We have been dating for two years, living together one year and now I am ready to get married.
2006-08-10 05:39:24 · 17 answers · asked by threeqtez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
are you both on the same page as far as marriage goes? don't push it, you want it to happen when the time is right. or you may be disappointed otherwise. i hope you take it very seriously. marriage is work at all times. Make sure you are ready so when he asked you'll know your answer. Ive been married now 13 years and a day doesn't go by were one of us is looking forward to seeing the other at the end of the day.
best wishes in your future together, don't take it for granted.
2006-08-10 06:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If they are living with you right now without having to buy the whole cow then they are never going to move ahead they have everything that a marriage would have right now other then the piece of paper, fancy wedding, and a ring on their finger. I have been with my man for 7 years and we have lived together for 5, we are engaged but I really do not see him wanting to get married in the future. Unless I give him the ultimatum. Right because things are going to so well, I am not in any hurry to push it and he is not either. But most men are the same not matter what. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
2006-08-10 05:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hotbox25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is, is he ready. Careful how you hard you press him on it. You don't want to pressure anyone into marriage. Resentment will soon follow.
You do need to have a talk with him about what his intentions are. Or maybe just start asking him when he would like to get married. Depending on how old you are, you can wait it out for a while.
Remember, would you be happier being married with the next Joe who asks? or being together with the love of your life.
I'll take the latter.....
2006-08-10 05:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about what he sees his life being like in 5 years, in 10 years. Ask him if he can see you two getting married down the road. Tell him that you are thinking about marriage. Talk about his dreams and plans and your dreams and plans and see if they line up. There's no need to give an ultimatum. Just use your brain and evaluate whether or not you two are headed in the same direction and then make a decision based on that information. Best wishes.
2006-08-10 05:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimatums never work. Make a romantic dinner with candles and everything. Go all out. In the middle of dinner or maybe just after (your choice), get down on one knee and ask for his hand in marriage. Maybe you can get creative. Come up with an idea of your own to surprise him with a marriage proposal. Men don't always have to do the asking.
2006-08-10 05:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by truckermama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry a guy who is going out solo with other women ?? Your just asking for a lifetime of having to deal with situations you dont want. Do you think it will be any different once your married ?? If you let him now he will expect that he can later too.
2006-08-10 05:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just bringing up the topic when you are eating dinner without distractions. Just tell him that you would like to have his last name and show allegiance to your love.
DONT bring it up every time you have a conversation....just tell him once a month or less until he gets the point. NOT everyday....I stress that because he will be turned off if you nag.
Or even ask him yourself. Dont make a big deal....good luck
2006-08-10 05:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys talked about marriage? You have to find out his opinion on the subject first and then you can continue telling him how you feel. If he isn't into marriage then chances are you aren't going to get married to this guy.
You could always propose to him though, my mom did to my dad.
2006-08-10 05:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. Be sly, guys are dense. Ask him what his thoughts are on marriage, ask him if he ever wants to. Bring it up after a commercial or something that has to do with marriage. Don't just randomly bring it up because he'll figure it out but if you bring it up during like wedding crashers or something he won't figure it out.
Or, ask him to marry you. Your allowed.
2006-08-10 05:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him outright you are ready to get married. YOu are already cohabitating with him so why the shyness about talking about marriage?
2006-08-10 05:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋