i've been dating this guy for 5 months and i really really love him...he says he really loves me to, he treats me with respect and shows that he cares for me....but one day when when we went swimming together he asked me when will i have sex with him jus randomly...i said i didnt know and hes jus like its ok babe i just wanted to know its not like im telling you to have sex with me. then not to long a go he asked me again what i thought about sex and i gave him my point of view of it ...we recently have experienced dry humping and stuff but thats how far i want it to be....im not ready for the real thing yet...and i dont want this relationship to be only based on sex i really love him but it seems to me that he only wants me for sex even though he did say he loved me....plz help me and give me your advice
2006-08-10 05:08:40 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i guess you guys are right...i guess worrying to much ...this is my first boyfriend, i jus dont want to make the same mistakes like so many others if i do give in :(
2006-08-10 06:09:30 · update #1
Sounds to me like he loves you.It is natural that he ask's you for sex,its the hormones taking over.He seems to not be pushing you when you tell him No.He is respecting you.As long as he respects your wish not to have sex ,and he stays with you,dont you think that says a lot for him?
2006-08-18 02:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important part of a relationship, is respect. Women must demand respect, and not be used to satisfy the irrational lusts of men. I can't begin to tell you how many men use women for sex, and then up and leave. I hope your boyfriend gives you the space and respect you deserve. Many men will get sex from a woman very quickly, and then they will turn around and call them, tramps, men are hypocrites. I am glad that you want something real, not fake like a relationship based on lust alone. Love is a multi-layered concept, and a relationship based on lust alone, is very harmful and a waste of time.
2006-08-18 01:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum.... Dear friend, please be honest to yourself. I am 100% sure that you know what are expectations of your friend from you. Because girls are gifted with great sensitivity naturally and they can read very easily somebody's mind, at least that kind of justers. Be calm, quiet, alone for some time and just think about it as if you are watching you and your frind as a third person and check what is it exactly and who is thinking and doing what?
So at least for this matter, you are the only best judge to decide about bf. And i will say, you should not loose your friend based on other people's opinion who don't know him really!
2006-08-10 14:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Milind M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps on asking about sex and not talking about anything else to strengthen the relationship, I think he's more interested in sex than loving you honestly. Don't easily sell yourself for him to like you. Seriously my dear friend, for guys, sex and love are two totally different thing. They can have sex with someone but then love another. So please be careful...don't get hurt...guys will do anything to sleep with a girl and then just dump her....about his respects and cares for you...be sure about it.....How sure you are you are going to get the same treatment after he had sex with you...???
2006-08-18 11:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you girl. You both sound young. If he loves you, he will stop pressuring you and respect your decision. The relationship is not based on sex if you are not having it yet. Its based on peer pressure right now. Stick to what you believe in, if he loves you like he says he does, he will wait.
2006-08-18 01:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Josie31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really Loves you like he says he does, he will wait. Don't give in if your not ready. He is not going to explode if you don't have sex with him. If the pressure gets too much to handle MOVE ON! Someone out there is willing to wait.
2006-08-18 09:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by sugar girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't just want you for sex, you've been with him for 5 months so he respects you and your decision to wait but in asking you about sex he is just letting you know that he is ready to reach another level in the relationship, but if says he loves you then he actually does he said it ok that you didn't want to have sex yet so you have nothing to worry about, don't have sex unless you are comfortable with in doing do and anyone who values you will respect your decision to wait which is what your boyfriend is doing......
2006-08-10 12:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girly, you have nothing to worry about. If he waited 5 months to even ask about sex then he loes you for you. Any man who tells you it's ok and isn't getting upset when you say no, LOVES YOU. You are golden as lon as you keep the communication flowing.
2006-08-10 12:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just sex he was after, he wouldn't still be around. He would have moved on a long time ago, and found a girl who would give it to him. His actions prove that he does care about you. All guys think about sex. It's normal.
2006-08-10 12:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by finderoftruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may really love you too. ...but, guys will be guys and would still be interested in sex.. ..doesn't sound like he's put out any kind of ultimatums, so don't sweat it until he makes it some kind of condition of your relationship. Don't do it until your ready to do it.. ..and then do it a lot.
2006-08-10 12:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by dwitejones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋