I just told my boyfriend that I’m pregnant he says he's not ready an to get abortion what should I do?

Answer 1

Please do not kill your baby . You will regret it later on .

Answer 2

If you do not want the baby and you do not believe in abortions then consider giving the baby up for adoption. Your boyfriend should have taken precautions to make sure you did not get pregnant. You never gave your age. If you are a teen...then talk with your parents and your doctor about your options. If you don't
want to have an abortion then don't have one and take boyfriend
to court for child support. Talk with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel about the pregnancy. Keep the lines of communication open. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would never get an abortion myself, it is your body and only you can make that decision, your boyfriend is not the one who will have to be pregnant for 9 months and give birth. You will probably be the one caring for the baby also because a lot of teenage fathers leave before the end of the pregnancy, even older men do it too. This is not his decision unless he is willing to marry you and take care of you and the child. Don't let anyone but you influence your decision, and no matter what happens start using protection. Good luck to you and your baby.

Answer 4

there are many options available to you, its up to you - is your pregnany confirmed. My x was a real snake I told he was pregnant and he drove me a nervous breakdown, tried to get me to have an abortion etc, I kept my baby - hes now a teen., I would suggest you pray about it because when you ask God into the equation things change and god can help you. In hindsight I should have asked him for money for an abortion, taken the money - and used it to buy a pram! As he never helped me out with anything. I had to take him to court for a paternity test - as he denied the fact that we'd had sex when I got pregnant, he told all his family that 'the dates were wrong', and that by the time the baby was due - that it would have been 11 months since the time we had sex. He also told me he was previously sterile due to mumps in childhood! He had paternity proven - and the nice court ordered the child supprt to be taken out of his wage, until he got himself out of work- he was NOT happy. He even changed his name by deed poll so the abiliffs couldnt trace him - but I knew where his sister lived, I had a surname and an area - and I found her int he phone book, and the court bailiffs served him there! Isn't ot 'odd' how these men and bioyfriends dont feel ready for a child, or that they can cope - but they can have unsafe sex and con you into it???? Tell you im a different woman now to the girl UI was then - hindsights a wonderful gift! You could tell him you accept the fact that he doesnt want to be a father, and just ask him to support you finacially thought your preganancy - and believe you me you're going to need it and moral support, he will probably want to visit once the baby is born too, you can aklways say I accept that yo have made the choice not to be a fahter - even though you didnt accept that choice when we had unprotected sex,and Ill pass your name onto the CSA, so you wont have to see me or baby! My x, we had a court date planned, and he turned around and asked me to cancel the court case as he accepted that our son was his, and he started paying maintance - for 3- 4 weeks then it stopped, so I had to go back to the solicitor to arrange another court date, to make sure paternity was proven, and to make sure he paid child support. He wasnt happy, but tough. You could also tell your boyfriend you are ready, have you any nice x's out there who want you back and would understand your situation, or are you bold enough to go it alone, one day you'll meet someone, and they'll be nicer than mr siemen shooter!

Answer 5

He was ready to have sex with you and neither one of you took the responsibility to prevent this from happening...abortion is killing your own child. Have the baby and give it up for adoption.

Get rid of this guy. He is a moron for suggesting abortion when he got you pregnant...he should have thought about before he had sex.

Get yourself on some birth control or stop having sex so this does not happen again.

Answer 6

Wow -- everyone seems to have an opinion about you even considering abortion, don't they? I'd suggest calling 1-800-772-9100 tomorrow morning. The counselors there have factual, unbiased information about your options and will support you whatever you choose to do.

Hang in there. The most important thing about this decision is that it has to be YOUR choice -- nobody else's.

Answer 7

Kick him in the nuts and run! Run fast! Sit down and talk to your mom & dad. The more help the better. If this guy isnt going to help you at least you will have people who care about you on your side.

Then, photocopy his face on 8x11 papers with the words "immature" and post them all around your town. Make sure to emphasize the words "potential baby killer" someplace on the flyer as well.

Teach the boy a lesson if hes not going to be a man and back you up.

Answer 8

Think about what YOU want.

You should go to something like planned parenthood, talk to your doctor, clergy, family, or anyone whose opinion you really trust. Then you need to think about what is best for you and your baby. Abortion is one of several options, including open and closed adoptions, keeping the child yourself, arranging for your parents/close relatives to help raise your child... there are endless possiblities.

Just don't be pushed into something you may regret because it's what your boyfriend wants.

Best of luck.

Answer 9

This is the hardest question anyone has to answer.
You're certainly going to get a lot of answers, and a lot of them will give conflicting advice.

Talk to someone older you can trust.
If you can, find someone who has brought up a child after having to make the same decision.

I admire your courage for asking this question here.
I really hope you can find someone good to talk this through with.
There will be people who can help: all you have to do is ask.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Raise it anyway.An abortion should be out of the question.
A good man will come into your life someday and will help you
or you could give it up for adoption
most women I've heard about giving abortions have strong emotional baggage and scars their whole life.....
But do away with the bf he is bad news and isnt wanting to love and commit to even something he gave life to.

Answer 11

You need to decide this one for yourself. Are you prepared to have this baby on your own without support from him? Do you want this baby? Would adoption be a possibility (there are lots of couples who would love to give your baby a good home if you are not able to).

Please, please, please, this is a major decision. Don't just do what your boyfriend wants unless it's what you truly want too. Don't rush into the abortion. That is one of those decisions where there is no changing your mind after you do it. Good luck!