Swapping your mate -A sin or it is just ok? Dont be a hypocrit while answering!?

Question

I have heard a lot about people going for it . Just tell me how would it really be ? Would it be a real horror?

Answer 1

I guess it's all in how you define "sin". To me, a sin is anything that causes harm to one's self or to others. If you can engage in swinging/swapping/the lifestyle without harming yourself or anyone else, then where is the sin in that? Good grief, if ordinary human beings are capable of handling this without hurting themselves or each other, why wouldn't I believe that God, an omniscient, omnipotent, omnipresent deity, could handle it too?
Why do so many people seem to think that God is somehow angered or threatened or jealous of our sexuality? A thing HE created??

We (hubby and I) have been lucky enough to have been able to incorporate swinging into our marriage, and no harm has come to our relationship. Quite the contrary, in fact. It didn't do all the horrible things that people warn you about. It didn't take us away from each other, it didn't cause us to fall in love with others, it didn't turn us into raging sexaholics, we didn't neglect or molest our kids, our souls and minds are intact, nobody became pregnant, and no one caught any diseases. We were active in the lifestyle for about 3 years or so (maybe a little longer). Then life got too busy and we had to stop for a while. We've been monogamous for the past 2 1/2 years now with no negative repercussions (no withdrawal...lol).

Now for the flip-side of the coin... For anyone who is not mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically ready for it, it can indeed be a real horror. But the most surprising thing that these folks will find - if they care to look - is that it's not the sex causing all the pain and torment; it's them. In this, you are your own worst enemy.

And as far as sin goes, if it makes you feel dirty, or degraded, or if you are making others feel that way...and you know it, yet you do it anyway...then that is indeed a sin. By definition, sin is harmful, which makes it wrongful behaviour. If it's not harmful, then just exactly why is it wrong?

And I'm sorry, but "Because I said so" doesn't quite cut it for me. I am going to be held responsible for my choices someday, so you're damn right I'm going to question why I should believe something.

Answer 2

After marriage, the very thought of swap sounds too unreasonable to a woman's mind. But, I really wonder how men feel so justified about it. Well, If there is a sexual disatisfaction, which you both were unable to resolve, then on a mutual agreement, swaping may be a good idea.

I see more problems in a swap than benefits. If you both are willing to talk the differences over, and If.. and If... and resolve all the "If"s in the matter, then.. It is okay.. but does it worth it?

What is the guarentee that the swap would not cause a future friction in marriage? It is a good fantacy. But fantacy must stay as a fantacy.

It can never work in a real relationship. That is my opinion. you are welcome to disagree.

There is a discussion about it at http://forums.sexyandfunny.com you can check it out.

Answer 3

My husband and that i went with the aid of a triple try scare with our son and it replaced into agonizing thinking that your toddler could be born with a incapacity. I knew that this actual try had a intense occurrence of fake useful and that we did not rather fall interior the class of intense probability for Down Syndrome. So, we had a point 2 ultrasound and talked to a genetic counselor and have been pleased with the outcomes with no need an amniocentisis. It replaced into frightening and that i cried rather a lot for a week. my very very own mum and dad got here from the era of practicality and stood with the aid of the thought abortion could o.k. in our judgements. yet, we knew that chiefly that we could in no way terminate a being pregnant. immediately, we've an extremely healthful 9 12 months previous boy who's a experienced baseball participant and has a deep love for something armed forces or mechanical. yet, i know that others have chosen in any different case and that's not some thing for me to choose. I know human beings's judgements and a woman's superb suited to choose on and know that folk will do what they might desire to do.

Answer 4

i think this is along the same thing as Friends w/ Benefits. at first it *seems* like a good idea, because u decide to not let it affect the relationship, trust eachother, blah blah blah...

but what happens is, u start getting jealous. u start wondering what ur partner is doing behind ur back. u start wondering if ur partner enjoys it w/ someone else, better than u.

i think this is human nature, because u want to be the best and #1 in ur partner's life. u may think u can take sharing, but eventually it will take a toll on u. it's like a person who has possesions... ur willing to share, but u have to get it back. but what if someday someone "borrows" it, and then loses it? or worse yet, will not give it back? u will get angry, and demand payment. so it's not that u don't trust or love someone enough..that's not the problem. the problem is, sharing ur mate w/ someone else is not respecting and taking care of that person as ur own. u are starting to give ur attentions and time and thought to someone else. that is not what marriage is about. that is what being single is about, not committing. if u want to swing, fine, but why be married? does not make sense... at least to me. but if it works for u, i guess it works for u. =T

Answer 5

To avoid the trust issues establish the boundaries such as you only swap while together and not alone - meaning you meet a couple together and take it from there. It can be quite exhilarting, especially for the male. Many men fantasize about seeing their S/O w/another man as do females fantasize about watching her man w/another women. Also many men fantasize about seeing the two gurlz together.

Answer 6

if a person keep his sex desire above his soul, he can do anything. he is living like an animal. everybody knows that physical desire need a body, doesnt matter whose that body is? some people do it for fun, other thinks this will work as tonic in relationship with their own mate, they will feel guilt and will love much more than before. i am sure mostly this is planned by men, women do it for the sake of their mate.

Answer 7

I'm sure you crave to have the scenario experienced and at the same time not confident. Cause and effects of the situation depends on diverse facets. Everything depends on the way you conceive it. Be prepared to face the consequences!

Answer 8

I think you honestly know the answer to this one.... it's included in your answer. It is a sin. A relationship is between one man and one woman. It is a sin just to LUST after another person's spouse/mate...

Answer 9

ya its fun go for it
just make sure u swap with some one u can trust upon

Answer 10

Great way to make se_x interesting again. Everyone gets tired of banging the same woman again and again.