maybe you shouldn't be there when he gets home...give him a little something to worry about......don't do anything stupid.... you should go to a friends or do a little shopping for the house...walk in casually...when he asks you whats up simply say you tell me?
Maybe you not making a big deal out of it might scare him a little more to be honest......if not don't ask for trouble if you are not sure there will be a consequence for only you can change the situation my dear...
Best of wishes to you I hope you will get what you are looking for...honesty
2006-08-10 11:55:15
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answered by Anonymous
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He went out with the guys and got a little drunk. So what?
The reason he's calling and apologizing is because he knows you will over react. Yes, you are over reacting. You're the poster child for over reacting - he has to call you four or five times a day or there's something wrong?! What's the deal?! Are you 12 years old and home alone for the first time?!
It's a not a big deal and there's no problem, except the one you are creating in your own mind. Then you're torturing him with your insecurities.
If you don't trust him, leave him. Otherwise welcome him home and apologize to him for being such a needy, pain in the a$$.
2006-08-10 11:48:34
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answered by mrpeabody 3
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Let him tell you what he did. Talk to each other and give him a chance, I think you should get some marriage consoling before you completely loose it. You will never have a good marriage if you don't trust him. And for God sakes don't accuse him of anything the minute he walks in the door. If you do accuse him even if he hasn't cheated on you he probably will because he will figure she thinks I am anyway. Good luck and get help.
2006-08-10 11:38:36
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answered by Anonymous
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Hi,
You should at least listen to him.
It may be possible that he was talking the truth before but with whatever had transpired before, you may think that it is the same old thing.
I am a husband, and if I think that you, as my wife, feel like that about me, I would not have gone home before time, if that is what you have caused him to do.
That may make you feel that he was not truthful before but it can also mean that he was truthful and that he wants to try to prove it to you by being close to you at this time.
Remember, if someone makes a mistake sometime, that does not mean that they will do so all the rest of the times.
Progress is only accomplished when one learns from their mistakes.
In other words, everyone makes mistakes.
Everyone needs help.
It is our duty to try to help others out of mistakes and also in preventing them from making mistakes.
2006-08-10 11:51:38
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answered by awaxa 2
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OK it seems clear that you have thought he was up to something before . and you cant trust him .. His need to call you could be to know were you are and to have no surprises show up at inopportune moments . the other thing that is clear is that you are not doubting his honesty phone calls whilste ,well who knows? you have already judged that he is screwing around so all your going to do is have this guy try to change your mind .
look in your heart is he in love with you and if he is cheating can your marriage survive it .
Only you can say . my opinion is confront him hard and strong if he has any way of defending himself with proof you can always apologize later. your problem is you have to take it on faith as you were not there, can you believe this guy ?
2006-08-10 11:54:20
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answered by slick 4
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I know it is hard to trust someone after he has lied to you over and over. My hubby NEVER cheated, but he got into drugs, and was lying a lot. After I had proof, be got help and cleaned up. He has been clean for almost 3 years, and I mostly trust him, but it is still in the back of my mind. It takes time to start trusting. Talk to him about it. Goodluck!
2006-08-10 11:38:29
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answered by Froggie 3
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Calm down. While it's true lots of guys cheat, that may not be the case this time. Maybe he was just out drinking & knew he was in trouble for not calling. Don't hammer him to bad. Whatever you do don't accuse him if you do & he didn't cheat maybe next time he's tempted he'll say why not she already thinks i do.
Good luck
2006-08-10 11:38:05
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answered by Conservative Texan 3
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If he is a man who will lie, there is nothing you can do. Look him in the eye and ask, "How was your trip?" If he cannot answer you without looking you in the eye or repeats his answers, "Oh, fine. Just fine. Really, it was fine.", you know he is not being honest. Second question for him, still looking him in the eye, "What were you so sorry for when you called?" Do not cry, be firm.
2006-08-10 11:42:32
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answered by brenda c 2
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Well all you can do is ask - if he lies there is not much you can do. You are going to be the one who makes up there mind if you are willing to put up with this. You never know he might have just gone out for drinks and that's all.
2006-08-10 11:39:11
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answered by middle aged and love it 3
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you need to stay calm when he gets home. im sure he will put sugar on top of all he says. but dont jump to conclusions. okay?
you need to show him that you dont have trust issues. you need to ask him what he did on his trip. where he went. if he enjoyed him self. you can also sit and talk to him about that phone cal. tell him that it was strange how he was so quiet and no coworkers were around. ask him what happened?
i know when someone is lieing to me. they dont make eye contact. they studder words and turn all red. you should know him by now. make sure you pay attention to him close when he talks. if he says nothing happened, then its up to you if you want to believe him. if you still dont then try contacting one of his coworkers and ask them what happend.
just dont jump to conclusions.
2006-08-10 11:39:35
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answered by All4Christ 4
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