I have been with my bf for a year and I love him and he says he loves me but he keeps pressuring me to have sex. I have tried to tell him Im not ready but he just gets mad. I live in the "ghetto" I guess you could say and hes used to his other gfs giving it up a week after they started going together. I dont want to leave him. What should I do?
2006-08-10 11:24:03 · 29 answers · asked by uhh huh♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
omg gurl i was in ur position...so many ppl tried helpin but in da end its up to u! in ur gut instincts. i live in da same type of place so its pretty much da same... i culd help u so much i was in ur exact position! email me n ill help u asap
2006-08-10 11:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by chevygrl1230 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok wellyou need to sit himdown and explain it to him i know it sounds awkward but u really need to be upfront with him and tell him.. Listen i know that weve been together for along time and u are used to other girls giving it uo in a week but im just not ready i do love yo and if u love me back you will understand that i want to wait till im ready.. and if that doesnt helpwell then you know he isnt the one. The one for you will wait until you are ready not when it pleases them. I hope everything goes well for u :) GOOD LUCK
2006-08-10 18:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by la colombiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he so called loves u he can wait my boi friend and i have been together for about 1 year and he pressured me then we sat down and talked about what could happen if we did have sex then he said that i had a point that he isn't really ready to be a father yet and so i told him that if he really did love me the way he says he does he can wait
2006-08-10 19:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he wants to have sex with you and you don't want to and he gets mad if you don't he's not looking for something serious. if he really loved you don't you think he would respect your wishes? Also, if he wanted sex all along then this cannot be a serious relationship. but by the looks of it you guys won't be together forever.
by the way, good job on waiting to have sex!! but if you do be safe! use a condom =D
~good luck
2006-08-10 18:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are about respect and love. He should love you enough to respect your wishes. You need to tell him that if he can't respect you, that you can't be with him or give him what he wants. If he keeps pressuring you, you should break it off because it's an unhealthy relationship and may lead to rape. Good luck and good job on saying no and sticking up for what you believe and want!
2006-08-10 18:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by LiNdSaY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM! he aint taking care of you,im a virgin too and when I tell a dude no and he tries to pressure me,he gets da boot.You are very smart for keeping your virginity cause dudes these days are not worth it.you should feel proud of yourself cause not a lot of girls can say that.thats why so many dudes want me,because I have the whole package.you are better than him and you should feel that way.I know im a tad bit arrogant but I know im not going to regret it in the future.
2006-08-10 22:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by sugarcookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to stick to your guns! Dont give in to him because it is not what you want. Wait untill you are ready as this need to be a special time in your life, not just something to do to shut him up.
I hate to say this but if he does love you he would wait untill you are ready.
Good Luck and well done for wanting to wait.
Please stick to your guns
2006-08-10 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by noone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesn't really care about you if he's pressuring you and you've already told him you don't want.. you might not want to leave him.. but at some point, you need to stand up for yourself. if he keeps bothering you about it, you either need to say no, and accept it if he leaves you and know you did what was right for you... or... he might get you to concede.. and then you'll do something that you might later on regret. save sex for marriage.. it's better then.. besides.. does he want to worry that you may end up pregnant and then you'll really have to figure out what you're going to do?
2006-08-10 22:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl.... tell him theres the door. if he loves you he will wait till you are ready. i give you props for staying strong. having sex is the gateway to many things so becareful. give him space and if he can't take no for an answer then your too good for him. hold your head up high and know your doing the right thing.
2006-08-10 18:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by babylilo16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns...if you aren't ready then you aren't ready...it has nothing to do with hwere you live as to whether ot not you put out. If he says he'll leave you if you don't...then say goodbye...he's not worth it. If you want to save it till marriage, or you know that you are madly in love, and its for keeps then fine...until then...don't give in.
2006-08-10 19:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, all he cares about is sex. If he truly loved you he would respect that you are not ready. Do not give in to him.
2006-08-10 18:32:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋