Me and my bf have been together for almost 4 years. We always use protection but this time it ripped and we didnt know it. So we dont know how long it was like that. Im pretty sure Im pregnant and he already has a son and I dont know how to tell him. We can support it but I dont know
2006-08-10 08:06:29 · 11 answers · asked by uhh huh♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Were both pretty young though..
hes 18 and im 16
2006-08-10 08:13:45 · update #1
I just took a test and I am
Also Im keeping it
It was like 2 weeks ago
2006-08-10 08:17:06 · update #2
you just got to be honest. DAMN how old is his other kid if he is 18 and ya'll been together 4 years? If you want to keep the baby, fine honey, but promise me something...do not depend on this young man. If he is there, then he is there. Enforce that fact that he needs to be financially and emotionally responsible, but if he is not please do be a stupid girl and chase him through these streets trying to make your relationship "work".
If he does not want to be there, let him go, it will hurt but after a while becomes easier for you. 16 is kinfd of young but there is a lot of help out there for you. Stay your lil *** in school and even go to college. it will never be easy, honey you just threw easy out the window.
But nobody ever said life was a simple thing. We all have our challenges and strife, but it is how you hold your head.
I hope that your parents are as loving and end up being understanding. See I had my daughter at the age of 18. At first my mother HATED me, I even moved out with the so called father. But after the birth of my beautiful now four year old daughter, it became painfully obvious this "man" was still a boy and no where near ready for a child.
I tried to "tie" him to his responsibility, but it ended up causing me a lot of heartbreak.
keep your head up little mama. Hit me over email if you need a friend sometime.
2006-08-10 09:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not said when it was. If it was within 72 hours then you can get a pill so that you are not pregnant but I would have the baby, its up to you yourself. If it was weeks ago and have missed a period then you most likely are. Do a test the day you are due on or if you are late do one asap. Good luck and do what you think is right.
2006-08-10 15:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 18 and you are 16. Brillant. I don't care if you have been together for four years he will end up in jail for statutory rape. Likely people like myself and others that work for a living are going to wind up raising your kid because a 16 year old won't be able to make enough money to raise herself and a kid.
He's 18 and is bonking a 16 year old; AND he has a kid with another woman. Lock is a$$ up and let him be the biatch for a while.
Just Effen wonderful that workers of the country will be raising another "mistake".
2006-08-10 19:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by hack_ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a test soon to be sure. Yes, you are too young but what is done is done. You will have to be responsible and get yourself some help from your parents or his. However if you are not pregnant, then please wait till marriage or until you are much older and able to support yourself before you have sex again. Might sound old fashioned but that is what is best for a baby.
2006-08-10 15:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by momma2jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and tell him u might be pregnant. I'm not tryna judge or anything but if he is 18 and u r 16 he can go 2 jail 4 statutory rape even though u both wanted to hav sex. best of luck to u
2006-08-10 15:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by chica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that people are saying you ruined your life. Personally I think it is wrong to have sex before marriage, but it is going to be Ok! Tell your parents and then tell him. If he won't accept the baby, dont get an abortion, because even though people say that that isnt killing a real baby it is. You need to keep your child and be it's mother!
God Bless
2006-08-10 15:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Isabella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a big sister. Is there someone you trust to talk to in person? You're too smart to be in this position--I don't think your BF is very responsible either. Find someone to take you for a pregnancy test before you make any other decisions. Please choose wisely--you have to live with yourself forever even if your boyfriend does not. I wish you the best.
2006-08-10 15:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Helpful Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago was "this time"? If it was within the last 72 hours, contact Planned Parenthood immediately about emergency contraception.
If it was longer, you're going to need to take a test to confirm it and make your decision from there.
2006-08-10 15:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a pregnancy test. If it is positive, sit him down and be honest. Tell him you are pregnant. Don't be gloomy about it if you are happy. I'm sure he will be excited. 4 years of loving you will tell him that you will need him to be with you. Good luck!
2006-08-10 15:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes at least 14 days after ur missed period I believe to find out....you can try giving it up for adoption...you can have an open one if you want to see the baby..as for telling him..tell him asap. pull him to the side and let him know whats going on..dont leave him in the dark...just follow your instincts and do whatever you feel is right for you and your child...
2006-08-10 15:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Justakid1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋