I've come out My Parents My Friends and My Brother... but i havent come out to my cousins aunts or uncles.... but the thing is tho that i have a Christan cousin and im scared to tell her the most b/c i love takeing care of her kids n if i tell her im scared that she wont let me take care of her kids or even wanna be around me. Can u help me get out of the closet half way.......Im Bisexual. thankx! it would really help me!
2006-08-10 09:14:20 · 11 answers · asked by Cami 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Now that so much of your family knows, maybe she'll find out anyway. She'd be even more upset with you for lying. And if she doesn't want a gay or bi person caring for her kids, I think she's wrong, but it is her choice to make, not yours. You should probably tell her before somebody Else does.
2006-08-10 09:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What reason would your Chrisitan cousin have to stop you caring for her kids. Could it be that she would be afraid that you'd do anything lesbian with them? Would only Christian mothers be afraid of that, or any mother? Could it be that she doesn't want you around not because you would do something to the kids, but because you do things that are sins according to her?
And even if she thinks that you sin. Is there anyone who doesn't sin according to her? Ask what's in the scriputers about throwing the first stone. Ask what's in the scriptures about being the salt of the earth: should Christians avoid meeting non-Christians that sin? Should all the salt be together in one lump in the bread or should it be evenly distributed, so that a lot of people (for instance gay people) would met Christians. Ask her what Jesus did when he met Maria Magdalena. Did he say: you're a whore, you're a sinner, I don't want to see you anymore. Or did he try to communicate with her. Did he try to understand her feelings and understand that it is also difficult for her.
I'm also gay. And I had also trouble telling othe people about my feelings. Especially at work. I thought it would influence my career. The problem for me in answering your question is that I'm Dutch, and probably Europeans have a different attitude towards people being gay. I noticed when I acted like it is normal being gay, some people are, and some aren't, the other people usually don't dare to mock it, or abject it, being afraid that they are the only one in the group. Everyone being modern and accepting the difference between people and only one being old fashioned rejecting homosecuality - you wouldn't dare to be that one.
Maybe in the US people would react differently, but I suggest: act as if it is normal. Don't even tell, you don't tell things that are normal, do you. Álso don't hide it. If it comes along in conversation, act as if it's so normal, that you didn't think about telling her. After all, no one informs the family that they are heterosexual. If homosexuality is no big deal, why telling her. It's like saying: be careful, I've got something you've got to know.
I've noticed that if I acted as if it was normal, 'that until now, no one ever dared to question it.
2006-08-10 09:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by leatherbiker040 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you are scared your other family members might freak out when they find out you're bi. If they try to take the kids away from you (as family) then it's from uneducation and there loss, so try to explain what being bisexual means. There is a good site on the Human Rights Campaign on coming out as bisexual, I'll link it. Just be truthful. You are the same person you were before they knew you were bi. It will be ok.
http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out_as_Bi/Coming_Out_as_Bisexual.htm
2006-08-10 10:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your immediate family knows,you would think your mother would have shared this with others.If not why is it important to have to tell "everyone".I dont want to here about MY straight friends or families sex life.Do we Have to let the whole world know just because we love the same sex.If they ask then tell them and after that ask if your aunt likes to bl*w her husband or how long is is d**k.that will put her in her place.If she doesn't want you around her kids then shes proven shes not an accepting christian .Good Luck ,Sweetie.
2006-08-10 10:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by mustang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea i think of your probability is distinctly intense. whether you attempt to stay away you nonetheless in all probability gets it because you reside contained in a similar ecosystem/ place as they do and your around them greater. whether you do circulate someplace else, you will finally end up coming back. until eventually you may stay someplace else for the finished time, you will in all probability get it.
2016-09-29 03:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by dunkelberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE USE CHILDREN AS A WAY OF HURTING US
my sister and brtohers did that to me i have family i am never aloud to talk to and they are all children
stupid jehovahs wittnesses
2006-08-13 14:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by crazzykid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are a "true" Christian, they will be accepting. if they are a "fake" Christian, who uses the Bible to justify their bigotry, then maybe not.
also Redcatt63 is an impersonator and has been reported!
everyone who knows me here knows that I'm lesbian, and not a foul-mouthed homophobe!
2006-08-10 10:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it on your Mom's or Dad's side of the family? Consult that person and the procede.
2006-08-10 09:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irony,, usually they fully believe its a sin until one of there family members are gay. How funny,,, I'm sure she will struggle with her self if she turns her back on you.... good luck
2006-08-10 09:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of their fuc**ng business.
2006-08-13 08:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋