um i want a baby at 20 but my friend mom says its tooooooo young and she wants her child to have a baby at the age of 27 or she'll get kick out and she won't be able to talk to me
2006-08-10 06:52:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
At 20, you are physically ready to have a baby. Whether you are ready emotionally is something you should figure out. A baby is a responsibility, when a life is in ur hands, there are so many things that u may have to pass up. My advice would be to build your career now, if you are in school, finish that up. Do all the things that people do in their youth, travel, party with your friends.Just enjoy being young, you still have plenty time to have kids.You can think of having a child again at 25 or something. The good thing is you'll be more mature and will have experienced more in life.
2006-08-10 07:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a job, some medical insurance, a place of your own to live when you have the baby, married at least, your everything so you do not have to depend on mom and dad, then 20 is not too young but in all honesty you need to enjoy life a little more before thinking of having kids.
2006-08-10 07:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're very young. Do you have a partner, a job and a stable home? Babies aren't like goldfish - you can't just get one and then flush it down the toilet when it dies cause you forgot about it. This is a lifetime commitment - the rest of your life. If you think you want a baby, try volunteering at a women's shelter and see how much work it is. There is no "magic" age when it becomes okay - it's when you're ready with your whole life put together.
Don't be a statistic.
2006-08-10 07:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by hey_Anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a stable life and great husband or b/f then it is up to you. I am 20, 21 in a month and am 36 wks pregnant. Though I didn't plan this at all. I would have probably waited just a little longer though if I had actually chosen to get pregnant. It honestly depends on if you are mature enough to take care of another life. I would wait a while and see if your feelings change. I don't feel like I am too young, but like I said it all depends on your maturity level and how you handle other aspects in your life as well.
2006-08-10 07:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by LiL' Momma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it IS too young. You need to get an education and have a GOOD job for a few years (not to mention a mature husband) before you have a baby. It's selfish to have a baby if you're not stable. It might seem like a good idea right now, but you'd also be robbing yourself of the chance to grow up without all that responsibility.
If you're a millionaire and don't want to raise your own kid (hire a nanny or something), that might work, but for an average 20 yr. old, PLEASE WAIT -- for your sake and your future child's sake!
2006-08-10 07:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is too young, especially if you have no education and cannot financially provide for your child. Staying at home to raise an infant is a luxury that most people cannot afford. Please don't rely on "the system" to care for you and your child. What is the hurry anyway? You aren't even old enough to legally drink or buy alcohol. If you live at home with your mom, you definitely are too young to have a baby. Use an effective method of birth control and don't make me pay for your mistake!!
2006-08-10 07:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a little young, but there are people who have babies when they are younger than that. a general rule is to not have a baby until you are physically, financially, mentally, and emotionally ready. if feel you are prepared and able to take care of a baby at age 20 then you should have one. tell your friend's mom that she cannot choose when her daughter has a baby. 20 may be a little young but there is no need to wait until she is 27 either.
2006-08-10 07:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by Niecy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, I hope your friend isn't still living with her mom when she is 20.
I'd say it depends a little more on if you have a way to support a child and if you are emotionally capable of caring for a child.
2006-08-10 07:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still living at home? Can you support yourself and a child without public assitance? I would say that 20 is too young. You need to go to college, do some traveling and live your life before you can give to another human being.
2006-08-10 06:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by tieia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you are in a strong steady relationship. plus you need to be mature and understanding as children are very hard work. I have my first child at 22 and I look back now and think that was kinda young but would not change it for the world. Think about it and talk to your partner about it first.
2006-08-10 06:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋