ok..so my boyfriend is 17...we are both very young..we have known each other for three years..he has loved me ever since the start..but i havent..i barely realized i loved him like 10 months ago...which is when we started goin out again..and the thind is he lives in gary, indiana and i live in chicago..it is only 30 min away but yet have a hard time to see each other..but we understand that..we love each other..we both have been our #1s in everything..but people tell me that we gonna break up...cuz we are soo young..but if its true love we can make it through anything..what do you guyz thinks..also we are both very jealous..and we both got each other on check which sounds wierd but true...
2006-08-10 07:13:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ummm people plz help..
2006-08-10 08:04:10 · update #1
love is more than just the tingly feeling u get when your together. love is sticking it out through hard times, when you dont care for the other persons habits, when you roll over in bed and smell the bad breath everymorning. i do believe that it is possible that what you have is love, anyone can love, but a lasting relationship is when you have not only passionate love, but companionate love as well. because people change and drift apart over time, it is hard when you are young because you have all that time still to decide who you are and evolve into the person you want to be. that is why some say i wont work, because you dont know who you are yet, and how can you decide who youll be with ifyou dont know yourself.
my advice is this: you may be in love, you may want to stay in the relationship, but dont get married until you have some college under your belt and really know where you are going in life. try to make what you have now work for as long as it can, and when you really are ready to get married, if it is still with him then it will have been worth the wait to find out
good luck with your decision, and i hope things work out for the best
2006-08-18 05:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard I'm not gonna lie... I been in one for four years still am I love him and I want to marry him. But u need to fully trust him if u don't then don't start it because its painful. It hurts not being able to see him but we talk everyday.. But the fights can be the worst because its over tech ur not face to face. I have never ever cry so much for a guy.. But I never felt so much love and care from a man. We support each other fully on everything. Is it easier then a regular relationship? No way but its worth it because we both know deep down we r made for each other.. The only advice I can give u is really think about this and talk to him.. Because its not easy it is the hardest thing u can do be in love and be far away from him and u have no idea the pain u develop but its the strongest love u get but this only happens if both of u r in this and fully in love.. Sorry if its long but I hope I help. And age I was 16 and he was 14 yup I'm older but love has no age.
2016-03-27 06:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that you and your boyfriend are a little young to be serious. i got married when i was 16 and things really change in a little amount of time.
being long distance is also a problem that is pretty hard to deal with.
i would worry more about the jealousy issues that you both seem to have. why do you both have each other on check? what are the reasons behind that?
what do both sets of parents think about it? how well do you and him get along when you spend a lot of time with each other?
do you honestly see being with him for the rest of your life? does he see being with you for the rest of his? are you both strong enough to bend? do you really want to?
give yourselves some time. when you both are done with school and have lived alone long enough to know what you both want and go from there. if it works it will work. if it doesnt, well, the marriage rate is 50% so........
2006-08-16 02:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your relationship while it lasts...you have to trust each other. Jealousy is not a good for a relationship. You have to have trust in the other person. And actually now is the time that you should be meeting different kinds of people, and not being tied down to 1 person.
Good luck!!
2006-08-17 14:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chi_Indy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh, young love. enjoy it while it lasts.... At 16, you may or may not be mature enough for a long lasting serious relationship, but at 17, he, sadly, is most likely not. Enjoy your youth, don't get so serious so young, give each other the respect and trust you each deserve, relax, and let the future happen.
2006-08-18 05:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by sputternick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirty minutes apart is not that bad. As you get older and maybe one of you gets a car, it will be easier.
Jealousy is a hard thing to get past. It is very bad for a relationship. You both should work on that.
Good luck to you both.
2006-08-18 05:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 16 you can't even have a long TERM relationship let alone a long distance one. It is hopeless. Stay friends and forget the romance until you can be together.
2006-08-16 16:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
long distance relationship dont work out, sorry for saying this but based on experience,
real relationship is based on real communication yeah it's true but some things are needed on relationship like physical thing...
if you know what I mean?..... its cool to be in love with your age but please dont embrace it by getting cool with it because in the long run you might just end up longing for one another but you cant but just date around...
2006-08-18 04:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by flower_roxy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust each other then whats the point? that will be the demise of the relationship. figure out why you two dont trust each other, then your relationship will last longer.
2006-08-10 07:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by Southpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go in the right way. If something wrong happens he is likely to dump you like all of them do.
2006-08-18 07:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mitchell Cott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋