My wife has started contacting an ex boyfriend she was seeing him a few years ago and i found out due to text mess on phone that was incriminating preety sure she cheated she denied i had no proof so accepted her answers and said as long as u dont contact him again.She left her email open and i checked it and she has emailed him he hasent tried to contact her in 2 years the emails told him how im this and im that and all our problems which married couples have money etc she says she loves me and will always be married to me no matter what but the emails tell the opposite story i cant believe some of the things she is saying mostly untrue he has replied with if your not happy you should leave i can almost see him smirking rubbing his hands togethrer thinking im in you guys will know what i mean its a case of tell her what she wants to hear im sure it would be the same for him if they were married It sucks wjhat should i do.Please no silly answers
2006-08-10 10:23:50 · 10 answers · asked by sacamento3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nunya thats what kills me she has a lot of close girlfriends she can confide in
2006-08-10 10:31:05 · update #1
It's kind of hard for me to answer this because i am not married, but i think that you should talk to your wife about it. "one thing" do not tell her that you saw her e-mails because she is going to say that you are a psychotic stocker who does not have any trust on her. "just to avoid the situation" Ask her what she wants to stop playing stupid games. because if she has a problem with you she needs to tell you not her ex-boyfriend.
If she does not want to stop talking to her ex-boyfriend may be you guys need to take some time off. I know that its going to hurt but maybe it will help you both in the long run! good luck......
2006-08-10 10:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Boris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married to her, he is not. Do you think she did this because she wants you to discover the emails. If so then I think printing the emails out and having a open heart conservation with her would be a first step. At that time set ground rules, if she can not follow them you might want to start seeking counseling. Sometimes it's a cry for attention, I know when I want to make my boyfriend Jealous I mention that an ex-boyfriend called me or sent me an email. Sometimes it's just a game, and yes I am ashamed of my behavior but it's the truth.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 10:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I've been happily married for 9 years and we have been together 11. We have 2 great boys and I'm telling you that if my husband found something like that, my bags would be outside waiting for me. I think if it'd been two years your probably safe from that guy but since she's done it once, it would just make me wonder what else she is up to . One last thing if you don't have trust in a marriage ,it's all over. sorry so cut and dry this would really bother me.
2006-08-10 10:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by aset 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is contacting him, then chances are she is going to either cheat or leave you(or both). Why would she ned to talk to HIM anyways? They broke up for a reason, she might still have feeling for him, which is normal, but wrong to act on them if she's married to you.
Let her know how much this hurts you. Why isn't she talking to you about these thing rather than her ex? If she refuses to break contact with him then leave. It will show her u mean business.
2006-08-10 10:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her and tell her you want to go to marriage counseling. (Assuming you still love her & want to remain married.). It's possible she doesn't have a lot of close girl friends and just needed someone to listen. Or maybe she is feeling bad about herself for some reason and wants to hear from someone who she feels like really wants her. You might try just giving her extra attention and be especially loving and see if things change.
Good luck!
2006-08-10 10:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. being honest here.. she never got over him and is still in love with him. She loves you too... but she sounds like she is bored and unhappy. He is over her and obviously has moved on.. but that don't stop men from wanting to get some.. you know that you are a guy! I would tell you to end it with her NOW , if you don't you are going to get hurt. Better yet, start actively looking for a girlfriend.. things might change if she thinks another girl wants you.. trust me on this one..
2006-08-10 10:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok the first thing is, why would she leave her email open???? Sounds to me like she wanted you to find it. Have you confronted her about the emails? If she doesnt care about this man she shouldnt be telling your private business. Are you sure she isnt just wanting to make you jealous?????
2006-08-10 10:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her. Obviously she doesn't have enough respect for you, and your marriage, to be honest. Not to mention the fact that she's telling all of this to an ex, which I find totally inappropriate. You are too good for her, and should move on.
2006-08-10 10:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if you are getting into her phone and her e-mail, you are basically asking for her to cheat on you. You are getting what you deserve. You need to mind your own business, what is going to happen will happen, quit driving yourself crazy over it.
2006-08-10 10:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋