he is emotionally and physically abusive, and six months pregnant, and his girlfriend sandra pazos knows it, i dont know if she instigates, i dont know what to do he dont live with me any more but he still show to the house,. can any of you help me or drop her a few words her email is sandrapazos@gentexcorp.com. the police took report but havent done anything yet. and this hoar and him are still together, but he keeps coming back, i cant control situation . i hate this woman and him it ruining my life and my little six year old is confused.
2006-08-10 10:10:52 · 21 answers · asked by Jackeline G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get an attorney today. Ask the attorney for a restraining order and a divorce petition. Please do it today. Your safety is important and so is the safety of the child inside you.
2006-08-10 10:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all this isn't about her, its about him. You are putting the blame in the wrong place and come on if he's abusive let her have him!! The only thing you should be dropping in her email is the best time to come and collect his things! He'll do it to her too! Yes you can control the situation and you MUST control the situation, you are a mother now, your JOB is providing a safe and good environment in which to raise your children!! You get a restraining order and he isn't allowed to come back. You call a domestic violence hotline and you talk to people who know your situation and you get help and support and strength from them. You look up the cycle of violence on the internet and you EDUCATE yourself, that will make you feel much more powerful! You can do this! Look up a hotline number in your area and CALL THEM NOW! They don't tell you what to do, they don't ask you to do anything you don't want to do, they listen and they give you option and help you. Let this guy go, he's doing nothing but damage to you and your children and you HAVE to do better, you are responsible for who they will be when they grow up and become member of society, that is a big important job and you don't have the option of feeling bad for yourself and blaming things on some woman who is simply taking what he is offering her! Good luck, you can do this and you will be soooooo much better off!
2006-08-10 10:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do let him back into your home??!!! Turn him away, or don't answer the door. You should not want to have anyhtimng more to do with him! Stop letting him come around your kids. If he is physically abusive thann it should be easy to get full custody with no visitation rights. Get a restraining order and stop giving a f**ck if he's with this other woman. They both sound like trash-They can have each other. You can move on with your life and contnue to raise you kids away from him. The only reason your kid is confused is because he goes away and then comes back. If he stays away, hopefull she'll forget about his sorry a**. Good luck and hang in there!
2006-08-10 10:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the report has been filed make sure you add everything in it.The physical and emotional abuse and not to mention the cheating.I hate that you have to go through this but she will reap what she sow he will to.Change the locks so he can't come and go as he pleases.As for the other woman let her be she will get every thing she deserves.You can control the situation,start be filing papers and full custody of your children.You may be down but your not out.Pick yourself up and take care of you and your kids,that's all that matters now..
2006-08-10 10:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is six months pregnant? And if you and him aren't together anymore than tell him to stop coming over. If he has another woman let them be together. You can hate her if you want but if he's abusive then why care who he is with? You don't want a man like that anyways unless you like being hit. You need to get a protective order against him if he's still hitting you. If you're pregnant and he hits you and leaves marks call the police. They will arrest him. Stand up to him girl and let him go.
2006-08-10 10:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by babegirll23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being pregnant, you don't need sany additional stress, you should leave him. I'm sure that there's someone out there that will love you as much as you love them. But, if that's too Dr. Phil for you, here's somemore advice: If you have any strong members in your family, you can call them and have your man taken care of. But, above all, just stay strong and remember, he has no right to do any of this stuff to you, you are a beautiful person and even though its hard, you have to be strong for you and your babys.
2006-08-10 10:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by newschoolchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am very sorry that you have had to go through this alone. I couldn't imagin. let alone pregnant and with a child. You need to find that person inside you that wants to protect her children and kick his a$$ to the curb. get a restraining order, take him for child support to help you through this and forget him. You can't be pissed at her because she isn't your husband. He is worthless and will get what is coming to him. you need to thinkabout your children and stay strong for them, don't even let him see them unless it is supervised. Do not let him in your house, not near it nothing!!!!!!!!!! You need to talk to someone and get something started right now. Protect yourslef and your children because you are all they have, and they are all you have. You ahould look in the phone book on some local places that will help you with your situation, but you need to contact someone very soon. If you have any ? or want to talk this is my email nelsonjolee@yahoo.com I will pray for you and your children. Good Luck sweetheart. God is with you.
2006-08-10 10:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jolee N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear J. Go to legal aide in your town and get a lawyer. File and order of protection agains't this bum. He wants his cake and to eat it too. Tell your lawyer what you want. If possible get a woman lawyer. Kick this bum out, change the locks. Make sure you tell your child that you love them very much. Yes, they will be confused but better to grow up in a loving home then to put them in the middle. After you file for divorce,don't talk with him about anything and no booty calls in the middle of the night. There are plenty of us guys out there who will love you and your son like there own. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-10 10:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL ! You put her email out there for everyone to see it. Good for you some women come and wreck a marriage and get away with it. I hope everyone emails that low life home wrecker and lets her know shes a cheap dirty whore.
Good going mom........they always come back....they see what they had at home was good but its too late. Dont let this man abuse you.......take your kids and leave. Make him pay for his mistakes.
2006-08-10 10:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks and get a good lawyer. Maybe a counselor too. You have to be strong for your son and it sounds like your a mess right now!
2006-08-10 10:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by flowergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋