I've been in a relationship for the past two years and am now engaged to be married to this person. To give you some background, I was in a previous relationship with a guy that I thought was the love of my life for 6 years before I met my now fiance. The problem is I've had recurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend. In the beginning of my new relationship I had them just about every night for at least 6 months or more. Then the dreams started coming less and less. My latest dream was last night and it frightened me because I feel that I am over my ex but the dream seemed so real. The dream was that I broke the engagement off with my fiance and went back to my ex. Other highlights of the dream was that I couldn't stop crying knowing what I just did. Also my ex had bad people after him and so we had to be on the look out constantly for anyone trying to kill us.
Why am I still dreaming about him after two years? I feel like I'm cheating on my fiance in my dreams.
2006-08-10 05:46:56 · 13 answers · asked by confused 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My last relationship was over in 98. In 2003, I married the most wonderful man. Most of the dreams i remember all have the ex in them....I find it very distressing too. To this date...he haunts my dreams...
Love...part of me will always love him, but a bigger part of just wants to let him go.
I did dream a few weeks ago that i had a choice between ex and husband and I chose my husband.
By the way, my husband knows about my dreams and even allowed me to meet with ex face to face for closure. It did help some....
2006-08-10 05:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...those sound similar to my dreams...
I was with my ex for 2 1/2 years and I seriously though that he was "the one" that I was going to spend my life with. I actually ended up breaking it off with him, because he was verbally abusing me and being controlling, and soon after met this wonderful man who I am now engaged to.
Over the past few weeks I've been having dreams about him trying to get back together with me and dreams that he was stalking me fiance and I. Also another dream that I went back with him and cheated on my fiance (even thought I would never do that!) and I had another dream that he tried to stab and kill me...that scared me a lot!
I'm not sure why either of us are having these dreams. I tried looking in a book about the meaning of dreams, but it didn't help any. You are probably just scared about your future and making sure that you are making the right decision to marry this other person. I think about my ex sometime...not meaning to, but it's hard not to when you had been with someone so long, and then it just ends. You just need to reassure yourself that everything will be ok, and that you will be happy with this other person. I wish you the best of luck! and congrats on the engagement!!!
2006-08-10 06:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/kxiAF
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 21:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worried. Your dreams are just probably the embodiment of your fears and anxieties, concerning your upcoming marriage. You're just probably very scared and insecure in taking such a big step in your life. If you know that you're over your ex then you don't have to worry about cheating on your fiance in dreams. Dreams are something we seldom have control over nowadays.
Your ex probably represents the freedom and the lifestyle you are experiencing in your life right now, or perhaps the mistakes you hae made in the past which you don't want to make again. Your fiance represents the more barriered life of marriage. A part of you is afraid to lose that freedom and lifestyle, or make the same mistakes, which explains why in the dream you went back to your ex. You should talk over your worries with your fiance, I know that he will make you feel more secure about your decision to get married. I'm no expert in dreams but I think that that is what it means. Good luck in your marriage.
2006-08-10 06:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our dreams are not "literal", so your old boyfriend is not your boyfriend. He may be the character in your little "night-time" play. The Male character (or your masculine side) is trying to tell you something.....rethink your situation before marriage.
50% of all marriages fail. Most people make better decisions about buying a car than about choosing the person they'll marry. You can listen to your emotions or your "logical side" and decide what is your best decision. Think. Then do your best.
Cheers
2006-08-10 17:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Monk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be unresolved issues But dont look in to it too much you miss the guy because you where with him for so long. Don't do anything drastic about it. Just remember you slip for a reason. I am with a guy now who has reacurring dreams about his wife who passed on a few years ago. I know he still loves her but it dosent mean that he will judge the relationship now or want me less because of it.
2006-08-10 05:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a kind of nightmare -- I totally understand because I have nightmares about my exes too! I dream I am still dating them and it freaks me out. I'm sure that these dreams are not significant in any way -- it only shows that your ex is associated with negative thoughts in your head. Don't worry about these dreams, they are perfectly natural!
2006-08-10 06:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be because you were thinking about him (maybe even subconciously) before you went to bed, or you had too much dinner or something. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it. I had a dream a few days ago that a giant Spongebob was attacking the city.
2016-03-27 06:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-22 05:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably Post-Traumatic Stress.
2006-08-10 05:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋