My fiancé loves Eminem.?

Question

My fiancé loves Eminem, she loves listening to his negative music all the time. She likes him sexually and openly tells me she would love to f*** him. Even though she admits she would never have a chance and know she wouldn’t it, it still makes me feel uncomfortable. I’m vulnerable about it. What could I do or tell her to make her stop without making her think I’m being vulnerable. Also is it normal for me to feel this way?

Answer 1

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I feel the same way she does but the difference is that I'm not married or going to be married any time soon,
Even if i was married or engaged I wouldn't totally give up on Eminem, you know, id still like him but I'd have to be a real b*** (no offence) to tell my fiance or husband that i wanna f*** Eminem, thats just wrong
It sounds like shes telling you that you're only second best and if shes going to say that i don't think she deserves you.
If my fiance or whatever told me that about some celebrity or other person I'd first ask them why they were with me if they're so in love with this other person then if they didn't shut up about it I'd flat out dump them
If shes so in love with Eminem and would rather him than you why bother getting married?
I guess the only positive thing this could mean is she feels your relationship is strong enough that she can tell you these things but if you think this might be the case just kindly tell her you dont like hearing those comments from her and would rather if she kept them to herself
Its only natural for you to feel this way

Answer 2

It's absolutely normal for you to be upset by her saying these things. Personally, I like a lot of Eminem's music even though some of it is negative because sometimes when I'm upset I can relate to it. Sometimes it helps me get my frustrations out. While it is okay for her to find someone else attractive, she should NEVER talk about acting on it - even if she knows she couldn't/wouldn't do it. If she truly cares about you, she shouldn't even think about being intimate with another person - even if he is a celebrity, he's still a person.

Try explaining to her how you feel. I doubt she will think that is a vulnerability, it's just honesty. Let her know that you understand that she is attracted to him and that's fine, but that she should not flaunt it to you because it makes you uncomfortable. Try to do this in a calm manner without 'accusing' her. Use "I" statements like "I feel uncomfortable when you say that you are sexually attracted to someone else, even though he is a celebrity."

It's normal and natural for you to feel this way. She probably doesn't realize that it makes you feel this way. If she knew that and if she cares, then she wouldn't do it. So it's just a matter of you letting her know how it makes you feel.

Answer 3

I think that a lot of people have obsessions about actors. I would love to be with Vin Diesel! But I can't and I won't so it makes it o.k. To maybe get her to realize, you should turn the tables around. This way you are not looking vulnerable but she can see how it feels being on the other end and maybe cut back on some of the obsession. I don't know, maybe start to really like Angelina Jolee, she's hot! If this doesn't work than just tell her that it gets on your nerves and either deal with it or dump her if she won't change. You shouldn't be in a relationship that you are uncomfortable.

Answer 4

Very normal that you feel how you do. I don't think you should have trust in your fiance 100%. Also she should have enough class not to say things like that to a man she is about to marry. Tell her straight up nicely that you do not appreciate those comments and save them for her friends. I personally feel the same way about Eminem I guess like your fiance does but my boyfriend doesn't have a clue. He just knows that I like his music. But to my girlfriends they know everything else. Good Luck, she sounds like she needs a little training in the relationship etiquette.

Answer 5

well its normal to feel this way - the chances of her ******* Eminem are very slim and even if she does come across Eminem he already has a daughter and was divorced twice and married and the same lady. I dont think he's gonna make another relationship. - He left his music for a bit and he;s in rehab. He pobably leanred a thinng or two there

Answer 6

first of all.. it is totally normal for u to feel this way! if my bf was telling me how he fantasize about so-and-so singer/actress. i will sure have a big issue with that! second, what ur fiance is doing is very disrespectful and rude! u should seriously tell her to stop because eventually u will get fed up and blow up in her face! sit down with her and tell her how u feel about the situation and how uncomfortable u feel everytime she talks about him that way! if she really loves u then she will respect ur feeling and stop doing whatever she's doing to hurt u in any way! best wishes and good luck!

Answer 7

tell her i love u 2 the botem of my heart but we cant get married if the l;ove is the same and im all the waynthere but ur falling behind cuz u would **** enimen but then would u **** me if he was right there and asked u 2 marry hima nd so did i who would u pick cuz if u would pick him this marrige isnt worth it and u have never loved me take this edvice and mark mine as best edvice plz

Answer 8

Take her to one of his concerts! Then maybe she will see how far fetched her lust for him is. And don't feel bad about it. None of us normal people get to hang with the stars, let alone do what she wants to do. Let her keep dreaming.........

Answer 9

Yeah I doubt she would get a backstage pass to F*** eminem

Answer 10

she probably knows that it gets to you and she like's poking at you... I wouldnt worry about... come up with your own hot star to talk about, and maybe she will get the message, and stop saying that..