would u have an abortion if....?

Question

would u have an abortion if u had an unwanted pregnacy.... and u wanted to keep it and ur bf said u should abort it becuase the both of u r not ready for kids... finacially and emotionally?.... is it right to take away the life of an inocent.. 18 and 19 yr old couple.... do u think they can handle the responsibility... and would u keep the child if ur bf broke up with u... and would that bring him back in ur life? is that wrong?

Answer 1

If you are pregnant, you already HAVE a child, whether you are emotionally and financially ready or not. Remember, the circumstances of your life are not your baby's fault and your baby does not deserve to die. Statistics show that most couples break up after abortion, so doing it to please a man usually just backfires. Regardless of what your boyfriend says or does, however, you are responsible for protecting the innocent child inside you. Your baby is depending on you, and no man is worth the life of your child.

If you're not sure if you're pregnant, you can go to a crisis pregnancy center near you for a free pregnancy test. They can also give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you here:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

or by calling 1-800-395-HELP.

Here's some more information that might be helpful to you:

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

If you are pregnant, I am confident you can handle the responsibility. People do it all the time, and you can, too. Please protect your baby and yourself and don't abort.

Answer 2

If I was in this position when I was 18 or 19, this is an option that I would seriously have considered. You have to look into yourself and see if you have the emotional strength to handle this choice. An abortion is a very traumatic event, for your body and soul. However, if you feel that you are truly not able to handle the pregnancy and the idea of giving your child up for adoption does not appeal to you then it is a viable option. Also you have to look at yourself, could you handle the responsibility of raising a child on your own? If you think you have the strength to do that, then have the child, but do not count on your partner being there. The guy in this scenario seems to be very immature and should never have been allowed to have sex in the first place.

Please remember though that abortion is not a form of birth control and should only be used under special circumstances and after a lot of soul searching.

It comes down to, could you live with yourself if you had the abortion and could you live with your child if you didn't?

Answer 3

You're asking the opinions of other people. This is a decision to be made by the people involved- especially the woman. Consider it from all angles- especially emotionally and financially because these are going to be the two things that are most affected at this time. 18, 19. That's very young. A lot will change in the way you view life between now and even 5 years down the line. Also consider the fact that no matter how in love you feel you may be at this point in time, the vast majority of people don't remain the relationship they're in at 18. Of course the father's opinion should be considered, but it's ultimately the woman's decision of what to do since it will be her life that is most affected by the choice.

Answer 4

Yes, I'd have an abortion without a doubt if I got pregnant by mistake unplanned.

ANWAY...Abortion is not murder. I'm tired of answering abortion questions, but I still continue to because I'm a woman, and it pisses me off to see people trying to take my rights away.

MY body, MY life, MY business, MY fetus, MY choice.

Although I do think some people are stupid for not using birth control, or taking the morning after pill, that doesn't mean they should be bringing a child into this world.

Also, sex is a beautiful, natural, pleasurable thing and anybody who says to wait until marriage is a moron. Marriage doesn't mean ANYTHING. Marriage is just a piece of paper you sign; marriage is a contract, and nothing else.
Everybody deserves to have sexual pleasure, no matter how young they are. If they are ready, let them have sex. It is nobody's business, and nobody has a right to criticise people who have sex. Yes, mistakes happen and the women becomes pregnant, that's why abortion is an option! What kind of person is going to stop having sex?! I know I can not live without sex. NO, i'm NOT some horny freak, but i love sex just like anybody else who is sexually active does. Sex is wonderful, and nobody can deny it or say they do not enjoy it.

Pro-lifers should just mind their own business already and worry about more important matters as opposed to obsessing over insignificant embryos and fetuses. Pro-lifers waste their time harassing and attacking people who have had abortions and pro-choicers just because they have different views and opinions. Pro-lifers can be accomplishing many things, but NO, they decide to waste their time getting into other peoples' business. I mean, come on, do they really think attacking abortion clinics, or praying in front of them will make a difference? They should mind their own business and get an education. "God" will not "help" them through everything. They should use their brains and stop relying on religion.

"Kill" the unwanted embryos, and fetuses!

Answer 5

To answer your question...YES it is wrong if you take the life of an innocent child for the sake of hoping your boyfriend stays with you! Personally, if you want to know what I would do...I am a 20 year old woman who is paying for my own school and living on my own with a boyfriend of over 2 years...I would keep my baby because it would feel like a part of me! I could never give it up! I would work as hard as I could and no matter what my boyfriend wanted or did I would keep my baby. I am not emotionally or financially ready for a child right now but if I got myself into a situation where I became pregnant I would deal with it! If you want it and stick with it, you will figure it out both emotionally and financially..it may be hard but well worth it in the end.

Answer 6

NO WAY! You brought the child here so do the right thing have the child and give it to a family who cant have children but would take yours and raise it s their own! Abortion is the most selfish act!!!! I've known two girls who have done that and they have horrible depression and get so upset with themselves, while i know one girl who gave her baby up for adoption and never has any regrets because her child is being taken care of the way she never could have. They will punish someone a double murder when they kill a woman while pregnant with an unborn child, but yet they do abortions everyday, what is wrong with that picture! Abortion is Murder, so if you do that consider yourself one. You did the deed now you need to take care of it. Have the child and give it to a loving family who can care for it in way you cant do it, financially, emotionally, etc. and next time use protection or birth control or both! Do the right thing!

Answer 7

I have 5 Children and no I don't believe in abortions (BUT) there are reason's people have them, that is not for me to judge.On the other hand if you want to have this child have it ,it is up to you, you are the mother and if the boyfriend leaves you , he leaves you, life will go on. Don't ever use a child to get a man back, if you do it will not be good for your child, if the man comes back he will because he loves you both. No matter if the man is with you or not he will all ways be in your life as you would have the bond of your child together

Answer 8

This guys is trying to force you into something that you really don't want to do, and something you would end up regretting horribly for the rest of your life. Abortion, even though I would never have one, is suppose to be YOUR CHOICE, how horrible would you feel to know that you killed your unborn child just because you wanted to keep a guy around. If he is telling you these things he is not going to stay around anyway. Abortion or no abortion. You should 86 him now. It is obvious that you don't want to have an abortion. I know too many people that live their lives in turmoil for making that choice when they didn't really want to. Just an FYI, I had two children with doctors telling me I should abort with both and friends and family telling me the same. I had some problems that made it dangerous for me to carry. I have two beautiful healthy children that were born severely premature. One I had at 18 and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Make this decision for you. You know what you want and what your hear is telling you. I followed my heart, not what others wanted for me.

Answer 9

CONDOMS??????? Does anyone use them anymore????? Your both old enough to care for a child emotionally, more you than him. He told you he wasn't ready to be a Daddy, because he doesn't want the resposibility. Well he should have thought about that before having sex with you. If you want this baby then have it....with him or without him. If he doesn't want to be with you and help you, then you know he was only with you for the sex. He'll have to support the baby anyways so he might as well start looking for a good paying job. If you kill this baby because he wants you too then shame on you. Your the one that will have to live with the pain and guilt of it, not him. Its your baby too, do what you feel in your heart is right for you "NOT" him. Don't abort the baby because he don't want it. Remember...everything happens for a reason. Good luck Hun.

Answer 10

Listen, abortion is murder anyway you look at it. I get really upset when I hear people call abortion pro-choice when it should really be called "pro-death".
The baby that was conceived is an innocent human being with no fault. The father should have thought about the responsibilities: financial and emotional before he decided to have sex.
As far as having a baby, once you go through the pain of bringing him/her to this world, there will be nothing else that will give you more satisfaction and give your life more meaning than to have him/her with you. It will be tough being a parent, but all things that are good will have sacrifice --but it's all worth it.