Saying I Love You often: a do or don't (read details)?

Question

There's a saying that states that saying I Love You is a simple sign of affection within relationships that show people that you care. That a quick "I Love You" daily before work means a lot.

I think this is only partially true.

I think... saying it too often makes it lose meaning. Sometimes it's in the actions that people do, not those three little words that people give so much power to. It's a sweet sentiment, but... it makes people say it even when they don't mean it.

Saying it has almost made it become such a platitude... the statement that is said way too often. I believe these words have a whole lot more meaning if they're said when they need to be said, not just stated for the sake of being stated.

I Love You should subscribe to the theory: Less is More.

Sure, saying it makes people feel loved, but I think it's the little things that mean so much more than three words that people make such a big deal out of. (continued in additional detail)

I believe that holding the door for your lover, or simply bringing a cup of cocoa when they're ill, or even doing their laundry when they feel too fatigued to do it themselves-- those and so much more actions that we take for granted are much greater signs of affection than words that slip as more of a routine. When people say I Love You before they leave home, do they really have a lot of emotion in those words? A deep look into each other's eyes & consequently, their souls? Or is it a "Love You honey" while reading the paper? Perhaps I'm too much of a romantic for my own good, but I think... I don't know. I guess this is what I want you guys reading to answer.

Arguing semantics is never easy, n'est-ce pas?

Love to hear your responses.

Answer 1

I think you have a good point. We are one of those families that probably say it too much- like on the cell phone before we hang up- I think it comes from thinking, what if this is the last conversation we ever have, like if someone dies suddenly. The other person can always remember it was said, and meant. But, we definitely do the meaningful things as well. For example, my husband is a little put out with me today for using the debit card after I promised not to until payday, so telling him "I love you" would definitely make him puke. So, I will return something to the store that I bought last week that I didn't need, and do something else to express my appreciation for the fact that he handles the household finances so I won't have to.

Answer 2

There's an old saying that goes " Actions speak louder than words." This is very true in this matter.
I've never met a person that could prove to me that they loved me by there words, and a person who shows me through there actions has nothing to prove.
The world has warped the whole meaning of love, and it shows everytime you meet somebody. Everybody's quick to say it, but so few are willing to show it!
If people actually meant it, when they say it. The world would be a totally different place.

Answer 3

I married a man, divorced now, and he said it fairly often and to me it lost it's real meaning. I felt awkward when he said it, not knowing how to respond. If someone says it when they are hanging up on a phone conversation it appears to really mean "bye, see you later." It may as well. I really only wanted to hear it for very special occasions from him. When my grandmother was dying I told her I loved her. When my sister was dying I told her I loved her. Instead of an everyday phrase, it really is a special phrase and should be used to express your full emotions. Actions speak louder than words. Too many times words are just a bunch of hot air.

Answer 4

Welcome to the world of Guy-Think. This is how most me think of 'I love you', it's special and should only be said for very important things at very important times. I guy only want to say 'i love you' when he really means it, not just because she want to hear it said.

Answer 5

well, I have had the same live in boyfriend for 6 years now, and he has never said I LOVE YOU...but he must feel something cause we are still together.....but do i care....i really just don't know.

Answer 6

You already know what love is and know when your not getting it. Your very smart.