Our relatinoship has been rocky for the past couple of months but I cant seem to let him go.....we've been trying to have a baby for a little while and our families have started to bond....how should we explain to them that I am pregant...also I'm under 18 so I need a reasonable way to explain to them. if you have any answers please answer asap! `thanx
2006-08-10 10:39:01 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why would you try when your relationship has been rocky and you're not even old enough to support yourself? Teenagers need to have locks put on their ovaries until they grow mature brains!
God help your parents who will have to pay for your responsibilities!
2006-08-10 10:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life has now come to an end. Don't believe me? Remember this e-mail five years from now. You'll understand.
Under 18 and pregnant. No more fun for you. Oh...don't expect lover-boy to stick around either. You can take that to the bank.
Of course...that may take considerably less than 5 years. So plan on re-reading this early.
My only real wish is that the child is healthy and raised with proper morals and ideals as mother and father seem to be lacking.
Oh...what do you guys do for a living? Just curious. Does he have a good paying job with good medical benefits for you and junior? What? He doesn't? Oh...never mind. Sorry I asked.
2006-08-10 10:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest. And I would recomend telling eachothers parents separatly. You wouldn't want your family to say something that could be hurtful to your significant other. Just remember that things happen for a reason.
On a side note, many of my friends have gotten pregnent to save a relationship. Make sure that there is a relationship worth saving before you go and start a family of your own. I would also reccomend talking with someone like a trusted aunt if you have concerns about how they will react.
2006-08-10 10:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by bounceabout8402 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st since your under 18 its statutory rape for him... if you in the US...
Just call a meeting and state the facts. At this point you maynot have much say in the matter since your under 18 age of consent...
Reasonable way to Explain, better hope your parents don't go after the Bf as he could become a Sexual Offenderor and go on the list for life not to mention Jail time.
A baby having a baby. What a Mess... Will you have to Go On Welfare to Pay for this baby? Food Stamps? Quit school?
Well I don't have all the facts and sorry to be so harsh...l
2006-08-10 10:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under 18 and have been trying to get pregnant for what reason I do not know but I can say that the both of you are too darn young to be having sex and kids.
You need to be married, have a stable job, a house of your own, your own everything.
Well all you can do is just tell your families that the two of you were irresponsible and had sex and now you have a child to worry about.
You teens today just think you know everything.
2006-08-10 11:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18 and in a rocky relationship, the last thing you should be doing in trying to have a baby, but now that you are already pregnant, first tell your mom, when I was pregnant my mom was the first to tell everyone. She will probably be mad but when your belly starts growing and you are baby shopping she will come around. Good luck
2006-08-10 10:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question is a bit confusing - in two parts.
Because you have been trying to have a baby but your relationship is rocky.
I'm guessing that you really want this baby- so you guys either need to work at it or decide to split and stay friends.
Parents are going to be hard work- so my advice is read up on things - they will probably freak- thats the normal parental response
So tell them what you know- how hard it is and how you know you will not have a life of your own for some time.
How you have thought it through and how any of your future plans fit in.
e.g who is going to go to college, who is going to take care of the baby.
Why you want this baby.
Get used to their reaction now and you may be surprised, if you are well prepared for them, then they may not go as nuts as you imagine.
Be strong and tell them that you know what you are doing, that you know you might need some help, but you will ask for it if you need it, and ultimately you understand the responsibility
the best of luck to you- a child is a gift from God
2006-08-10 10:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by flossie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it to them gently. Start w/ the parent ur closer to, and be like "Mom/dad, i have some news. I'm pregnant, i'm sorry" Crying will help to, like u really are sorry. What i don't understand is u said u were trying to have a baby. Y would u want a baby when ur under 18?
2006-08-10 10:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by xo winter-angel xo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this subject is very delicate. first, u shud plan on wat u r goin 2 do; get married, give up the baby, keep the baby, abortion, how u will support urself if u keep, all of those major questions need to be answered because ur parents will ask u. be very gentle and calm and go up to ur closer parent and tell them kindly and sympathetically that u r pregnant. later go to the other parent and tell them u r pregnant, and hopefully the one u previously told will help u out. u made a choice and the consequence is here. good luck with whatever u do.
2006-08-10 11:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by AJLeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a life inside you. By worrying about saying it, you cause stress to flow throughout the blood of your body and thus you will stress the baby you are holding.
Because you will feel much better telling them, after you tell them, you will be relaxed and able to breathe better. You baby will also feel this way.
Because you want the baby to feel as good as possible. You just have to tell everyone as soon as possible you are pregnant so that your emotions do not boil over.
They will understand and if they don't, it is not your problem, but their problem. Your only focus should be on making your baby inside you feel as comfortable as possible. Luckily you are a woman and naturally have skills of nurture. Use that instinct to help you express to everyone the news.
2006-08-10 10:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a good way would be getting engaged or something... lol. and then telling them you're pregnant.
Youve both made adult dicisions in becoming pregnant, so now you're gonig to have to suffer the consequences like adults. You're parents now, whether you own parents like it or not. Be willing to take their help, but their judgement on your guys really doesnt matter any more.
You're a mother, and he's a father, and you two need to suck it up, learn to stick it out together, and support eachother in this big scary endevor.
2006-08-10 10:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋