Our neighbor recently received a letter from his daughter.They had a falling out when his ex wife asked him to take the daughter out of the state to his home, because she was having premarital sex, and going to drop out of school. She left after she became out of control, but not before she graduated HS. He made the effort to write to her 4 years ago to see if they could reconcile. She refused.
She has since married, and ready to become a grand mom.
Her letter stated she wants to reconcile now because she heard of 2 family members deaths. Her brother took the same position in her defense regarding being taken from the state, and won't communicate with the dad either.
I told him I would be very leary of her motives.
What would be your advice?
2006-08-10 05:29:10 · 8 answers · asked by Credit Expert 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have my guard up. what does she think she may get something if he dies. but I would sit down and listen to her and take it ever so slowly.
2006-08-10 05:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one knows when their last day will be on this earth, so you should never hold grudges especially with family members. On the other hand, you don't let any one abuse you by messing over your livelihood either. Everyone it this family should make an effort to be on speaking terms, but that don't mean that anyone has to change their life style or habits because of the make up. Just make a habit of respecting others & treating them the way you'd want to be treated which is all you can do for your actions to be excepted according to the Bible.
2006-08-10 05:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think she is trying to get back in the family. After so many years, I am sure she is afraid and scared of what to do and how to go about it. Yes, have your guard up but sounds like she is taking the steps to get back in the family. The most important thing is, that is her dad, the only dad she has and will ever have. And any communication is better than none. I do hope they can talk and get back on a solid and strong ground. Sad to say but how would she feel if he died and things were like they are. She would never forgive herself and she would have at least wanted to know they spoke.
2006-08-10 06:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably about 40-41 years old now and wants to reconnect with her family. There's nothing odd about that. When people get older, they want that connection. And, the father asked for it, albeit four years ago.
Depending on the daughter's past, he might want to be a little wary, but the reward of getting know his daughter again is a worth a little risk.
2006-08-10 06:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would to be for your neighbor to reconcile with his daughter. It has been 23 years and she just may have wisened up a bit and realized that what her parents did when she was younger was done with best intentions whether she agrees with it or not. He won't know her true intentions until he gives her a chance.
2006-08-10 05:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think he should be a little concerned about her motives, but it is possible that she has changed and grown as a person and maybe she just realizes that life is too short to hold grudges or what have you.
2006-08-10 06:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water. (whatever that means)
Family, for better or worse, you can't live without them.
"You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family."
Tell him to be on guard and not to make any loans larger than $200.00.
2006-08-10 05:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reconcile....Life is too short and we all make mistakes
2006-08-10 05:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋