I find myself wondering about my bf past relationships. Should these things bother me?
2006-08-10 10:36:54 · 25 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. His past sexual relationships and your past sexual relationships should not be of a concern in the RELATIONSHIP you both now share. You need to pay more attention to what you both have now and look to the future.
These jealous feelings will get your relationship no where. The more you wonder the more you are going to want to ask. Once you do start asking, you may or may not get any answers but your mind will still wander. He will tire of your jealous bickering and will leave.
It is best for you to forget about what he has done with past girlfriends. Put that worry to the side and use that time and energy to make this relationship even more meaningful. Like I said, pay more attnetion to what you both have right now, in the present and look to the future.
2006-08-10 10:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's world of HIV and other STDs, I think you can and should ask directly about his health. In other words, you can and should ask him if he has any STDs before you two launch a sexual relationship.
Other than that, I think that quizzing your partner about past sexual partners is tacky and off-putting. If you stay together, there will be a time when you feel close enough to each other to discuss it. And, I can tell you from experience, that it can be fun to do so.
Once my wife asked me what was the kinkiest thing I had ever done. I answered. She asked me who with and I told her. Next thing I knew, we were in the bedroom doing that and a lot more. It was a very fun afternoon.
2006-08-10 17:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, we have a 25 year age gap so he has already had more of a past then I have, he hasnt spoken to his first ex for over 15 years but his last ex they speak because he has to go take care of the dog they had together (its old, blind and has bad back) so he has to be taken care of more then a normal dog, but it still botheres me that they talk, and that my fiance forgave her for what she did (cheated on him BIG time) but hes christian so he forgives people. I trust my fiance, but I honostly dont trust his ex, but I know he loves me and I know that he loves me more then he ever loved his ex's, but it still botheres me because im super jealous. I just cant wait until shes out of his life. Some people are like that and some arent..unfortunetly i am.
2006-08-10 17:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Good Lord grow up. As long as he's with you what does it matter.
of course...you could very well be another notch in his belt if he dumps you and now another statistic for some new girlfriend to fret over.
The benefit to you out of all this? Well..now you have a sexual escapade under your belt. Might come in handy with the next boyfirend. So work on this one. Hone whatever you're good at down to an art. You'll be very popular!
2006-08-10 17:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no...don't get caught up in the worry. I mean, i wouldn't want to sit and listnen to specific sexual expreiences from the past, but in this day and age, everyone has had sex prior to their serious relationship...you are with each other NOW that is all that matters. Create your own sexual memories with him...forget the rest.
2006-08-10 17:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past history is just that. Both yours and his. You and he are living in the present and that is what you should be concerned with. If you brood on the past or worry about it nothing is accomplished except an upset stomach and there is nothing you can do about it anyway. What is the POINT???? Adjust your thought processes and be a happier person. Your past is yours and his is his. Your future is yours together.
2006-08-10 17:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time that would be a concern for me is if it will affect my relationship with him. A big one would be sexually transmitted diseases. Otherwise, it would be a complete waste of time to worry about it or to even think about it, for that matter.
2006-08-10 18:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont worru about the past and look on to the future just think that u can do way better for him than them past gurls did
there old news, dishes thrown away
ur the new and improved special on the menu now
2006-08-10 17:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your EX why worry about it? but if it is a new guy, what happened in the past should stay in the past and be clean between you and your new bf.
2006-08-10 17:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by celeste a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been married 11 years tomorrow and i will tell ya that i think of one form my past from time to time, because it was a happy time in my life. We just had different outlook on life he wanted to go one way and me another. So we knew when to break it off. All on good terms.
2006-08-10 17:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by freebirdat2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋