2006-08-10 07:03:05 · 30 answers · asked by lilmisscontraryuk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Then tell his *** to help.
2006-08-10 07:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the key! If you want some help around the house then just ask for it. Instead of putting it in the form of a complaint, however, you may wish to present it in a positive manner. Let him know nicely that you don't have enough time to do all the housework by yourself (instead of picking a fight saying that he doesn't do anything) so you think it is fair to share house duties. Try talking about the "one chore you really hate to do" and go from there. Maybe he hates doing dishes. Maybe you hate doing laundry. So trade chores. He does laundry, and you do dishes. This way nobody gets stuck doing something they can't stand, hopefully, and the chores are fairly divided. Also, you can try just randomly calling out, "Ok, it's clean-up time! Let's take 10 minutes and pick everything up together!" This really works! You are not accusing anybody of not doing stuff around the house, you're not calling them lazy, and you make your intentions of getting some help known. Good luck!
2006-08-10 07:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by $1200 mistake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key in any relationship, you need to tell your boyfriend how you feel and tell him that you would appreciate some extra help around the house by him. After all it's his mess as well is it not! This may sound corny but reward him when he does help out and he will be more inclined to help you out. I don't mean put out either, being a guy I like to be told that I am appreciated, give him a hug only you know what he likes so give it a try. Good luck.
Pete J
2006-08-10 07:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pete J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honey always helps, I make him do things like dry the dishes while I'm washing, vacuum the floor, empty rubbish etc. If you all live together its not 19 friggen30's any more he should clean as much as you. If he refuses go on strike. Clean only your stuff. I've left relationships over lack of help at home. If you both work then its only fair to split the chores. Trust me tell him how you feel it will only screw your relationship up the further along it gets. Or do it naked...clean naked and when your done then its party time. =)
2006-08-10 07:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Bomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my husband when we first got married. i simply told him that i was is wife and not his housekeeper. and any dishes that weren't in the sink wont get washed and any clothes that weren't in the hamper wont get washed (in the vicinity of the hamper didn't count). it took him one time to wear dirty clothes to work to realize that i was serious. it will be hard to look at the mess for a few days but its well worth it. 7 years later my hubby even separates the laundry and will do some of the housework (i still insist on doing certain things) hope this helps!
2006-08-10 07:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Casey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to please help you. Give him certain things he can do. Don't order him, just ask.
If he refuses then start not getting things done, like his laundry, his dinner, etc.
If you both work full time then the chores should be split. If one of you are home all day then that person should run the house and get everything done.
2006-08-10 07:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sensei Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then maybe tell him how tired you are and how you need some help around the house. If there is like a semi-manly job. ask him to do it or ask him if he can help you with some chores but do it together like fold the clothes or make the bed.
2006-08-10 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is realy easy...
No help aropund the house... you dress like his mum or a nun... No short skirts etc...
No kissing
No touching
No making out...
and he's on the couch and making his own dinner, washing his own clothes etc
See who can last out the other
2006-08-10 07:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not clear. Why is he expected to help around your house? That is what husbands do. Just ask him to do some things for you. You will then see more of what his character is like. Maybe this is not "the one".
2006-08-10 07:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would ask him in a nice way to start to help! if he doesnt i would just do my own tidying and washing and ironing he will soon realise when he has nothing to wear that your not his mum and he needs to help out
2006-08-10 09:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by lillypops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but if he has become lazy is your fault. I know for experience that when men get to comfortable and let the women pick after them, they just don't bother anymore to pick up after themselves. Let him pick up what he left behind even if it means leaving it there 2 to 3 days. You are not his slave, work together.
2006-08-10 07:10:22 · answer #11 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋