I think my husband is gay?

Question

He keeps checking out gay male websites. H seems to think I don't know or can't check what he's doing online. his best friend is a guy whom I suspect is bi. I think he may have cheated but I'm afraid to confront him. I don't think I really want to know. we have a two week old baby. what do I do?

Answer 1

What you do is entirely up to you to be honest. It is possible that he is thinking of trying being with a guy. It is possible he is truly Bi-sexual. I doubt very highly he is gay as you and he must have some sort of sex life. You need to sit down and have a talk with him, but do it in a very non confrontational way. If he feels safe enough to talk with you about it then he will, if he feels threatened he will deny it all and you will never know. If in fact he is Bi-curious you have to ask yourself how you feel about that. Could you handle him testing the waters so to speak? Does the mere thought of it turn you off? Does the thought of it peak your interests? These are all things you need to consider BEFORE sitting him down. In short have a long discussion with yourself, then have a meaningful discussion with him. I hope this helps.


Just my 2 cents worth

Answer 2

If you think that the man that you are with is gay, then chances are that he is. I can sympathize with you because I knew someone in the same situation as you are in and it's not a good feeling as if it were another woman. Being gay is not the problem. Being unfaithful would be the problem. Although you should sit down and talk with him to see exactly how things are. You are his wife and he should be able to tell you anything. If he is gay then he should tell you and not leave you in the closet with him. That would be up to you to move on then if you feel the need to . Next question is he cheating? That would be the ultimate reason to leave him. Good luck.

Answer 3

im seriously heart broken for you. How terrified and confused you must be. Im not sure what I would do in your shoes. Because most men will never admit to it until they are ready. So he could very well just keep lying to your face. Maybe you should try to catch him in the act. Like hire a private investigator and if you cant afford that have some friends help you out and watch him. Either way you MUST find out. He could be endangering your very life. What if he dosent practice safe sex. Or what if he is having lots of encounters with various people. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well you really don't want to know but would you want to know if you have HIV, GONORRHEA, CHLAMYDIA, HPV or any other STD? You need to confront him on this one. Who knows what he has giving you already, HEPATITIS? You need to find out for your childs sake. I know that it would be horrible but you are not the only person who was married to someone and then finding out that they were gay. One lady I worked with was married for 25 years, had two children and then got a divorce. Recently her ex died and in the paper is "very close friend" was listed in there. Obviously he was gay.

Answer 5

First of all you need to find out if he is gay. Because alot of men get with an women to cover up that they are gay to there family but the mean time they are dealing with men. It's best for you to just ask so you could go on.

Answer 6

My heart goes out to you. I would seriously confront him. If he is gay, you need to get help right away. I've know some men who unfortunately got married and had children and then would admit they were gay only after their mother died. This is so sad!
People should not hide from their homosexuality by doing this. It hurts way too many people.

Answer 7

True story - I work with a girl whose husband left her while she was 5 months pregnant because he was a homo. It happens. And if he's pulling up gay websites, he's gay !!!! No man in his right mind would purposely go into those sites UNLESS he is a homo. A lot of homo's hook up or marry a girl for the simple fact of having a child. You need to get an AIDS test and stop sleeping with this dude or you're going to regret it. Get rid of the homo !!!!!

Answer 8

Oh that sucks. I would confront him with it. Leave the website up on the computer and when he sees it his heart will drop. You dont need that. He is going to be so embarassed to know that you know or think that he is. I am sure he dont want his family to find out and threaten it. I would be such a B-I-T-C-H! Good luck.

Answer 9

Your husband maybe a bisexual.
He also maybe confused at the moment.

Also, I think you should confront him or at least write him a note.
If you keep saying you "don't want to know" you're going to eventually want to know, and you're going to ask him anyway.

If you don't find out soon, it's going to annoy & bother you even more if you wait too long.

Answer 10

if you don't confront him about this and question about this you never know other person have aids, or hiv. seriouly thinking that baby might have it.. so check it out asap and make sure for your own health and baby. too.

Many time i have gay friend who love having sex many time told him to use safe sex he keep saying nothing to going to happen to me... 1 year later he came see me, told me that he had aids... He looked at me tears said that I should of listen to you.. you always tells me this and never listen... I told him that how men get it and later have sex with women don't know what you have... look at Magic Johnson.... NBA... so again if man married to wife and had sex with a man don't know what they carry in bed... seriously people don't sit and say wow he cheating on me.. but not think about aids, hiv, stds, herpies stuff like that.???? thank god I married to my wife just me and my wife that all. so you need have yourself find out from him and if he won't tell then you and baby need to see dr. to find out more information about this plm right now.