What can you do if you a dealing with child protective services and the foster parents lie constantly on you?!

Question

I have 2 kids in foster care and every time my case comes up for review to determine whether or not my other 2kids will be placed with my folks for temp custody, the foster parents start telling a whole lot of lies and stirring things up. I have 4 kids in all and 2 were place with my parents, while the other 2 remained in foster care. The foster parents nit pick over everything I do and they go back and complain constantly to the social worker. They told the socail worker that I was late to the visitation, when I was there on time, and things like that. If something is accidently left out of the kids diaper bag, they make a huge deal over it. The social owrker is friends with them, and go along with their every wish. The guard ad litem and her supervisor sees what's going on, and they agree that something needs to be done, but she has said she only has but so much influence, that she is there for the kids and not so much as for me. What can I do?

Answer 1

There is a website called fightcps.com. Go there and print up a declaration of facts form. Make sure that you document everything that you refute. There are many people with years of experience on fightcps and they can help you out with what forms you need. File the declaration of facts at the courthouse and keep copies of everything.

I would also request in writing a complete copy of your case file. You can do this using the Freedom of Information Act. Be sure to expain clearly that you are asking for the COMPLETE file and not an investigative summary.You can find forms for this request at fightcps too.

Document EVERY lie that the foster parents are telling and make sure your attorney (if you have one) knows.

Answer 2

I can say this because I know where you are, and where you need to be.

I know the deck is stacked against you. But if you want things to work out, you have to rise above it.

I am just gonna tell it like it is, because you need the truth more than you need some sympathy right now.

They see you as the problem. So everything you do that isn't "PERFECT" is seen as bad. I know it is messed up - serriously... May not even be your fault. But that is what you have to deal with.

So instead of trying to fight against the situation you are in, you have to accept it, and work within the bounds of what you got. Okay? It is NOT sucking up to do things "their way". It is what you have to do to get your kids back... That is doing things "Your way" to get you what you want... You see? because that is what is nessesary.

So if your visitation time is at 1:00?
Go to the site at 12:45 and wait in your car.
At 12:55 get out of your car and knock on the door.

Buy a note book and write down things you do like that.
Aug 10, 2006 12:45 arrived at mtg site, 12:55 went in, 2:00 left

Make a check list of things that go in the diaper bag.
Photocopy the list a dozen times.

When you fill the bag, take the list to the note book, check off the list and write the date at the top.

Because your "word" has been tarnished, everything you do has to be "documented" (written down). In the courts, its almost like "if it didn't get written down, it didn't happen". Because it is their word against yours, and "they" are the "good guys", the court will trust their word. Not yours....

But if you have a written log of everything that you have been doing, it shows you have been really trying. And it is a lot harder to argue against, because all they will have is a vague memory, and you have specific details and dates.

What ever you do, don't get tricked into arguing with the foster parents. That is what they want. If you feel you are getting mad, excuse yourself to cool off. Just say, "I feel really strongly about somethings, I need a minute by myself."

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Please review the information on the LIFE (Liberty Independence & Family Equality) site to see if there's anything that can help you with your case. You may especially want to review the page entitled "The Family Court Hearing - A Constitutional Defense". The link to this site is given below in "Source". There is also a link to the Fight CPS site that another poster referred to. Best of luck and I hope you get your children back.

Answer 4

You need to stop having kids for everyone else to take care of. They were obviously placed in someone else's care cause you were incapable of caring for these kids...I honestly think you need to be real with yourself and stop lying to everyone else to cover up your lack of parenting. I'm sorry, I have no remorse for mother's that can't keep their legs closed, yet want to complain about the fact that their children are being taken care of...they're very fortunate to have a home...