I am in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the last month. For the greater part, we get along great, but we do have our couple squabbles. But last night, we had one of those squabbles. Well, It all boils down to initiating sex. Whenever he initiates it, sure im all for it, but i have not found one time within the last couple months of dating where he has said yes when i initiated. So, i give up. Then he gets mad at me when i dont say anything. I told him, its behaviorial training, you teach people how to treat you, the more you tell them no you learn just not to do that action. There are nights i want him so bad, and i want to make a move on him..but im hesitant because, he always says no, but comes onto me later. When we do have sex, its awesome no complaints about that. (but an fyi, in the past i have not had trouble initiating, ive not had anybody say no as much as he does)
any advice?
2006-08-10 09:04:17 · 4 answers · asked by magickitty0621 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep trying if u luv him and discuss it w/him again.. let him know that if he doesn't respond to ur inititations then u won't respond to his..
it's childish buy hey what else can u do..
oh i know, when u initiate and he doesn't respond pull out a dildo and get busy and don't let him join in and see how he likes that.. u don't need him to satisfy u..
2006-08-10 09:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is it possible that he somehow needs to feel that he is in control of the situation? It seems that he wants to be controlling if you initiate, and then he turns you down, only to get interested later.
He may also need some more "warm up" time. He already knows that you are interested, so by the time he's in the mood, he assumes that you still are, since that's been the status quo. Ask him what would get him in the mood. Maybe whatever you're doing specifically to "initiate" is actually a turn-off for him?
Also, be sure to tell him how much this is bothering you. If he cares about you, he should want to do something to change his behavior.
2006-08-10 16:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like he wants to be in control and be the one to initiate things. Talk to him about it and find out exactly what the problem is.
2006-08-10 16:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when u get in the mood take what u want and talk about it later! or let him go to sleep and work on him in his sleep he will come around to your wants and needs.
2006-08-10 16:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋