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Hey guys iam 18 now and next year iam gonna get married 2 ma fiancee...he's 25 ....give advise?

2006-08-10 05:10:21 · 25 answers · asked by Sweet_Si_Sana 1 in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

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Most people don’t know what they want out of life until they are over 25… and marriage is a life-time commitment. It is a commitment that could tie you down a bit… But kids will change your life completely. You will have to think of them before any of your own personal goals.

I would give yourself some time to really think about what you want out of life.
Do you want to go to college?
Do you want a career?
Do you want a family?
Do you want to explore the world?

If your boyfriend loves you, then waiting to get married shouldn’t mean anything. You could make it a VERY long engagement or just tell him you want to spend some more time together before making a lifetime commitment. Tell him you think you are too young. Maybe he wants you to commit before you grow up and realize you want more out of life… so be cautious.

Now, on the plus side… Starting a married life and a family early will let you have freedom later in you life. Your kids will be out of high-school before your 40. That’s not a bad thing. I’m almost 40 and I have a 4 year old… I’ll be in my mid 50’s before she’s out of school. Starting early lets you grow together more easily in my opinion. You both will experience a lot of your lives together. And you have a better change at a 50th anniversary party.

2006-08-10 05:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 2 0

It is okay for some people to get married at 19. That said, if you feel the need to ask people about it, that means you are unsure. If you knew this was the right thing for you, you wouldn't ask. I suggest giving it a little more time. The age difference may be a problem: Do you still live with your parents? If you move directly from your parents house to your husband's, later you may feel that you missed out on a period of independence that all your peers had. Don't rush into this if you have any doubts. If it is the right thing, it will work out and there is no hurry. I wish you the best.

2006-08-10 05:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 1 0

You are very young. You have your whole life to be married. Enjoy being together but just make sure this is what you both want. Too many marriages end in divorce because they rushed it. If you two are truly meant to be together then it will all work out in the end and will stand the test of time. Have fun with your friends and each other now, then sit down and decide if this is the best path to follow. Good luck.

2006-08-10 05:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't agree with marrying at 19 mainly because you're still young and still are learning about life, what you like, what you don't like. You still haven't moulded your character and the person you marry now may not be the person you want in 10 years time. I'm not saying dump the guy, I'm asking you not to marry him! Wait a little and enjoy your youth. No one should be so tied down at such a young age. You may not be able to do the things you've always wanted. Travelling, partying. Enjoy life don't get tied down. When you're older and see that this is the guy you want to marry then you can make a mature decision about it.

2006-08-10 05:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by surani_ud 3 · 1 0

Yes it is fine,just be sure you really love him it is a life long commitment. Let no one tell you it is 50 50 it is 100% out of 100% for each partner. Love is about caring about someone more than yourself, giving your all even if sometimes the other seems to giving less. It is about compromise its about sacrifice it is giving to another in love. Take the vows you say to each other seriously, for better for worse, in sickness and health... I suggest talking about situations that come with marriage to see if you will handle it as couple and agree on things. Will you have kids, how many,how will they be raised, belief or no belief. You would be surprised how many do not think about this till they are married and having their children. Money and other necessary responsibilities how to handle it. Lots to talk about lots to plan. All the best as you journey towards your new life as a wife and partner. Take Care
~A~

2006-08-10 05:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by momsapplepeye 6 · 0 0

You are so young and have a lot of living to do. I was married at an early age and missed out on a lot. Take your time and enjoy life with your guy for a few more years. Then decide. Life is too short to rush into anything at your age.

2006-08-10 05:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by proudgrannie2006 1 · 1 0

What's your hurry? Why would you want to tie yourself down so young. You have many years to think about that. I got married at 18 and we were both way to immature and all he wanted to do is party. He didn't want to be a husband that's for sure. Just make sure you talk about how you will handle your problems that come up.

2006-08-10 05:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by belladonna 3 · 0 0

it's fine I guess but maybe you should just try live together for a year and see if you can handle that, if it works out then take it to the next step... because you really don't want to ruine your life over one guy, so just try that out first worst case you meet someone else, you're young ( I'm the same age ) have some fun!

2006-08-10 05:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by SilentAssassin 3 · 1 0

Yes you can get married. Here is the reality of it- it won't last. You are still growing as individuals and unfortunately things will change and you will not be the same people you are today. Waiting until YOU are 25. You should be ready by then.

Wishing you the best- and please learn how to spell

2006-08-10 05:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by o2bamy25 3 · 2 0

Some marriages work out at young ages, some don't. Just remember close to 50% of marriages end in divorces now a days, lol. But you're the girl, if it doesn't work out you can get his money in the future after a divorce.

2006-08-10 05:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by daedricraven 2 · 0 1

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