if a couple has shared parenting why does the father still have to pay child support when he has him the same?

Question

father is complaining because he has to pay child support and he dont believe in it he thinks he has him just as much as i do and he shouldnt have to pay anything he wants me to sign the baby over to him because the state is the one going after child support cause the baby is on the medical card and the father wants him offf

Answer 1

Okay, take a breath.

Child support has nothing to do with visitation. Support is given by one parent (sometimes the mother) to the other if there is a significant difference in their incomes. That is meant to even out the lifestyle of the child even if there is 50/50 time in visitation.

Visitation is determined separately. Some parents, if they are terrible, are awarded NO visitation but still have to pay full support.

Answer 2

From my own experience.. my soon to be ex pays child support for our kids and we have 50/50 but I actaully have them more of the time than he does, which is fine with both of us. I was a stay at home mom and him and I agreed when we were married that I would do that til they were both in school full time then I could get a job, well that won't be til the fall and so from Aug of last year til now he has paid support for them, because I had no income. He was making good money then and I was making none so he didn't fight it.

So in my case, I say I have them more and I am a stay at home mom... besides.. if he was not letting me have them most of the time and he had to work.,. he would be paying a babysitter/daycare what he's pay me in child support. So it is just something we agree upon.

I also want to add that I take care of everything for them, their medical, their schooling stuff (clothes,bookbags, lunches etc) and any extracurricular activites they are in and I use the child support for that.

They basically live with me and stay overnights at his house sometimes..

Answer 3

Even if parents have joint custody, there is still a primary residence that the child is at. That parent deserves to get some child support due to medical bills (which the primary parent's insurance will pay for), clothing, necessities, and stuff for the child.

I know there are parents out there that have joint custody, but I bet few have the child the equal amount of time. Typically, the mother has the child more (I know there are fathers out there that do, and that is fine. But you are a minority. . .), and women earn less in wages (business is still sexist - even in the 21st centruy - but that is another topic). So why not help out? If someone is griping about sending money to support their kid, what kind of parent does that make them?? I know that if (God forbid) my husband and I split up, our daughter would still have whatever she needed, and neither one of us would complain about it. Your child should be the focus, not how much money you have to give to support that child!

Answer 4

Well, the thing is, in some states ( I can't speak for them all ) even if there is completely 50%-50% shared custody and parenting...the state can still require one parent to pay the other child support. This is because of the "standard of living" if one parent makes significantly more money than the other. This child support is supposed to make the child's life easier because he/she will have the same standard of living at each parents house!

Answer 5

This is set by your state or government right?

It has more to do with the inequality of your two pay checks. The father often makes more money than the mother (I'm sure that isn't always the case, but it does seem to be usual). The courts are trying to look out for the wealfare of the child. Once a child becomes part of a custody case (divorce) the child becomes a ward of the court.

I grant the system doesn't always make sense, but there you have it.

Answer 6

Don't sign him over becuase of the father not wanting to pay child support.. Just because the child is with the father the same amount of time as the mother does not mean anything. It takes money to raise a kid. You need the money to raise that child and do not let him try to change you mind on that cause as soon as he has custody and he gets mad at you he can take him/her from you until you scheduled visitation... DON"T TRUST HIM!!!
Gl to you!!

Answer 7

Fathers have to pay child support because usuall they dont really have the kids for 50% of the time and are resonsible for 50% of their care. If parents share them the same amount of time, like one week with mom one week with dad, there usually isnt child support. Usually one parent has them every other weekend and two weeks in the summer. Child support pays for half the care of the kids when they are with the main parent.

Answer 8

Because in the laws the father is still considered the major supplier of income in families. Working single mothers cannot support themselves and their children alone and succeed and provide the best of everything for their children.

Fathers are required to pay child support, even those who dont even have visitation rights.

Its a good law, thank God its in play. Although so many single moms never see a dime.

Answer 9

if a child spends equal time with both parents there should be no child support! But if the state is after the father because they are supplying medical insurance the father should get him on his insurance or the parents should get the child private insurance.

Answer 10

#1, NEVER EVER sign your rights away. You will regret it for every day of the rest of your life.

#2, it is his responsibility to provide medical care if he is able for the child in question.

#3, according to all the current laws regarding the subject, a father is accountable for supporting his children when they are in absence from him until they reach an age of accountability IE:18 or 17

#4, it is pure selfishness that he should want you to sign over your child to him, he's clearly more concerned for his wallet over the child's well being. a child needs their parents. if you want to be in your baby's life, than so be it. if he wants to only think of himself then give him the option to sign away rights and let it be just you and the baby since he obviously doesn't want to provide for his child. maybe you and your baby will be better off that way.

#5, if he refuses to pay support you can take him to court and have his wages garnished, drivers license suspended, and you can have the 50/50 parenthood bit terminated. you can even deny him visitation if the support was court ordered.
if all you have so far is a verbal agreement outside of a courtroom, i suggest you take him to court and establish all of this legally. if he does make more money than you, the court will most likely award you some kind of support to keep your baby's lifestyle even from his home to your home.