Me and my bf have been dating close to five years...I am turning 23 soon and he's 24...i finish school next year and he has a high paying job...Is it too soon to move in together? Mind you that we both live with our parents...I am so confused, he's going apartment hunting next week!!
2006-08-10 07:18:08 · 52 answers · asked by Umm yeah... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks people...gives me a better outlook...I guess I am just scared, cause I mean we started dating in high school...It just felt that made the situation different...so many good answers....
2006-08-10 07:43:29 · update #1
After 5 years of dating, and at your ages you should be comfortable enough with each other to leave your parents house and try and start a life together.
Your apprehension is normal, as it will be your first time out of your parents house, on your own. But it is all part of growing and in the end, even if it doesn't work out with this guy you will be a better woman for having the experience.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 07:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by magerious 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
please....please...please do yourself a favor and do not move in with him yet. are you guys even considering getting married first? You really should think this through. I moved in with my boyfriend when i was 20. BIG MISTAKE! I wanted to go running home right away! We're still together and I've been with him for six years. I'm 23 now and I know that I still have alot of growing up to do. It shouldn't be about how much money he is making or how financially stable you think you guys will be together. You are young, take this time to go out with your friends or go travel with your boyfriend. You lose alot of freedom when you're in a relationship like that. If you rush in eventually you'll feel like you've lost some part of your life. If anything open a savings account separately and start putting away to buy a house in the future, in case in a few years you still want to move in with him, if you decide in a few years you dont want to after all, you'll have some money saved up to move out on your own. I'm glad I got out when I did, and I'm glad that I've been careful not to have any kids, so really consider what you want to do before it's too late! good luck!
2006-08-10 07:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on getting married? I just don't think you should move in together but thats just me. You have to be happy with whatever you decide. I know lots of people will disagree with me but if you aren't going to get married I don't think you should like together and if your relationship with your parents is a good one then why ruin it? You are living rent free and I know that you want your own freedom so maybe you should look into getting your own apartment too. Just a thought. Good luck with that and I hope all works out well for you.
2006-08-10 07:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you find a job before you move in with him. Its one thing to know he will take care of you, but having the ability to support yourself even if something would happen is a safe thing to know. Dont just move in like that. Get yourself moving, specially out of school you have no idea what your job situation is going to be like. But in the end why do you look for approval from people that dont know either of you. You know what you and he are ready for, if you feel its right do it, if your hesitant like you seem to be if your on here, then get yourself together and then make a move. Positivity is the key, and you dont sound positive.
2006-08-10 07:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After five years it is not too soon. Make sure you both are in agreement that you want o be together and that this is the right next move before making the move together.
2006-08-10 07:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by UOPHXstudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have been together long enough that you know what you both want. Trying out the living together thing shouldn't be a problem, Id go for it. And if it doesn't work out, you are both young enough to move on.
2006-08-10 07:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion: Any type of long term relationship would have given you the time to know whether or not your partner is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage should come first before anything else. I pray you consider this before moving in with him, because waiting will make the union of your marriage so much more special and worth everything. Blessings and prayers =)
2006-08-10 07:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never knew there was a time span on when people can move in together. If you both are happy - then go for it. You're both adults now and if you feel you can afford to be independent and not be under your parents roof - go right ahead. Kids eventually move out and try it - if they don't succeed they go back to their parents house
2006-08-10 07:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by SxyPR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question is because you are NOT prepared to take on responsibilities. I'll advise you to study your own feelings regarding your boyfriend and your relationship and then make an adult decision.
Personally I would just move on my own...just to get to know me first...then I can share that with someone else. If he loves you as much as he should if you guys were married, then he will wait and share with you...either way, he is going "solo" since he is apartment hunting and you are not.
2006-08-10 07:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Sunny~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your parents until he proposes marriage. Experiment from time to time by spending the night at his house to see if you can tolerate his habits and what not.
Also, by him living on his own, you'll learn realy quickly if he really does love you. Some guys, once you throw money in their direction, become unloyal because their ego (to find more women) takes over their commitment in their relationship.
Be weary and watch his behavior. If he passes that test, then marry him and move in with him.
2006-08-10 07:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋