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Now I am not a virgin anymore. But, I did save my self for marriage. I was 28 years old when I got married. But, when I say something about it a lot of people think it is werid or freaky. Why is that? A lot of people ask why I waited so long? And if I have a bad marriage? Why would you have a bad marriage if you saved your self? I would think it would be a better marriage. My husband was shocked that I was a virgin when I met him at the age of 25. But, he was willing to wait until we got married to make love. We have a very good sex life. Why is it consitered bad to "wait".?

2006-08-10 06:13:31 · 11 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

I was a virgin Virgin. We didn't do anything but, kiss and hold hands until our wedding night.

2006-08-10 07:19:59 · update #1

11 answers

Because people are jealous that they don't have the conviction that you do and because they want to rob you of what you believe in. Maybe they think they are doing you a favour.

I didn't wait, but I wished I had. Sex is overrated anyhow, especially with a totally inexperienced and selfish partner who thinks all they see in porn is what women really want....grow up fellas.

I learned NOTHING from the immature men I was with except that I could have been any old piece of meat...it was the conquest that mattered to them as none of them had any interest for anything long term. They just wanted to be the one to get the pretty girl who always said no if you know what I mean.

So good for you. You don't have to have meaningless sex just to please someone else's ego.

Your husband was a good man to wait for you, knowing you waited so long to save yourself for him,

Kudos to you girlfriend and screw what other people think.

2006-08-10 06:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

the idea of waiting to have sex before marriage should come with statue of limitations clause. Say 21
The idea was originally conceived in a time when people married very young 13 + and died young so there was a practical consideration to it. you didn't want young girls becoming mothers without a husband to support the family.
I don't think that it was ever intended to have 25 year old virgins- there is no social value to it.
Were I to have dated you when you were 25 and you told me that not only were you a virgin but intended to stay that way until marriage; i would have immediatley stopped dating you.To be a virgin at that age meant that you had to be good at two things: repressing your normal sexual feelings and manipulating the feelings of the guy you're with to get your way-neither of which i find attractive
BTW were you a virgin virgin or an" everything but virgin" ?

2006-08-10 07:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

You were very smart to wait. It it really no one's buisness why you waited or if you have a bad marriage, or what kind of sex life you have. Don't ever feel like you have to answer to people about your personal life. Think of how many people you know that have had several partners, of the kids with no dads and so on. You didn't have to worry about an unplanned pregnancy by some one you did not love that you were just in a sexual relationship with. You didn't have to worry about getting a disease. So forget these losers and enjoy your life with your husband.

2006-08-10 06:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 2 0

I'm so sorry sweety, I couldn't read that whole thing. It's called post pardome depression. It happens after having a baby. Just do one little extra thing for yourself every day. Put the baby to bed, or hand her to hubby and give yourself a facial. Your prioritys changed from you to your baby girl. theres nothing wrong with that but if you put all of your time in to every one else what is left for you? You are tired and moody and depressed because you say your fat. there aren't enough hours in the day and so your needs keep on staying in the shelf. You forgot what it feels like to be pampered. you are doing the pampering and being left out. Let mom/dad sis watch the baby and you go out with a friend and have fun, then youll see how much you miss the baby and etc. Promise you, you will feel better. You lost your individuality for a while its okay, u will get it back, depression hormones you name it yes. God Bless

2016-03-27 06:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

It is not bad.Actually we are suppose to wait until marriage. (It was like that in bible times and God does not change his principles.) Anyways, my husband and I both waited until we got married, it has been almost 3 years now and it only gets better. We have such a good, deep relationship, and waiting for sex is one of the things that makes a marriage stronger. So no, there is nothing wrong with it, you are completely right and without shame, or blame. (He he that rhymed.) Good for you, and may your relationship with your husband continue to grow stronger and happier. You are not alone in your views on this subject.

2006-08-10 06:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 1 0

You are talking to the wrong people! I am very proud of you, for saving yourself until marriage! It's so hard and so rare now days! There is a lot of people that regret giving up their virginity too young! There is no greater gift you could give to your husband! Your husband is lucky, because he don't have to worry about you comparing him to anybody! That is how it's supposed to be!

2006-08-10 06:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lorla 4 · 1 0

No. I waited too. Although, I was 19 when I married. I could've waited longer. However this world of inmorality we live in makes it tabu to wait until marriage. Sex isn't the only thing in life. That is what you need to tell your friends. Besides what business is it of thiers. If they were true friends they would be like....
"good for you! nice to see someone has morals in this world."

2006-08-10 06:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 1 0

When you say "saved yourself" do you mean that you were stored in a freezer for future purposes?

Okay I get it....... you mean you waited to have sex with the person you married and committed himself to you. Great! (If that's what floats your boat)

So how many men really care!

2006-08-10 06:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0 1

It's not freaky - sex is a big deal on a lot of levels

2006-08-10 06:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by B C 4 · 0 0

How do you know if its a good sex life when you have never tried anything else?

2006-08-10 06:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0 1

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