After living together for 23 years, the last three being married. An affair was the last thing I expected from him. Annoymouse letters in the mail to me, giving me details of their relationship, Late night phone calls from her wanting me to come and get him because she was done with him (how degradeing, emmbarraced, and most of all hurt).He stuck to the same old line. We are just friends, I don't want that girl. After losing my job over this and being arrested, and moving out for 2 months, He assured me it was over and he only loved me and wanted me back in our home. I was scared to come back and was very insecure, but I did. Almost a year went by and now she is playing games with me. If he sees her at the local club, she will dial my home number and hold the phone out so I may here their conversation or leave notes where ever our car is parked so we know she was there. What should I do? leaave him or stay and fight.?
2006-08-10 11:27:48 · 10 answers · asked by tears gone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are going to stay, you need to get a restraining order for that wack job that is continuing to harass you. Second, if this guy is still seeing this woman even in social circles, he has not completely ended it. He's lying to you. If he was broken up with her, she would not feel the need to keep messing with you.
So call him on the carpet for his bad behavior nd force him to come clean. Then make sure you start documentng the ho beast's activities so that you can turn them over to the local authorities. Save the notes and get rid of this girl.
2006-08-10 11:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
gosh, it seems as though he is still going after her. I mean, why the hell would he be talking to her at the club and why the hell are you not out with him?!? you should NOT be doing this to yourself. you are worth more than a man treating you like this! you cannot allow him to make a fool out of you. I hope you DO have the strength to leave this jerk of a man. He is no good, and if he's been doing this LATELY, what has he done in the past 20-some-odd years? Yo don;t have to put up with him. Leave. this woman has no respect for you and will continue to do these childish things to get under your skin. don't let her. next time she pulls some bullsh*t like calling you in the middle of the night to tell you she's done with him, tell her: keep his @ss, I'm done picking up after his dumb@ss
2006-08-10 11:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey...as tough as it may be, you need to really give up on him and move out. He is so untrustworthy, and it sounds as though this woman is going to play with him and you for all she can. She doesn't care about humiliating you and making you feel like crap. THROW HIS *** OUT! Don't take him back. I've seen this so many times before. My own father use to do the same thing to my mom. She stayed with him until she passed away. She was miserable. She knew about his affair, which went on for 20 yrs, with my now step mom, and even knew about my half sister. My dad didn't care. He lied and lied all of the time. He use to tell my mom he was going out of town on business when in fact he was going on vacation with his other family. All he wanted was what he wanted and could have cared less about my mom. DON'T LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT! If you have children, for their sake, please leave him. Don't do this to them too. It will mess them up for life, I promise you.
2006-08-10 11:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Fuzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if you will ever be able to trust him or forgive him for all he has put you through. I think you need a new start and a chance at finding a love that you feel secure in. Move on and leave this relationship in your past.
2006-08-10 11:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the Ammiteyville Horror house said, "get out"
2006-08-10 11:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by dwitejones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run like the wind
2006-08-10 11:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Conservative Texan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably did this before... Once a Cheater Always a Cheater, leave him, hes gonna do it again, and again
2006-08-10 11:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. Cheating is like suicide attempts. You do it once, you will do it in the future.
2006-08-10 11:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave him, no one is worth that sort of hassle, move on
2006-08-10 11:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE NOW
2006-08-10 11:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Daddys Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋