It's like im waiting for him to break my heart and i know one day its going to come. It seems like are relationship is to good to be true...What's the catch?
I know nobody's perfect but he's like the perfect boyfriend he's everything i want in a man. But it's like deep down i'm just waiting for him to mess up some how. I do trust him, well i trust him entirely to much and love him.
But every relationship i know of all my friends and sister and brothers been in perfect relationships before there partner screwed up. Even my past relationships my ex bf's screwed up right when iu knew they wasnt. its like somethings telling me that i know he's going to break my heart maybe not today or tommoro but sometime in the future and im just waiting for it.
Why do i feel like this?
2006-08-10 10:33:07 · 11 answers · asked by Tbaby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your scared to let yourself fully give your trust to him. Which is not a bad thing a girl must protect her heart. But Sounds to me like maybe you should give him a little more of a chance, If you don't then he is going to sense that you have no faith in his attempt to love you whole heartily. In life and in love you must open yourself up completely.And hope for the best. And by the way no one is perfect! How do you know that you might not be the one to break his heart. You really can not predict these things. But if you love him then enjoy life with him don't get depressed thinking about the day he might upset you. Count your blessing and enjoy what you have. Every relationship takes pain and arguing in order for the love with one another to grow stronger!
Good luck and let yourself be happy!
2006-08-10 10:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to feel that way, especially if you've been hurt in the past. Just keep your eyes opened. No one is perfect, even the ones that seem to be in the beginning. All you can do is live life day to day and make the best of it. You never know, maybe you have found a genuinely honest man that has no intentions of hurting you. Good luck, but keep in mind your feelings are normal.
2006-08-10 17:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by mixemup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you live your life just waiting for something bad to happen? Enjoy the good times, and when bad times come, deal with them. Life is not just an ideal little snow globe waiting to be broken. It is imperfect, and you cannot have real growth with anyone, or in any relationship if you don't ever have bad times. Give yourself more credit. You can weather the inevitable storm- and if Mr.Perfect is so great, he can weather it with you. Hey, everyone screws up- we are human. If he cheats on you- if that's what you mean, well, "Next!" Learn what you can and move on.
2006-08-10 17:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody makes mistakes. It's silly to sit and watch and wait for somebody to screw up...it's going to happen at some point and sitting around waiting for it can make you miserable when you should be very happy.
I don't think this is a very uncommon problem, but it is a problem because it sounds like it is affecting your ability to enjoy your relationships.
Seriously, I would recommend discussing this with a therapist. It sounds like you have some abandonment issues that could be dealt with with some talk therapy.
Wishing you lots of luck and congrats for finding a good one! :)
2006-08-10 17:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel insecure because you love this guy too much and afraid to lose him. I think your feeling this way because you seem to drag on about the past and how other people's relationships have screwed up.
There are no signs to say he will break up with you apart from your own imaginative mind. Don't think about breaking up and if it will ever happen, just think what you have now and what you cherish.
Goodluck
2006-08-10 17:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by mangchi26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because you are using the situations of your family members and friends to judge him. Also over the years whenever something special is happening in your life, something always happens to mess things up.Give the guy and yourself a chance. You deserve total happiness in your life for once. If you are not careful you are the one who will do something to mess it up because of your fears. Everyone is different. Not because those individuals relationships fail ,mean it will happen to you also. Give him the chance. Do not look for him to mess up, instead enjoy what you have going.
2006-08-10 17:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by joebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear you. my first byfriend was so perfect and it seemed too good to be true as well.
first of all, we all get hurt one day, so you can't just not be with him or live in fear because you might get hurt by him in the future.
second of all, as you guys are together longer, you will sart to see he is not so perfect. there will appear things that will bother you about him, which is normal, so don't worry; the perfetion won't last.
third of all, enjoy your relationship if it makes you so happy. don't let fear get in the way. just enjoy what you have now, and when somehting bad or if somehting bad does happen, at least you'll have your happy memories right?
i wish you best of luck!!!
2006-08-10 17:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because its true.they always screw up no matter how.they always manage t youll probably find out later that he is a compulsive liar or something.i was inyour same situation and thats what i found out.sorry i didnt have any positive input for you.just enjoy it while you can.and get the most gifts out of it that you can.i did.
2006-08-10 17:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can prevent whats going to happen in the future. Follow your feelings.
2006-08-10 17:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by n8vhuney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it's happened before. all you can do is hope and trust.
2006-08-10 17:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by boo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋