it had something to do with a friend and it shouldnot of gone that far and we both realize it and are truley sorry for what we have done and will not do it again...please help i feel terrible which i should feel like but i cant tell my husband because it would end up in divorce and we have children...i know i am a bad person but i feel so guilty and i know this is an excuse but i was drinking quite a bit and it did play a factor because i would of NEVER done it if i was sober..
2006-08-10 07:25:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just don't do it again you will forgive yourself in time.
2006-08-10 07:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person. You are a person that did something bad. You are right. Never tell your husband. I am on the outside looking in because my wife found out about an affair and I don't think she will ever forgive me or let me back into her life. My loss, because she truly is the girl for me.
Anyway, put it behind you and forgive yourself. The biggest part is change anything and everything that led you to your stumble and fall. If you don't, you will stumble and fall again. Be honest with your self as to what needs to be changed. it could be your friend, I know that may be tough, but you have to be honest and take care of it.
Then there is one last question for yourself. Why? Again, be honest. The drinking may have gave you a hand, but it didn't do the deed. Are you happy with your husband? Is there something missing? Are you two as passionate as you used to be? Have you let yourselves fall in a rut? Once you figure that out...FIX IT! If you don't, just like the other changes, you will be back to the same issue in the future.
You have just benefited from counseling that I pay good money for. I hope you have better luck then I have. I have improved myself but have no one to see except for me. Take Care
Tom
2006-08-10 14:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND. I am sure he never did anything so bad that he deserves to be hurt like that. Take that secret to your grave and stay away from the "friend". Just remove yourself from temptation and do not drink except with your husband. Get tested and FIND any excuse to aviod sex with your husband or use condoms until the results come back. He doesn't need any STD's either. Mistakes are made and that is life but try and pick up the pieces and go on.
2006-08-10 14:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you feel that way.. but is normall after what is done. Now just pray to God that your husband will not find out.. and in the other hand, don't do it again.. sometimes this things happend but dont let this rude your marrige. And rememeber you never know if you husband have done something like that too. So give time to time and you will feel better. Take care of you self.
2006-08-10 14:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Camilion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously love your husband and family, that should be your first priority. We all make mistakes,especially under the influence of alcohol. You have acknowledged your mistake, and have made amends. If you are a religious person, pray to your God and ask Him for forgiveness. I would not let your husband know, cease all ties with the other guy and just go on. We all make mistakes, and if nothing comes of it, then just remember how you feel now and don't do it again.
2006-08-10 14:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by jonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look if you truly love him, you will tell him. If he truly loves you, he will forgive you. Look, everybody makes mistakes, but the happy people are the ones who confess to what they did. What did you do by the way?
2006-08-10 14:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.we all do stupid things but wouldn't you feel less guilty if you just told your husband if you had a good relationship you never would of done it drunk or not.
2006-08-10 14:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by dnicebnice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is better to just keep it to yourself. I heard this on Oprah one time.
2006-08-10 14:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then don't tell him
don't do it again and don't ever bring it up again
keep it your naughty little secret
everyone has secrets
2006-08-10 14:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get "tested" and insist that your paramour do so as well.
2006-08-10 14:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋