My mom is always on my case for not going to college, but I think that if I like my job enough to continue where I'm at and I'm happy, does it really matter that I didn't go to college? What if I'm getting paid alot, live on my own...does it really matter? I feel under pressure to live up to what she never got to do because she had me when she was 18 years old (she says she regrets not being able to live her life) I'm now 20 with NO children (possibly in the near future though)....I"M OK WITH THAT! I love my life right now....except for my finances....which I'm working on, I'm working on em.....But, either way....she says I should travel and see the world and live my life....What if I'm content just having a regular full time job and having a baby with my fiance and just being happy? She never wanted to have children....I have ALWAYS wanted to....she just happened to have one when she was 18....luckily I'm over that ago and still happy with how everything is going....is that ok?
2006-08-10 08:11:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I guess from what you wrote, what does college have to do with anything? If you want a better job, chances are you can do that through net working... Get married, have your baby, and be happy. I think youre a bit young, but I had my son at 21 and my daughter at 23, and I wouldn't change that. Now they are old enough and I have a good job now, (by the way,no degree...) to travel and go out to nice places and do wonderful things. Get to know alot of people, and you can always get a better job, thats just how it works. Good luck
2006-08-10 08:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents want you to have a better life than they did. So she's just trying to open you up to new experiences. Maybe you should travel the world and see what's out there, before it's too late. Then again, maybe you shouldn't, if that's something that you're not interested in. She's just telling you things that she wished she'd done at your age. You have your entire life ahead of you. Enjoy it.
As far as college goes, think of this. What happens if you lose your job, or the company shuts down. Very few places pay decent money unless you have a college education. Some places won't even hire you without a degree. Also, what about advancement? With most companies you can't advance to better jobs, because the position requires a degree or education in a specific area (like engineering). And what about retirement? You're only 20, but do you think you'll be at that job for the next 40 years. If not, where will you go without a college degree?
One other thing you miss, is the college experience. You have some of the best times of your life in college. You can also meet some of the best friends you've ever had or possibly even a husband or wife. The sky's the limit.
It's just something to think about. Oh and remember, now you're living for you. But if you have children, you'll be living for them and their future. You always want to give your children a better life than what you had. At that point, it won't matter what you want, but what they want and need.
2006-08-10 08:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by freetronics 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While we always want what is best for our children, we cannot always expect them to do what we want them to do, or experience the things we missed out on. At 20, you are an adult and you can do as you wish. Your mom had her chance - our life is what we make of it. No offense, but if your mom didn't want children, she should have been more careful. However, hindsight is 20/20 and I am sure she would much rather have you than travel anywhere in the world. That being said, just know that while you are happy now, should something happen in the future with your job, know that it is harder without further education but certainly not necessary! If and when you feel you are ready for children, then it doesn't matter your age, just know that you are then 100% responsible for the life of another person. If you are happy with your life, then it is OKAY!!! Continue being happy, live and love! ~xoxo
2006-08-10 08:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always live your life the way YOU want to. As long as you are happy and secure with your life don't let anyone get you down. I can however say that if you don't go to school and things start to fall apart in your life then it will be much harder. I am a 24yr old single mom that didn't go to school and wish I did. If for any reason you can't work and you need to find another job you will get paid so much more and can live more comfortably. But ultimately the decision is yours!
2006-08-10 08:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by lattye2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 07:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greatest thing about living in America is that we are blessed with the freedom to choose our own path and then follow it. If, after we have started our own path, discover it is not working like we thought it would, then we can change our path.
Love and honor your mom, she is after all, your mom. But follow your dreams. You will not regret following your dreams. You may learn some very hard learned lessons, but you will not regret following your dreams. Good luck to you, and may God richly bless you as you go on your own way.
2006-08-10 08:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is looking toward your future. The job you like now may now be enough to support a family later, and once you start down that road it is hard to make up school.
2006-08-10 08:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by ceprn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It okay to do your own thing a make your own way through life. College isn't for everyone, many millionaires never spend a day in college. Live your own life, parents may dissagree with it but it's your life.
2006-08-10 08:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're happy, then it's OK. She feels like she missed out on something and wants you to have what she missed out on, which is admirable for a mom to want that for her kid. But what she doesn't realize is, you don't feel you missed out on anything; you have what you want and want what you have. And that is great!
2006-08-10 08:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everthings ok as long as your happy
live your own dream and not your mothers
it seems that everythings going well for u and u have everything planned out
so dont worry
2006-08-10 08:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by nicaraguabeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋