he lied to me 3 times we agreed to not see other people but when i got home from work he was having sex she was sucking his dick and i asked him what was he doing and he tried to lie and the next morning he wasn't there he was gone his stuff weren't in the drawer i ask my self where the hell did he go and i called him on his cellphone and i said i forgive him for cheating on me i'll give him as much chances as he wants cause i love hime as much as possible and i was cying while i said that to he said he love me and that night i could not sleep i finally close my eyes and have a dream that he was having sex with a nother girl i woke up and said what the hell
2006-08-10 08:37:45 · 23 answers · asked by Mz.SouljaGurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
F&ck me once your problem, f&ck me a second time my problem.
Second chances in a situation like this only prolongs your agony. Find a lawyer and divorce the man before you wind up catching something he caught from someone else.
2006-08-10 08:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater". If you caught your husband cheating on you and is still denying that he's cheating, there's no help for him. If he is willing to admit that he did something wrong, you two can get marriage counseling and make it work. Once that trust is broken, it takes a lot of work to get it back and even once you get the trust back, it's never going to be there 100% again. As far as you having dreams about him having sex with another girl, that's normal. My husband cheated on me and I had nightmares about it for months. The only way to help with that is to realize that it's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong and you don't deserve to be cheated like this. Sometimes, if you love someone enough, you have to let them go and this is very true in cheating spouses. If you leave him in a "trial seperation", he'll realize that he loves you and what he's doing is tearing you two apart. If he loves you like he says he does, he'll stop cheating and come back, wanting to work everything out. At that point, get counseling.
*I hope this helps!*
2006-08-10 08:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continually forgive this jerk off, he will continue to cheat. Have you ever heard the term "if he does it once he'll do it more" And whoever it was that said to give him more sex-- go to hell. Don't give him any more of you than you can stand- you'll end up getting a disease from him. I think you are a strong, confident girl--you can do this and you will be glad you did. Get on with your life and be much happier, you'll wonder why you ever stayed at all. Dump him--But beat the **** out of him first!!
2006-08-10 08:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by pink30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time he did this was his fault. The second is time he did this it's your fault. He only does this to you because he knows that you will not take a strong stand. If this is a daily occurence then you need to take a stand. He has and is disrespecting you. How can you allow yourself to be hurt like this? I know that you love him but if he really cared about you then he would not disrespect you. He would treat you with honor and respect. Be encouraged and you can and will make it without him if you choose to take that route. Find someone who will love, honor, protect and respect you if he continues to hurt you. Be encouraged.
2006-08-10 08:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by stockqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not love and respect yourself enough to realize that you are worthy of someone who is going to treat you right. Extricate yourself from him and move on. Sweetie all he's done is disrespect you. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You shouldn't let any man treat you like that.
2006-08-10 08:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just leave him. Is he really worth all your tears and the fact that you are willing to put up with him cheating on you is very sad. You need to grow up and move on. Yeah he told you he loves you but do his actions coincide with his words? Doesnt sound like it.
2006-08-10 08:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 quick questions? Did you have to be so graphic and What are you still doing with him? Damn, if i were you i'd dump his *** and move on. Look, you have to realize that he did it once, and he will do it again. Divorce him and find a more faithful guy, or at least one who won't cheat on you.
2006-08-10 08:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, I am so sorry. I wish I could help. What a horrible man,not even a man. You need to get a divorce. What is it about him that you love so much? It looks like he doesn't care about how much your hurting. He doesn't think about how much pain that can cause you. Ask yourself why you married that man. Why is he doing this to you?Someone who cares about someone won't hurt them this bad.
2006-08-10 08:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that this has happened to you.
I know that you don;t wanna hear this but perhaps is time to recuperate your dignity and move on.
I know that this hurts, but unless he is willing to work things out, is best for you to look into being independent again.
You deserve to be happy yoo. Good luck
2006-08-10 08:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you out of your mind?¿ he might be your husband but he's obviously no good for you...he doesn't sound like the type who just made a mistake and it's not gonna happen again...u deserve better than that...stand up for yourself...he didn't deserve to be forgiven that easily
2006-08-10 08:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋