we were so much in love,at least i thought we were.then all of a sudden he says he cant stay in contact with me coz he does'nt wanna hurt me,he wont say why this has happened but he said he still loves me.he said he's going through some rough times and does'nt want to drag me down with him.i emailed him a few times asking why but had no reply.so i deleted his address and numbers and thought move on he's not worth it but its driving me mad as i still love him.how can i get him out of my head?
2006-08-10 08:12:03 · 48 answers · asked by emma h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's got another person in his life...move on.
2006-08-10 08:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by m27jean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to respect his decision... and in my opinion, he would not say he loved u if he didn't mean it. if he didn't, he could just say "i can't see u anymore, it's not working. see u later". that's mean, but sufficient. for some reason, he is going thru rough times. if he doesn't let u in, the only thing u can do is let him know you are There for him. no matter what. and when he's ready, please keep u in mind when he needs someone to talk to.
my definition of love is that u want the Best for that person. even if it is bad for you, their happiness is more important than yours. so if we put this rule into effect w/ ur boyfriend, he loves u SO much that he is doing what he feels is Best for you, which is not to drag you down with him. that is seriously an Awesome thing.. even tho u can't see it right now. don't give up on him, but know that u may have to start looking for something new. not because u don't love eachother, but because there are other factors involved. u can't control what others do, but u can control what u do. therefore, my advice to u would be to let him know u are there for him, and that he can come to you when he needs. then let him go too, to pursue what he needs to do. if u are one of them, he will come back to you. don't let this Hurt u so much, don't take it too Personally. because u love him, let him go.... and work on urself, work on ur confidence as a wonderful woman, BE ready for someone who is a wonderful guy. that way, even if u meet a new guy, u will not have any hard feelings for this guy from ur past...and u will not have let this change u into a negative person... let this help u become better, and u will see that his love of letting u go was something that was best for both of u.
2006-08-10 08:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a good bloke you had/have. He obviously is going through a tough time. It would help if you could find out what it is and if you think you can handle it, tell him a problem shared is a problem halved. Go and find him. If you find him with another girl, don't be angry, it might have been just that one off. Talk to him, make him tell you what the problem is. Tell him he owes it to you considering how happy you were together. You never know, it might be something so simple to sort out but to him it is a big thing.
Don't give up on him until you know the full story. don't forget what I said. If you find him with another girl, don't go mad, as it might be the one off.
Good luck
2006-08-10 08:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when a guy says to stay away do what he says. trying to contact him will only make him feel sufficated and like your are pushing him when it sounds like he needs time at the moment. try to forget about him, do what guys do and distract yourself! hang with friends, be active, and if he still cares about you he will be the one to contact you eventually and he will be greatful of your understanding. when a girl moves on or atleast appears to, they always seem more attractive to the guy so if he's right for you the best is to atleast seem like you moved on. if he doesnt contact you again it may be for the best. he probably doesnt want to tell you the truth because he thinks it may hurt you but in all honesty, not telling you is just sending mixed signals and giving you false hope. so really the best you can do is just distract yourself at the moment and if its meant to be, it will happen. who knows maybe he just needs some time at the moment, let him have it. good luck over there :) hope everything works out
2006-08-10 08:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him out of your head. I've been through a few break ups where I've severely missed the girl afterwards, and the only thing I've found helps is going out and having fun, doing whatever you like doing. I wouldn't try and rush into anything else, but just take anything else as it comes. And try not to worry about why he did what he did, you'll probably never know- most guys won't do that to you though!
2006-08-10 08:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by lambypie_uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deleting his numbers and address is a great start to getting over him...I've still got numbers on my fone from last year of guys i'll never texted again!
He obviously cares for you as he let you down gently.
It will take time...go on a girly night out and flirt with all the men! Even get a few numbers!
Think to yourself what is so special about him? surely there's someone out there with the same or even better qualities than what he had, and someone who will treat you better!
Things will get better, try to keep yourself busy so your not thinking about him. He's not worth it, but always follow your heart!
;-)
2006-08-10 08:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two were so much in love like you said then you may never forget about him altogether but in time you will get over him. Just let the healing process begin and after a while when you move on you no longer have him stuck in your head day and night.
Time heals everything
2006-08-10 08:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by sha scrilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation this past year. I just moved on. Eventually it came to his senses that it was a big mistake he made and he started talking more, and we started from scratch. Although we couldn't erase what had happened in our past, we just look forward to tomorrow and take everything as it comes. If in your situation you don't get back together with him. It's life, it goes on. You have to realize that he doesn't feel the same. I'm sure that everyone has had a heart break in their life, and they found someone else who cared about them more than the last guy. I'm happy that you had already started the progress of moving on, now just keep it up... and good luck!!
~*Kelsey
2006-08-10 08:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing exactly what's going on can drive you crazy. You have tried to contact him and he refuses to answer you....therefore, it sounds like your relationship is done. You can't make him do what he doesn't want to do. Perhaps you need to get out and meet someone else for a friend for now and that might help you get him out of his head. Also, give your ex bf time, he might just get back in touch with you but I would demand an explanation.
2006-08-10 08:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching Days of our Lives and get into real life. Soaps are for old grandma ladies like me. Seriously it is time to move on. I guess Mr Right wasn't Mr Right Then. Maybe he will be Mr Next One.
2006-08-10 08:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The least you deserve is an explanation why he cant be with you anymore. It's very cruel what he is doing, you need to know what his reasons are to help you deal with it. I'm sorry, it's very tough on you. Maybe he genuinely feels you would be better off not knowing, but I think it's always better to know these things than be left wondering and bewildered. Not knowing is the hardest thing.
2006-08-10 08:18:03 · answer #11 · answered by Jay J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋