ill be 18 in 20 days and have alot to think about im tired of living with my rents for many reasons but if i stay with them then i wont have to work my butt off for money to live and they will pay for my school books lunches graduation and everything but i really dont kno how much more i can take of this my parents and my sisters really have me down latley i cry myself to sleep everynight becuz of them and if i move out and in with my boyfriend then they might hate me for moving out and he has a really good job so manly hell have to pay for all the stuff cuz ill still be in school so i wont have a good job and he will i dotn think i could let him have to pay all that stuff thats a lot of money or what happens if i move in with him and he gets tired of me i dont wont my parents to hate me but then if i stay with them then ill be miserable but id have everything paid for and i juss dont kno what to do help me what would u do also im askin if u all would keep me in your prayers pls
2006-08-10 06:56:08 · 21 answers · asked by bjac0716 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are heading off to college- you will be sooooo busy studying and all. you can hang out on campus and pretty much only go home when you need to...thus avoiding alot of the misery that is at home. just keep your head on straight and get through school and soon you will beout on your own. One day you will look back and think "wow, how did I make it through that crap!" but you know what? you will!!! just don't make any foolish decisions- and stay in school! Parents are only looking out for your best interest! good luck- life will be good you just have to have the right attitude!!! ;o)
2006-08-10 07:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look honey I will pray for you yet you are the one who has to have the faith and courage and really decide what to do.Here are some questions you should think about.1)How long have you and youre boyfriend been going out?(the reason that I ask you this is because right now youre boyfriend is nice with you yet when you live with him probably it won't be the same).2)What is better for you physically and mentally?Look when ever youre parents argue with you just listen and when they are done just go out for a walk or in youre car to a place where you can be by youre self.Also try to keep a diary or try to join a yoga class that is really relaxing.Yet try to remember this I read it the other day."God is my refuge and strength, for he is my help when im in trouble".Honey just pray and cry to the lord ask him for guidedance and alot of strength.Muahxx if you still need more help just hit me up at my e-mail lil_chirican@yahoo.com god bless and please be brave evryone goes trough the fire yet only the strong ones come out dancing.
2006-08-10 14:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by im_blessed_wit_my_hubby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray for you, i know what it's like when you just can't live with your parents any more. maybe you can rent a room. look in the newspaper just be careful. so that if it doesn't work out with your boyfriend you'll still have your room that you rented. maybe a waitress job with tips might work for you while your going to school. you can't let ANYONE ever get you down not even your parents. i know its hard but keep you head high good luck and happy Earlie birthday
2006-08-10 14:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try to solve the problem with your parents before you up and move out, and not just because they will support you. Obviously you love them and care about their opinion if you are worried they will hate you for moving in with your boyfriend.
Moving out now without having the ability to stand on your own is a huge mistake, even if you are going to be living with someone who can carry all the bills. What happens if you guys break up while you're still in school and not working? Then you have to crawl back to your parents anyway!
Believe me, unless there is some kind of abuse that you are going through at home, try to work it out with your family. You have the rest of your life to live on your own, don't rush it. Wait til your out of school and working and ready to be on your own.
Good luck!!
2006-08-10 14:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with your 'rents, and when you've saved enough money buy your own place, that way you dont have to worry about your bf getting bored of you (which i'm sure he wont) and you wont let your parents down. short term pain is nuttin compared to eternal bliss sweet :) but here really the case is you bein lazy, jus do it and you'll be happier in the long run. hope you work it out. will NOT pray for you tho..atheist
2006-08-10 14:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I have the problem but kinda different but I know what your going thru....I'm 17 & I am counting down the days til' 18...I still think there is going to be no way out but I cant give in to them & prove them right And of course I will put you in my prayers as I see that you are truely wanting help & I can bet that everything will work out the best for you(&your bf) I wish you ther absoulute best Good Luck Peace out & rock on:)
2006-08-10 14:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy to *Jordan Ibrahim* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck...
I don't know what I would do. I'd probably try to stick with the parents, but... it's a hard situation, for sure... moving in with the boyfriend seems a bit shaky to me, but again, I don't know...
I'll remember you in my prayers, and hope everything turns out well.
2006-08-10 14:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by arcmdark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wanting prayer suggests yor a christian...yes.welwould it be right to move in with yor boyfriend enyway.if you were married then youcould move in settle down and start again.getting a job isnt so bad.i recently got 1 and feared the worst like you but im fine and God is helping me.yes i can pray for you.
2006-08-10 14:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by moley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem!
Honey, I also think that you should remain w/ your parents for the time being.
Trouble doesn't last always!
Keep praying...And, with the faith that I believe you have, I know you know that you shouldn't go stay with your boyfriend.
Life gets hard sometimes...Keep your head up!
2006-08-10 14:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by MsLadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you, as soon as I am done typing. I know what you mean because life was bad at home for me when I was 17-18. God Bless You and your right for staying in school. You what helps me is I visualize in my mind taking my problems and walking up to the cross and lay them all at feet of Jesus for Him to take. Because Jesus will take all your problems if you just hand them over to Him instead of trying to do it yourself. He will wipe your tears away to hon, we love you.
2006-08-10 14:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋