im a virgin and i have desires but im afraid what should i do?

Answer 1

How old are you? If you are a teen, good for you! I know it's hard to wait, but believe me, you will be so glad you did.

Answer 2

Wait until you are married. People are crazy in this day and age. They believe everything goes. Young people do not know how to handle the emotions that result from sexual activity or how to respect and support a partner's feelings. I was 21 when I engaged in sex for the first time. I wasn't married. I regret it to this day even though I enjoyed the act. I wish I had waited until I'd found someone who loved and respected me enough to want to spend the rest of their life with me. Hold on to your virginity. Innocence comes at a premium these days. Once it is gone, it is gone forever.
As for your desires they are normal. However, we do not have to act on every given desire, do we?

Answer 3

That sucks
fear of sex can really rob the joy out of your life. A lot of people, including just about every virgin, have anxiety about sex. If it's something you feel you're ready to try you should work up to it in stages. To use the baseball analogy, you should try holding hands until you're comfortable enough to kiss, then from kissing heavy petting, then intercourse.. then the funner stuff. It will help you get over your fears if you're not trying to put everything togather on one night. If you dont' have a boyfriend now, choose someone who cares about you for your first time. It's going to be awefully intimidating and a bit painful, you'll appreciate someone who will be patient and gentle with you. Be knowledgeable about protection and insist upon it. And remember it's all about fun..

Answer 4

Sweety take this from a wise soul. I have a three yr. old and was promiscuous at an early age. I love my son deeply but i teach him now to respect himself and even at this age instruct no kissing or holding hands. These lessons will go far and he will remember them when he is in his teens. You need to tell your mom and dad what you feel this could be the most amazing bonding you ever have with them. They love you and will want your best interest at heart. I will tell you straight up... Never waste your virginity on a man who wants it, Give it to the man who respects your stand and waits. For those urges there is always masturbation.

Answer 5

You will always have desires, from the time you hit puberty until you're old and grey. Think of what kind of person you want to be and achieve it. Keep your dignity and your chastity until you are at least in your senior year of high school I think. Make sure it's love and not lust. You only have one chance and being young and in love and actually make it special, don't blow it. Take small steps up to IT. And just relieve your desires on your own until then!

Answer 6

do you have a boyfriend? having desires as a virgin is normal but make sure you know the information on STD's and to be protected. you can go to a local clinic and meet with a doctor. talking to your parents is also a choice. but don't jump into anythign you are going to regret. planned parenthood is a place. look them up online.

Answer 7

everyone is always having desires but that doesnt mean you have to do it. you dont need to do something that you will regret. you should wait until you find the person you are truly in love with because beleive me it will be so much more special and you will be so happy you waited.

Answer 8

WAIT! Until you are absolutely sure. Any being with reproductive organs has desires, but if you are not sure what (or with whom) to do the best thing is to hold off. It could be your worst regret and one that you cannot amend.

Answer 9

i beleive you should wait until ya meet the right guy/girl sex is something not to be rushed into,

feeling desire is not something that mean ya got to rush out and do it

some of us feel desire to rob a bank sometimes and we dont,

wait untill ya meet the right partner and you are both ready, your first time should be special
just like you are

Answer 10

Control those hormones.......

You should wait for the right guy. Sometimes you may think it's the right guy but he may not. You should give up your viginity to the one you want to be with. Otherwise you'll end up getting hurt and be called a ho.