Take Care! - Laura

Answer 3

A woman can never really reach her peak! A woman can go on for hours at a time if she truly wants to, or if she feels that you would like to keep going! It is understandable that you men have to take breaks after you have reached your peak, but it doesn't mean that you have to quit when you do! If she is still in the mood for love making, then you should play with her and let her play and get you aroused again and start all over again! Make sure that you give her as much passion and excitement as you can, even when you are not aroused, because when you see that she is totally excited and flabbergasted with what you are doing to her ,it will excite you even more!!!!!!!!
I hope that I explained this to where you can understand what I am talking about!!
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 4

I can relate to your wife. I was abused when I was 6 and I think I may have underlying baggage that prevents me from receiving the whole thing. I can rarely be gotten off by fingering, once by dry humping, and once from oral involving a lot of fingering. Sex however has never worked. The closest I got was with a lot of foreplay, it felt really good, but just kinda died away and like her I was left kinda bored in the moment. Do you guys usually have a lot of foreplay? I think that is your best shot-get her crazy hot if possible-then her desire and sensations should be a little stronger. Has she never had an orgasm?
I would say the best thing to do is to get a vibrator. Let her get used to it, and the joy of orgasm. For me these days, my preferred sex style is lotsa foreplay, than doggy style while using my vibrator-I blow in like 10 seconds(glad I'm not a guy that would be horrible time). Through my studies of regular masturbation with a viber, having a man in me, moving or not makes it go 100x faster and better. Factually, I think its like 70% men and 30% women climax regularly from intercourse so us women are pretty much screwed. Its not you and its not her-probably just the flaws of our anatomy-how is a penis supposed to stimulate the clitoris when its a bit away from the point of entry? Good luck, and let me know if you two learn some tricks-I would love to get off from sex.

Answer 5

Purchase her and you a dildo called THE RABBIT. If she does not get off with this little bogers ears then the lady is broke!! Seriously, Try this out before you just dismiss this as being funny. Stimulate her clitoris, then penetrate her. She will will be so aroused that any thing/ everything placed inside of her will make her climax. Before going to a doctor and humiliating her as if something could be wrong with you honey, try my suggestion. I personally believe every girl in the world should own at least one of the wonderfull things..

Answer 6

Women have no feeling in their vagina, so they would feel nothing in their. Think about it when they use a tampon it would be very uncomfortable to wear one if there was feeling there. The feeling is at the opening of the vagina and the most sensitive area is the clit. So you both need to get some books on the subject and learn what will help the other.

Answer 7

First you have to think more about her then yourself. Spend a lot of time on for play woman should be made to feel special because they are. Are you aware that there are way to satisfy a woman without ever entering her. Look just concentrate on her she the important one we are easy it doesn't take much for us. She doesn't need medical help. And as far as reaching her peak don't concern yourself with that just remember there is a lot more to a woman's body then you think.

Answer 8

scaring can cause a lack in sensation, i dont know realy, but i can say that if she climaxes, you should be able to tell, the vaginal walls will contract, like a small massage. she can do kegal excercises, they will increase muscle control in the vagina, and over time she will feel tighter, this may help. to learn how to do kegals, she needs to practice while she urinates, tell her to try stoping mid pee, the muscle that stops urine flow is the muscle she wants to excercise, once she knows what flexing that muscle feels like, she can do it anytime, anywhere....all she needs is a few here and there, whenever she thinks of it.

i would also recomend a female physical exam because she could have something wrong, and some women have schycological reasons for sexual problems...


good luck

Answer 9

keep in mind the most sensitive part of the vagina is the first few inches right inside. Try this, start out slow, only entering her with the first 1 or 2 inches of your penis. See if she responds better t this. I bet she may..

Answer 10

Inform your wife to go get checked out. I've heard that some women have that problem. Believe me dude...it has nothing to do with you. Just be considered of her feelings. She might not like the idea that she can't have an enjoyable climax.