I asked the straights earlier so now I'm asking you' all I don't suspect the answers will be different but you never know
2006-08-10 10:48:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Funny you should ask. I was just having this conversation with my husband. You should give with love, not because you have too. Sometimes when you never receive you begin to wonder if the other person cares. Its not all about material things, just the thought of taking your time to make that other person feel special.
2006-08-10 10:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by purrrfktangl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my life I believe that relationships are all one sided, what I can give, I have friends that can't give back because they have been hurt too many times so if I can give to them what they haven't had before than maybe they will be able to give later and if i expect nothing then I can't get hurt. We are selfish beings. So let go and love your spouse and give because they might not be able too right now. People need to know u love them and their shouldn't be a limit on love. Do u love them because they love u?? What ever u magnify grows, so if u pick at their faults that's what you see. If you try seeing the things u love about that person then that's what will grow!!! I still struggle with my friendships especially when I start having expectations. I also know that I am not perfect, so I can't expect others to be. And start looking at what you are doing wrong first.
2006-08-10 11:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jacqui_72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully mine will never get to that point - my Dad told me when I got married "Marriage is a 60/40 relationship - but you have to take turns being the 60" There are things more important to my husband like investments, retirement savings, the future and ther eare things more important to me like enjoying today, family vacations, having a nice home...we just try and work towards both knowing we are building a solid future.
2006-08-10 10:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same for all relationships, whether gay, lesbian or straight. The formula to a good marriage and relationship is that there's a balance of both giving and receiving and good communication so that this balance can be held.
2006-08-10 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by mountaingirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At no point. One shall never expect from another. This break marriages. You give what you feel like giving and you recieve what you recieve. You love, you give and do not expect to recieve (it would be nice mind you). You do not love, you want to recieve and give when you feel like it (if ever!).
Over and Out.
2006-08-10 11:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is in relationships always one gives in more than the other, they are never equal.
2006-08-10 11:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should never be about what you give or recieve. Its all about comprimise and love.
2006-08-10 10:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be keeping score? Marriage is about love, respect, compromise, balance and communication.
2006-08-10 10:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Drewe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know.... but my experience is that the second you say I do.... you are trapped in an eternal "give me.... fullfill my needs" situation.
Honestly..... It is not that bad... but it can seem that way sometimes.
2006-08-10 10:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by TAZZLOVER8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the judge orders you to pay spousal support
2006-08-10 10:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋