i m married for 8 1/2 yrs happily..just tht never felt attracted towds husband.i recently met a guy on chat room and i feel very much attracted towds him...i can't think sm thing else ...am i cheating my husband..it has made me miserable i think I m falling or rather i hv fallen for this guy..wht should i do?
2006-08-10 09:21:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why start your question with a lie? Happily married people don't express sexual interest in others besides their spouse, much less start a flirtatious relationship with anybody. Yes you are cheating. Right now, it's just mental, and probably verbal. Cheating is when married people start a relationship that isn't STRICTLY platonic. You should either tell your husband you want a divorce, or quit chatting, meeting, or longing for ANY other man. Not soon- NOW. Not even ONE more message. No, you DON'T need to tell the guy you aren't going to talk anymore. Or get divorced. This kind of game kill marriages.
2006-08-10 09:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you found out your husband met a woman online?
Don't be fooled by how great online relationships can be. You have never met this person. it sounds like you are attracted to the idea of him and the risk that talking to him brings on. How involved do you get talking with this guy? How do you even know that he's not some 16 year old kid. I feel bad for you husband that you don't have the respect to talk to him.
If you love your husband. You need to figure out what your husband isn't giving you can talk to him. You have been married for over 8 years. That's a long time to just throw it out the window over some internet chat room just because a random guy on the computer has caught your attention.
2006-08-10 09:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by AB11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your position a few years ago, i actually went and met the guy. This guy doesn't even live close to me, I flew to meet him. I was ready to leave my husband, except my husband wouldn't let go, he tried and tried to make our marriage work. And at the time I thought that was the last thing I wanted, and i'm here to tell you now that it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am very happy that I gave my marriage another chance. Both me and my husband was changed, for the better. It's hard to say, every situation is different, but I can tell you from my position, the grass isn't always greener on the other side, it's just different grass. I hope this has helped. I know you feel like right now the computer and this guy is your life, but you really do have a life at home. Just think about it.
2006-08-10 10:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vicki H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is anything done in secret from your spouse. Anything that you hide, so yes, I'd say you are cheating on him, emotionally. Why do so many people get married who supposedly never felt love in the first place.
How can you love someone in a chat room, that is just crazy talk. That is like falling in love on vacation. Give me a break. This guy could be a serial killer for 13 years old for all you know. If you don't love your husband, leave him, but not because of some chatroom jerk, you really know nothing about.
2006-08-10 09:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET THIS GUY. I been in exactly the same situation.Sooner or later ur husband will find out.And u know what will happen - u'll hurt the person u r with for years for someone u don't know and u'll get hurt too; u'll realize that the chat guy means nothings for you;ur husband may forgive you but will never forget it; and at last - u will feel guilty for betrading the personu love and who loves u. If ur married and have a nice relationship - to hell with that guy..think twice before cutting once..Take care..I been there one year ago - my husband forgave me BUT -two days ago we argued -again-he can't get over it.
And, one more thing - don't even try to figure out what is that you feel for the chat guy - attraction or love - none of this - is just a new occupation u got and keeps u busy and interested....think about...and think how would you feel if your husband talks to someone on net...
2006-08-10 09:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you fairly suppose that it is a well notion? Not the factor approximately what you're doing for your husband, however going to allow a person you handiest talked to on-line, pay so that you can come meet him. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHO THIS MAN IS OTHER THAN WHAT HE'S TOLD YOU!!! And turns out to me he is telling you what you wish to right here and catering for your each and every demands. Now ask your self, what do you ought to do in go back. There's a cause folks say " If it is too well to be precise, it in most cases is" and "not anything on this global is unfastened". It's your lifestyles and your selection however you are taking an terrible danger simply to paintings overseas. How approximately running right here and saving your cash for the shuttle? Then you'll now not be indebted to any individual however your self. If he desires any cash for any cause, RED FLAG!! You're solving to be conned!!!
2016-08-21 00:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-09 10:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I have been in your situation, if you really love your husband and aren't willing to walk right out the door today with none of your belongings or anything then you must stop chatting online. You can't expect to be able to talk to a guy and not have feelings so if you want your husband's love you must prove that you are worth loving and stop chatting at all. Best wishes
2006-08-10 09:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 03:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by dunkelberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet chatrooms are always a bit risky. You never REALLY know the person properly. You and your husband have been together for a long time but if there is no attraction than there really isn't a point of staying together. Talk to you husband about your problem. Maybe you just need to spice things up a bit but i don't know...
2006-08-10 09:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋