Why I'm I jealous of my ex husband new Girlfriend??

Question

O.k me and my ex husband have not been together for almost two yrs...I left him because i found out he was cheating on me when I was 3 months pregnant..I know i'm always gonna have feelings for him and all because we do have 2 kids together and we were together since i was 14 yr...But now that he has a new Girlfriend and they will be moving in together this month I feel so Jealous...I don't want him back or anything because we are better off not together..We do talk about 4 times a week and sometimes when he calls me it's to tell me how bad things are going with his girlfriend..I don't hate her because she had nothing to do with my marriage problems But i really don't want to hear about them two being together or what there plans are....I two have someone else and as much as I try not to be Jealous of my Ex husband new girlfriend I can't help my self...Please help!!!!!

Answer 1

Us women are territorial... he was yours at one time.. and now he's not.. he did something that was devasting to you, during a delicate time in your life.. and your never going to forget it.. Think put yourself in your new man's shoes.. how would you feel if he had these same feelings toward his ex-wife's new man.. and you didnt know bout it.. PUT more energy into what you have now.. YOUR NEW MAN.. and your children.. Be happy that your new man treats you right.. smile and laugh with him and let your ex be your ex.. tell him you have your own issues in your relationship to deal with and that you guys share children together and want it to stay like that.. You have to move on.. Your better than this!!! and your ex's new gf, look what he has to deal with.. be happy you dont, and that your happy in your new relationship.. She may not know that he talks to you bout her.. That should put you on top! DONT BE JEALOUS!!! its weakness and not necessary!! YOUR BETTER!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all you need to tell him that you don't want to hear about his problems, then just don't listen, if he starts with that put down the phone and walk away for a minute then go back and say are you done yet? I told you I didn't want to hear it. You are jealous because you still talk to him 4 times a week, thats ridiculous and not neccessary for any reason, no wonder you still have feelings about this guy he's still part of your life! I have great friends I don't speak to that often! Don't think it will continue that way once the gf moves in either, I wouldn't put up with my bf talking to his ex 4 times a week and she won't put up with it either, but that will be the best thing for you. You aren't moving on because this guy is still too big a part of your life. You don't 'always' have feelings for guys just because they are the father of your children, your children are separate people and if your theory was true women would have 'feelings' for sperm donors! One doesn't actually have anything to do with the other, that is just the excuse you tell yourself for not moving on. This needs to be put in the past where it belongs, all you are getting now is stuck in the past and hurt. It really isn't that way once its really all put away. I have both kids and ex husbands so I know this well!

Answer 4

Is some kind of a possesive feeling towards him/ull being together for sooo long that more than love u feel he is yours even though ur not living together...the fact that u guys talk that much dnt help either...and that jealousy is more like and selfish feeling on your part due to the fact that u still love him, and dnt want him doing for someone else what he has done for u...

So you are both encouraging for a sick relationship...but his motive of contacting you could be different than yours...
u care about him even though u think u are better off separate, but he might being playing both of u girls...u know maybe is
b.s. his having all this troubles with his newgf...just too keep u around or like on hold...for sex or support whatever....but if is
true that his having all this problems with her, let him fix those
with her...not with you...YOU DNT NEED THAT...

In anyevent you have to stop the communication, and tell him that this is not good for either one of you...what he is doing is wrong...by any point of view.

If ur still having sex with him girl ur in, for a bigger desilusion when u find out she is pregnant with his baby...trust me, this is not a game u should play...u still have feelings for him...

LET GO AND LET BE....and let him be alone with her,
for your own sake and in the best of cases; giving him time and space will make him see that (she) the newgirlfriend is not the one...but by being the listner youll be helping that relationship to continue...and he wont see the amount of incompabilities..

Answer 5

This is a really good question. It's just a natural reaction especially when you two have kids. Is it cuz your kids are going to be with this lady? Do you think that she is going to replace you with your kids? You got to find out why and then solve it. I'm sure it will go away but I would be glad he has moved on. Do you want him to be lonely with no one the rest of his life? Don't worry once a cheater always a cheater and I bet she will find out in a couple of months. Then everything will be back to normal. Good Luck I hope this helped.

Answer 6

I think it's because you once loved him, and he you, the thought of him loving someone else is what is bothering you. I think you should tell him that you only want to talk to him about your kids, and to leave the details of his relationship out of your conversations. Here is some thing that you didn't ask for, but being how you 2 share children together anyone he gets involved with is going to be involved with your children as well, so make sure that he makes good choices of the women he has around your children, as well as you doing the same.

Answer 7

because she is living the life you were supposed to. it should be you and your kids hes with not her. therefore the jealousy, however he did cheat on you so its not worth it. judging by your avatar you are really hot, you should be happy that you got 2 kids out the deal. and tell him to stop calling you unless its for the kids, he is just rubbing it in your nose that you are no longer 2gether, just give it a try for a week or two and then look at how everythig has changed, but above all keep your head up and live. lifes too short too have sorrow you may be here 2day and gone 2morrow, so dont wait to live life cause it wont wait for you!!!!!!! msg me if you want to tlk(platonically of course)

Answer 8

You ARE involved with this guy. You probably shouldn't be, but you are. Make up your mind. Move on, or try to get back together. Certainly you're jealous, you still consider him "yours" You talk 4 times a week. Or more. As for your new boyfriend, break up. You aren't being fair to him to "settle" for him, while you still are hung up on your ex.

Answer 9

i think ur just jealous because u were hoping u would be the one rubbing your new relationship in his face and now he is with his new gf, i think its normal to feel this way especially considering the circumstances but u two still talk and he tells u their problems, that is just a strage relationship, i think its good to be talking when it comes to the kids, and thats it, not 4 times a week and about his relationship problems its just wrong so u might want to consider not talking to him that offten and make it only about the childreen, i mean he did cheat on u while u were having his child

Answer 10

You have to be satisfied and content with where your at in life...Its normal and understandable to feel the way you do because it was always your intent to share every special moment with him...but knowing someone else is living that life can be disturbing...just focus on what you have and not what you don't...you made the right decision...this is what is best for you...your not missing out on what you imagine you are.