I'm having a party soon and b/c a lot of my loud, embarrassing family and in-laws will be at the party, I want to uninvite some of my coworkers even though I'm friends with some of them. I dont know how to do it without hurting their feelings. I just dont think they'll fit into the crowd since my husband didnt invite any of his coworkers. I'm fine with a couple of my coworkers coming b/c they pledged the same fraternity as my husband. What do I do so I dont sound tacky??
2006-08-10 06:25:43 · 30 answers · asked by Sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is pretty much an impossibilty. If you tell people they no longer can attend your party you will sound rude and snobbish no matter what.
I think the only thing you could do is offer them a substitution. Tell them you will go with them to Karaoke or something instead.
2006-08-10 06:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie, and say you're sick or something...because somehow they'll find out and then you will have had a good party, but everyday at work your coworkers won't talk to you. This is a tough situation, but from how I see it, you only have two options. One, (the better one) is to make it so they'll fit in more, like add something that you know everyone will like (if one likes karaoke, have a machine in the basement, etc.) If you really think that they will be too uncomfortable, you can say that none of your husband's coworkers are going to be there; it's been changed to all-family. Then say that you're thinking about having a party for the office at the next holiday time (Christmas, Halloween, etc.) Whatever you do, don't say that it's family and close friends because if they for some reason consider themselves to be a close friend, they could be offended. Also, tell each one separately, with nobody else around, just so they won't be embarassed for any reason. Good luck getting out of the situation!! And have a great time at the party however it ends up:)
2006-08-10 06:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)Last minute notice (day before the party...as youre leaving work)
2)Mail in late invitation (arrives the day after the party)
What kind of party is it if family is going to be there? I find it interesting that you would invite GUY coworkers. I thought the issue was your embarrassing family members. If so, tell all your coworkers it is a family event. Plus, why even mention it to your coworkers in the first place?
2006-08-10 06:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very rude to un-invite someone. Just explain to them before hand about your relatives and apologize ahead of time for anything they might say or do. That way they have an option not to attend if what you describe seems offensive enough. ( You didn't say how they are offensive - but if - for example - they are likely to use racial or religious slurs - that person should be warned ahead.)You can also talk to the worst offending relatives in a nice way and explain to them since co-workers will be in attendance, you would really appreciate it if they could tone down their behavior a bit. You can explain that if things get too out of hand - it could affect your job. They might pleasantly surprise you. ALL families have a few of those irritating members so I suspect your friends and co-workers will laugh it off and realize you are human too!
2006-08-10 06:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, your co-workers personal opinion of you can not be directed in anyway by how you handle this situation for the positive. I would say that you should explain to your co-workers the situation just as you have here on Answers. There is no "untacky" way out of it. To invite some one to something the un invite them is totally against all etiquette rules, however things come up and it is always best to be upfront and honest.
2006-08-10 06:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by buford_bargain_hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can uninvite people, just go to them and say "look here I have made a huge mistake in inviting you to my party, so guess what? you are not now - sorry" and walk away. Or you could just tell them that you really dont want them to come for some reason or another. Good luck its going to be hard. But them Im really soft like that.
2006-08-10 06:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to them and be honest. Tell them that "A lot of my loud, embarrassing family members and in-laws will be at the party, and I'm afraid you will be uncomfortable.--and to tell you the truth--it will make me uncomfortable. It's it okay if we just get together some other time?"
I can't imagine anyone still wanting to come and insisting, but if they do, let them. You can all be miserable together.
2006-08-10 06:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that due to circumstances somewhat beyond your control the nature of the party has changed and that it's going to be just a family get-together for the most part. People understand about family-only occasions. You'll be fine.
2006-08-10 06:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your saying you don't want them to come because your afraid of what they will think about your friends and families....that is the first thing wrong. Why do you care? They are your family and friends, they should come first. I'm sure your co-workers will either have a blast or leave early. Your judging them before they even get a chance...
2006-08-10 06:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We similar thing happen with me I had to tell my friends it was a family only party because its turn out to be a family meeting to deal with a family issues. They took it well just make sure you remember the ones that did come not go telling others.
2006-08-10 06:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋