My husband is still meeting his ex, and lies about it to me. what should i do?

Answer 1

You should have a heart to heart and tell him how you feel and to stop meeting her or you will leave him

Answer 2

Okay... I can understand this from your husband's end. I was married when I was in college, we were both way too young, and it lasted less than two years. I've remarried now and I do still see my ex-husband. He doesn't tell his fiance, and I don't tell my current husband. NOTHING goes on, we simply don't want to worry our significant others, or give them cause to be jealous or to concoct false scenarios in their minds. We're friends, nothing more... we are people who once shared a special bond (I mean, we were married, and I've never understood how you can remove someone to whom you were married from your life...) who still care about one another. We talk like we're family, we reminisce, but we don't do anything that would upset anyone, and it is entirely innocent. We remember all too well the reasons we divorced and the pain the experience caused, and have no desire to return to that in any way. It is likely what your husband is doing is just as simple as that... does he actually *lie* to you about it, or does he rather neglect to mention it? If you know he is lying to you, confront him with the evidence. Otherwise, trust him and let it go.

Answer 3

Personally, I think you should worry. When two people get married, they actually are deciding that the game playing is over. If my husband were to still meet his ex in private then something in that relationship is extremely wrong. No one is innocently meeting someone and lies about it to their spouse. Lying is not innocent. I think that you should tell him how you really feel about it then if he doesn't comply with how his wife feels about it then you should do what you feel is the next best thing to do in your situation. But altogether that is YOUR husband and he has NO business meeting another woman and NO business LYING about it to his WIFE. Good luck.

Answer 4

My husband did the same thing to me!! More than once. I left him!!! he obviously was not ready for me. But then I took him back and now I know that is all about me. But girl the road it took to get here was twisted, bumpy and uphill all the way. Once he broken the trust, it was hell and hot water that he had to pay to get it back. But it was because he was willing to pay is why we are together. He had to acknowledge his sin first then he had to sever the ties. He had to reassure me alot because I was really hurt. I still am but once you choose to forgive you have to work on learning how to do that without reminding him of it constantly. But do not let him off the hook. Her either I'd have a few choice words for her too. She is being dowbn right disrespectful. What ever happened to that rule we learned when we were in Kindergarten "DO NOT TOUCH THINGS THAT DO NOT BELONG TO YOU" The world would be such a better place if all people stuck by that rule!! But Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Let him know you are aware of his actions and the fact that he chooses to lie to you is effecting your marriage. Tell him you would like to be able to trust him but his deceit is making it very difficult. He may have a very legitimate reason for meeting with the X and is lying for fear of you thinking the worst but lying doesn't help the situation. We are all aware that there may be more than meets the eye. You know your husband is he normally trustworthy? If he is don't immediately jump to the worst conclusion but this deceit does need to be addressed. If he is not trust worthy then you will have to decide if this is the way you choose to live your life.

Answer 6

what should you do? This is what I would do. After he leaves the house. call a locksmith to change all the locks. change the code to the garage entry if applies. Remove his clothing and or belongings and place them in the front area (cover w/tarp). Call an attorney and obtain a retainer & consultation and file for a divorce. depending upon the state you live in you may want to investigate your rights as a spouse. good luck...
this man is supposed to be YOUR HUSBAND. He is not being trustworthy. Depending upon what excuses & events that YOU ALLOW in your marriage depends upon your values. think about it. is it worth wasting your heart, body and soul for this?

Answer 7

You need!!! to confront him and tell him that this is not acceptable. You need to get him talking if not go talk to his ex. If you think the marriage is worth it work with communication. Work things out, solve the puzzle. If the marriage is not worth it. Tell him if he doesn't stop it is an immediate divorce and you will play along with his games or take him back when she dumps him. You need to do this on your own you can get the court involved, but not friends or family. Also if you have children don't rip them appart, please don't by a person who got ripped appart by her parents.

Answer 8

Find out what they are meeting for if its innocent asked to come along. If not catch him in the act confront the both of them this will help you . Cause you will get to ask both of them why and later on you will not question your choice of action weather it be a divorce seperation or working things out

Answer 9

Nothing wrong with meeting up with his ex but there is no reason to lie about it. due to the fact that he lies about it i would consider that enough of a reason to kick his *** to the curb and tell him if its greener on that side of the fence to have at it.

Answer 10

THis is a hard one...are you should he is still missin his ex, anyway if so, you should tell him that there wouldnt be anything between ya too and that he would pick the one you want and truly like...because he cant be with you and still fantaze[if thats the word] bout his ex. you should also tell him that if he does make any ajduestment[sp???] you would like him, if he really loves you you whould get the answer from him that you want

Answer 11

Leave him. He has unfinished business with another woman. What has to fall from the sky for you to see that?
He lies to you. That is insulting to your intelligence and disrespectful. It is disloyal, and it indicates he is ashamed of it because he knows it's wrong.
WIll you condone it and stick around? Or will you demand the respect you deserve and leave him for someone more worthy of you? Your choice. You already know the answer.
You can't change him, only what you're doing about it.
You already know the answer to this....trust yourself and quit looking to justify your doubts about putting yourself first.