Many times I thought that I was in love, but it proved to be just infatuation...
How could I know when I encounter real love?
2006-08-10 07:51:06 · 23 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Real love isn't a "feeling" -those come and go. If you really love someone it is a decision to stay with them through good and bad and each puts the others needs before their own.
2006-08-10 08:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by tecvba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And finally she asked herself the question, "What is love?" For it is more than merely passion flowing, more than just emotion's gain, more than the sense of flesh on flesh. And it seemed to her as if she were asking, "What is God?" or "What is creation itself?" Yet now it seemed to her that this was the question she sought an answer to all her life.
So now, at this point in time, she queried, with all the varied experiences she'd had, what could she truly say of love? For one, it is an opening of the heart, so very hard to describe. It is compassion, yet it is self-interest too. It is giving, yet it is receiving. It is caring, yet it is letting go, saying yes and at times even saying no. It is to empathize, yet to realize another must learn to feel for themselves. It is a mother's nurturance, and a father's tenderness, yet it is also a mother's insistence and a father's authority. Yet it is even more somehow. It is order, yet it is chaos too, that then brings a new order, but then chaos will always come again, won't it?
Love is ageless and timeless and without dimension, yet love is here and now in this moment of forever. Love is ancient and new and ever-becoming. Love is what we always and ever and never can have, for love is dynamic. Love is the worth and the meaning and the quality of hope and hopelessness. Love is the glory of enlightenment and the darkness of unknowing.
Love is the white lotus of the seventh chakra, the brightest, deepest red of the first, and all the many, varied hues that are forever creating yet another shade of beauty in between. Love is the high note and the low, played at once in harmony, the crescendo, yet the deepest chords resounding. Love is expression, yet non-expression too - a cacophony and symphony of composition.
Love is the sleeping and the dreaming and the waking. Love is real and yet invisible, felt and yet the deepest mystery. Love is existence and its annihilation. Love is the question and the answer ever changing. Love is what we want to do and have to do and refuse to do. Love is pain and comfort too, the illness of disease and also its healing. Love is the beauty of perfection, yet the difference of disfiguration.
Love is the height and the depth and the width, yet love is immeasurable. Love is darkness, love is light. Love is emptiness and fullness, the yin and yang - forever and always distinct yet flowing within and through and with each other. Love is the yearning for life and the illusion of death. Love is continuance in time and time's obliteration. Love is its own beginning and ending and becoming.
Perhaps the only answer then, is this: Love Is. While in its allness and in its nothingness, we simply need to let it Be - in us
2006-08-10 14:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by insenergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl! i have been through what you are going through many of times. and it is really hard to know if a person loves you. but there are ways to know. if you are really in love the person that u are in love with can always make you smile even if you are in tears. You always want to be with the person. and at first you might doubts about the relationship because of all the past ones.
but just know what u are looking for in a guy and when you find a guy that has everything you are looking for and you just think is perfect and you don't care what anyone has to say about it. that's love. but remember real true love doesn't happen in one day.
2006-08-10 15:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation: when you ignore all of the faults and convince yourself that this person is perfect.
*when you look at the attraction in the relationship, instead of the actual person
Love: when you truly care about another person, and want what is best for them
*when you want to be with them, and will stick through the hard times, just for them.
2006-08-10 15:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by crazychik17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for the infatuation to wear off and then love will be apparent if it is there (good luck)
2006-08-10 14:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know you'll feel it in your soul..
You get this tumbling feeling in your tummy and it tickles and you get all giddy and you break out into smiles..lol
Well those are some of the basics, but you'll really know when you look at him and you feel stuck in the moment.. stuck between a force thats unexplainable.. You feel like hes all you need and that without him youre incomplete when you know youd give your last breath just so he could live...You'll know just give it time to grow on you
Good Luck
2006-08-10 14:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you couldn't bear to live without the person in your life, you can't get them out of your head and you get a feeling inside which makes you know that it is real
2006-08-10 14:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.
2006-08-10 14:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by BokBok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll know if you are still with the person ten years later & realise that you couldnt live without them, by then you will know that its not just an infatuation
2006-08-10 14:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by wordykat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. I have encountered this not too long ago- though its very cliche to say "you will know it"... you just will...
When they become the one you want to tell first, be one you trust with it all, be the last call of your day.. you will just know.
2006-08-10 15:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by cheeriolafs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋