how can i get rid of being a gay?i want to b straight ..but that sex with him is haunting me ..plz help
2006-08-10 05:27:24 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry, it's too late:(. wrong move.
2006-08-10 05:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
First things first, you need to figure out what caused you to go through with it to begin with. If you are truly attracted to men, you're naturally gay and denying it will only make things worse! If you were just curious and you didn't find any enjoyment in it, then don't worry about it and just go on with your life as though it never happened. There is nothing wrong with satisfying your curiosity!! After all, trying it would have been the only way to find out if you really are gay and attracted to men. To think that just because you tried it once, it makes you gay, you're wrong! Trying it out does not make you gay. Only continuous attraction to other men makes you gay.
At the end of the day, you're the only person that can answer that question and decide who you really are.
Always remember to never deny who you are, because if you do, you'll never find true happiness.
2006-08-10 07:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by just42day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by getting over yourself.
You are mistaking having sex -- which you ought to be able to do just for the fun of it without making a big deal over it -- someone poured guilt you don't need in there -- with being gay.
Gay means you are only sexually attracted to males -- doesn't mean you can't find a way to have sex with females -- some do, but it means you don't WANT to have sex with females and you do WANT to have it with males.
Lots of straight guys have sex with other guys, particularly if they know a gay guy who will suck their dick. Trust me on this -- my straight friends in late jr. h/s and h/s loved the fact that I would if they wanted me to. It didn't make and can't make any of them gay.
So chill. If you are freaky about it, don't do it. If you desire to do it however, disgard whatever religious bullsh*t you've been fed and be honest with yourself and your close friends. Should you happen to have real sexual desire for both sexes, or only for males -- then don't do the stupid "oh, I've got to hide this" ****. Be honest. If you don't though, having sex with a guy will not change anything.
Email me if you need to talk.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
http://www.rebuff.org
2006-08-10 12:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out some information that would be helpful in answering your question. Like do you have ongoing feelings/desires to have sexual relations with a man again? How old are you? Experimentation in younger people is very common and doesn't mean you are gay. Are you attracted to women?
Have you considered being celibate? I realize this is not an answer - but it is somethings to think about. If you want post another question with more detail and people might be able to be more helpful to you.
2006-08-10 05:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
God made you the way he did because that is the way he wants you to be.
You have to learn to play your hand in life with cards you are dealt. You can't get new cards.
Give your self time and education. Go to a gay lesbian community center and maybe join a youth group or a coming out group. Read gay literature - especialy coming out/ coming of age stories. See gay movies - not porn - movies. Read gay magazines and go to gay sites.
Don't come out of the closet until you are ready. If you live in a homophobic home and you are not of age - don't tell anyone at all until you are on your own and paying your own bills. Eventually do tell all those that are important to you though.
You are loved. You are not alone.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 05:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have sex with a male if you are not gay? Were you just experimenting? If so that does not make you gay. Lots of guys experiment, younger mostly, but older too. So if it was a one time thing let it go and do not let it haunt you.
2006-08-10 05:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Finally home 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trying is not being...
having sex with another guy once doesn't mean you have to stick to it for the rest of your life...
And on the opposite, being gay is not a curse... Nothing to be ashamed of. Just consider this, whatever you decide you are, in 10 years you'll laugh about this question you sent here : )
Good life!
2006-08-10 13:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Arnaud v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people experiment and it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. Is it "haunting" you because you want to do it again and you have fantasies about men (in which case you are probably gay, and that's just who you are) OR is it "haunting" you because you regret it and fear that it makes you gay? If it is the latter, and you are attracted to and fantasize about women, then it was probably just one of those experiments! Not particularly unusual, by the way.
2006-08-10 06:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by mellexical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what a few people said you was just testing out the waters but also like someone said if you find yourself liking sex with a man more appealing then with a women you might be bi, it's the end of the world, you only feel this way because like me you was raised to hate yourself if you were anything but straight. With that said I like to say I've known a lot of "straight people" or they say they are straight who have tested the waters so don't hate yourself OK? I wish you luck
2006-08-10 05:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Super 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's done is done, now you need to focus on your future. What do you want to be?
Keep in mind that you mind controls your body, but also if you are a believer seek help from God, pray about it. To set your mind up for this, you should have the reason (WHY) a very strong reason that will be the foundation of your being. Maybe the Bible, see what it says about homosexual. You have fallen into the sin don't let it drag you into destruction.
2006-08-10 06:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by J-M SEBA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it haunting you because you enjoyed it or because you cant believe you did it in the first place? Its haunting you because you haven't made peace with your self. Do you enjoy sex with women more? Or what's going on? You need to tell us more details. It's OK I'm a lesbian and I slept with a guy Once too. But now I'm right where i need to be...
2006-08-10 05:33:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋