How can I convince my dad to allow me to get my belly button pierced I have my mom's permission but my dad keeps saying no! What is a good way to explain to him that I should get it pierced?
2006-08-10 09:50:02 · 57 answers · asked by RiVvY_2012 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
i don't think there is a way dads are just hard to convince I just wanted till I was 18 so he wouldn't bug me about it as much.
2006-08-10 09:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by roxy10 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he's a good guy he probably has a good reason. It could be that he adores you and can't stand the idea that his little girl is growing up. It could be that he is afraid that guys will be looking at your belly button. No dad can handle that, he was a teenage boy once and knows exactly what they are thinking (and it's not always good and rarely in your best interest.)
Cut the guy some slack and give him a little time to adjust to you getting older. Maybe ask him again in 6 months.
Pitting mom and dad against each other is never a good idea.
2006-08-10 10:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Busybake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents didn't want me to get mine done so I waited til I was 18 and then went and got it done. You're doing better with one parent agreeing with you :-)
I guess the best argument for it is that its something you can take out if you get tired of it unlike a tattoo (although mine has been in for so long I doubt the hole would ever close up if I wanted it to) and its not going to be generally visible unless you're wearing a short shirt or a bikini or something.
If you have your ears pierced maybe reason with him that its not all that different from him letting you get your ears pierced, and that ear piercing is a lot more visible to other people. Maybe show him some really tasteful navel rings to show him you're not going to look like some skank with the piercing.
..thats about all I can think of to help. Good luck! (and please make sure if you get this piercing to get it done by a reputable place, you really don't want an infection!)
2006-08-10 09:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're close to 18, just wait it out and get it done then. If you need parental permission to get it done, just sit down with your dad and reason with him. If you can come up with any reasons for him other than "All my friends have it" and "It looks cool" then he will be more receptive to the idea (trust me, I had to justify getting my ears pierced to my dad - and he kept telling me that if I got my ears pierced that I had to get my nose pierced and wear a big bull-ring in it. LOL) I might suggest saying something like "it will help me feel more like an individual, or "I would like to express myself in a way different than just my clothes" or "If you let me get my belly button pierced, I'll wash your car every week for a year" Offering to do something nice for him will encourage him to do something nice for you. And don't forget to remind him that it's not permanent - you could be doing worse things like getting a tattoo!
2006-08-10 09:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm Julie, to convince your dad you will have to go up to him and say:
Dad you know like i asked you about getting my belly button pierced, well OK i wont get it pierced and i am sorry for bothering all the time, but can i at least get it pierce next year. if he Say's no well you will have to say:
I'm (your age) and it's my belly it wont heart any one, all my friends have got there belly button pierced.
If he continuoslly says no well say:
ok then , thanx so much dad...
after that go away and only talk to him when he need's you to do some thing, but dont be nice to him act as if you are in a mood with him and be normal with your mum give her kisses and hugs and smiles but dont give them to your dad just talk to him when he need's you and allways ask your mum for something, and get her to let your dad the things you want toa sk him. well good luck and i hope he lets you get you belly button pierced. and tell him that you won't ask for anything else in your life. even though you will.
2006-08-10 10:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by julie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if he's made up his mind, he's not going to change it. The only thing I can suggest is to try to talk to him. Ask him why he thinks it's a bad idea and why he doesn't want you to do it. Talk to him calmly and rationally, like an adult. Make your points and express them.
I just think that he probably doesn't want you to get it pierced because you'll start to show off your stomach more and he's just being protective. If there is no way around him, just wait until you're 18. Don't put your mom in the middle of this.
2006-08-10 10:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pumpkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I have mine done and it took a very long time to heal thoroughly and if you are under 16 I think that your parents both should say no way and you need to find something else to do. It is in a spot that is constantly being jarred and it's where you bend and when you sit your pants rub on it, even with low rider jeans and such. It just takes a lot of time to heal and needs to be left alone and kept very clean. I think that if you are a kid you will be prone to pulling, touching and spinning it and it will just get infected and become painfully sore and you'll have to take it out and it will leave an unsightly red blemish if it gets to that point. It could even get so infected that you need to have your naval surgically removed... I know someone that had to have that done.
2006-08-10 09:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by Amangela 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to wait until I was 18 and so should you. If the answer is no keep it that way, trying to "convince" him is just going to make him even more angry. ya know it really isnt that great to have it pierced, I have had the same ring in there for 3 years and anyway EVERYONE has it done now, even some of my guy friends.
2006-08-10 09:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most of the answers r good regarding this question. Don't ever do anything behind your parents back. That's a trust issue. I made my daughter wait till she was 17 and it was like pulling teeth out. She went on for 5 yrs. I finally let her do it and she is still the same sweet young lady i raised just more mature. I worried too much thinking she would be kicked off cheer and other sports she was in and all is well. Good luck!
2006-08-10 10:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a tatoo and it will come out, if needed. It is your freedom of expression here. He should understand that, and hey if it gets infected then you have to deal with it. I got my tongue pierced at 24 and my mom still freaks out about it.. I am 29 now. It never stops. Of course it does depend on how old you are. I say if you are 16 or older then go for it, if not wait a year or two and see what you think.
2006-08-10 09:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll9796 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it's not permanent, and that if you take it out....nobody will ever know it was there. Tell him that he should be glad that's what you're into, some kids are doing drugs, joining gangs, getting into fights, hurting people, and all you want it a tiny thinly hole in your belly button! hehe Really, it's true. Make him see that it's just more jewelry, there is no harm in it. My dad hates piercings sooo much. But he gets used to mine pretty fast...
Good luck!
2006-08-10 09:56:21 · answer #11 · answered by Scoot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋