My husband has decided that if I have a BOY he wants to name the baby after him! The problem is I HATE his name, and I DO NOT want a son named the same thing: Terry Lamar....ewwweww.
What do I do? He has said that I "have no choice" and that if it is a girl I can have free will to name the child whatever I want. But I just do not think that is Fair!
I am the one carrying the baby, and will be the one SUFFERING through labor--I think I should have some say so in the naming of my child, whether it is a boy or a girl.
What advice can you give me?
Everytime we dicuss the issue, he gets upset, how can I convince him to help me think of a new, creative name--?
thanks!
2006-08-10 10:28:02 · 36 answers · asked by kandicetnstudent 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First off, relax. Everything is going to be ok. You will have the name you want for your child if you listen to a little friendly advice. I have 2 wonderful children, both with names i picked. You don't have control over your partner, but you can control yourself. If you begin today, you can persuade your partner that your choice of a name is superior. How you ask? Here is the answer: Stop referring to your unborn baby as: Our baby, the baby, the little boy/girl, my little bundle of joy, etc.. and star referring to the baby by the name you want (example allison). From now on you talk about yourself, your partner and allison. You must follow this advice to the T, in public and private. YOu must be willing to refer to your baby by the name you want at all times. YOu will begin to see your partner refer to the baby as (example: allison) then and only then you know you have won. Good luck!
2006-08-10 10:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the SAME exact situation now. I really want a boy, but I hope it's a girl just because of this name situation! I reminded him that I am the one carrying the child, going to struggle pushing the child out, and will most probably have the major role in taking care of the child (baby stage). He has calmed off of 'Jr.' quite a bit (over time, not right away) and is a lot more flexible.
2006-08-10 10:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by jrochelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to name our daughter Alivia Marie , but my husband said no ! I agree with you completely ! We are the ones going through all of the pain, we should be able to decide. My husband said that our next baby ,if its a boy , is going to be named after him - Joseph Michael . Which is a nice name, I just think it would be really confusing !!! Or name him , Vincent Latin ! I do not really care for that name either ! Put your foot down and tell him NO ! There has to be a name that one of you can agree on , right ? Good luck !
2006-08-10 10:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy him a dog and name it that. Or say Terry or Lamar can be its middle name. The mom should be the one to name it. If he won't be good about it then when its time to sign the birth certificate kick him out of the room.
2006-08-10 10:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by I love Jesus! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Portmanteau can be a great thing. Why not combine his two names to come up with a new one? That way he wont be offended, and you won't have to endure another generation of Sir Uglyname. I think Tamar is a fairly unisex name. I have heard of males and females using that name.
If worst comes to worst, maybe you could get him to agree to let the child have his name as a middle name or something like that.
That seems fair.
Cheers. I hope you figure things out before your baby arrives. =)
2006-08-10 10:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Methlehem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TERRY: English form of Thierri, the Norman French form of THEODORIC. This name can also function as a pet form of TERENCE or THERESA. A famous bearer was Terry Fox (1958-1981), a young man with an artificial leg who attempted to run across Canada to raise money for cancer research. He died part way across the country, but his effort inspired the annual Terry Fox Run fundraiser
2006-08-10 10:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, beats what I 'threatened' our daughter with when she was prego... I told her she should name the baby Zachary Alexander Nicholas Glenn, and then their last name.. LOL..
Or, Zang for short.. Of course, the grandbaby showed everybody that Granddaddy was way off on the gender issue at her first sonogram by flashing the world and showing there was no 'handle' there. At which point, I conceded and let them do as they pleased.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 10:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about your child's name right now.
Choose your baby girl name and then just wait.
Many times the actual name changes once you see your child.
Once you see your child the real name comes to you.
I definitly would not choose this battle right now. Dont waste your energyJust hope and pray he changes his mind. Or that you change your mind. You have other things to think about right now.
When you see your special gift, you will know the right name.
2006-08-10 10:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes! that is a problem! tell him that you would like to have a say in the name too if its a boy u are the one carrying the baby. i love the names braden, aiden, caden, ben, matt, kyle, kevin, brenden. just tell him the names Terry and Lamar are OLLLDD names lol. good luck
2006-08-10 10:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by horseluvr215 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A boy named Terry will get beat up. Every day.
Tell your husband that if he names the child Terry he is dooming it to a life of noogies, wedgies, and titty twisters. If he loves his son, how could he do that?
He'll change his mind. I bet your husband was beat up as a child too.
2006-08-10 10:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by ekinevel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋