how can i boost my self esteam and happiness i have anger and jealousy problems help me or i will die at 18?

Question

i honestly need a good friend someone to listen to me i had a rough life i am arabic from palestine and i am also an americn citzen born in new york i love new york i lived all my life in america but then i was forced to by my parents to go there alone at 14 i lived with my evil i mean evil grandmagot engaged at 15 married at 18 to a26 year old wich i love but smetimes feel he does not love me i need help or i will die i have been married for 3 months and i do not feel happy i feel like killing myself every time i see a pretty girlwhen i am with him even though i look pretty good andi am just hoping to find a friend with good advuce please

i need love and attention so badly because it was taken away from me at such a young age no mom no dad no nothing my grandma made me feel worthless god am depressed

Answer 1

I don't know what faith u believe in bc u need God right know and he will never leave ur side.

If he brings us to it he will bring us through it and he is always there when we need him. Pray and I will pray for u 2!!

Answer 2

Forget about the past and move forward to a healthy future.You can't change what happened,but you can decide the way you want your life to go.As of right now,Love yourself and make you happy.No one can do it,but you.As far as your parents and grandmother forgive them and let it go.As long as you have hatred in your heart you will not be able to move on.For your husband talk to him and let him know how you feel and see if he's willing to seek counseling.If you kill yourself your life will be in a worst shape then now.Forgive and let things go.Life is worth living and you need to get up out of that pity party and start living.Pray and do whatever it takes to get it right.I'm here if you need to talk.Good Luck

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you were forced to go live away and go thru the life you are living in. My first suggestion to go get some help and therapy for your self. Sounds like you are insecure with yourself and you should never feel that way. You are you and there is nothing that you can do to change that. Love yourself and be happy with the person that you are. If there are things you do not like, then change them.

Be the best person that you can be and love yourself for you.

Answer 4

You get happy with yourself by making accomplishments. It builds you up. You do things like master a skill, and better yourself. Try something new, you might like it. (yoga, ballroom dancing, digital photography, martial atrs) Add things to your life. Get happy and others will want to share that with you.

Don't rely on others to make you happy. They don't want the responsibility, that's your job. Don't be needy....it sucks the life out of people. And don't act desparate, it scares people away.

You get over jealousy of other women by BEING THE BEST at making YOUR guy feel like #1. Make him feel like the strongest, most impressive, most admired, most valued, most needed, most desirable, most important guy out there.....make sure you are the Best at this......don't question him or criticize him. It will emasculate him and he will turn elsewhere for a fix....

PEOPLE ONLY WANT TO KILL THEMSELVES TO PUNISH OTHERS FOR THEIR OWN FEELINGS. It doesn't work. People pity those who commit suicide. Suicide leaves the legacy that you were MENTALLY unstable....you don't want to be remembered that way, do you?

Try a new perspective.....take responsibility for yourself. Things don't have to happen TO you, but rather can happen FOR you. If you look for the upside to things that go wrong....

When things go wrong, that tells you what DOESN"T work, so try somwthing else. You gain experience and wisdom from your mistakes. Try looking at each obstacle as AN OPPORTUNITY IN DISGUISE....TO OVERCOME OR IMPROVE something.

If you feel insecure, look at as an opportunity to test your strengths, or to find out where you're worthy, what you're good at. You have so many redeeming qualities....but you can't see them when you don't look.

Volunteer work and charitable causes helps to build you up and show you how many people appreciate and need you, plus it makes you feel good to do things for others.

It feels better than sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and being self-absorbed, worrying about you you you all the time.

I hope this helps, even if it is harsh. Sometimes people need a slap in the face, rather than to be coddled and pitied.....

Answer 5

first, you must realize that you only live once. God loves you very much. you have a very colorful life - that you have to pass the test. so, you can help others too through your surviving stories. Add these quotes to your life - it doesn't matter, who cares, life must go on. & recite these always - God loves me anyway, He knows me best beyond others know me. He's my source of life, happiness and peace.

Answer 6

You must learn to love yourself...I suggest you get therapy for this, and remember that you must always work on yourself to better yourself (always)...No one is to blame for this, so my best advice is that you seek counseling...and when you see the counselor tell them exactly what you feel...don't entirely speak your thoughts but concentrate on letting someone know how you feel about things that are going on...

Answer 7

You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Talk to your husband and see how he feels. It sounds like he may also be unhappy.

Answer 8

i would suggest finding a church, and getting involved. one that has a young marrieds 'class' or 'group'. make friends that you can rely on and have forever.

Answer 9

Please, seek help now before it is too late. Killing yourself in not the option. Try to speak to your spouse and tell him how you feel. Best of luck to you... =)

Answer 10

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