Please only serious answers: Worrying?

Question

I am one of those people who worries about EVERYTHING. Even stuff that hasnt happened or might not happen. Im always thinking well "what if this happens" or "what if that happens". I feel like everyones out to get me. I dont know why, ive had alot of bad experiances with alot of different stuff happening in my past and i have a fear of these things happening again. I just cant quit worrying. Its running my life. Ive tryed to talk to my mom about it and tell her how im feeling with the hopes that that would help me feel better but she kinda just blows me off and tells me to quit worrying. Also i try to talk to my boyfriend and he does the same thing, but sometimes he makes remarks about stuff im worried about that hurts my feelings. So my question is how can i get this worrying me to go away? What do you do to releive worrying? Thanks for anyone who answers this seriously. Im to the point that i just dont know what to do anymore, im so sad all the time just thinking about stuff happenin

Sorry i didnt put in how old i am. Im 18 years old. Thank you to everyone whos answered. Im really scared about getting professional help i dont know what to expect.

Answer 1

if it is something you feel is disturbing your life you may have an anxiety disorder or just need to learn how to handle stress better... you may want to contact your doctor or a therapist because they have a more professional look at these things rather than your family who aren't equipped to handle this.

I suffered from mild depression for a long time before i took matters into my own hands and talked to a professsional. My family shrigged my off also, not because they didn't care but that didn't know better i thought i just needed to change my attitude but it was way more than that and i am getting help now and am feeling much better... sometimes in life you have to look elsewhere for help when your family can't.

i'm sure this is something you can work through if you have the right resources.... use the net to see if you have they symptoms of an anxiety disorder. you can google it and you will find tons of stuff on it. this could just be a stress issue so i don't want to scare you but it's better to find out what is wrong so you can fix it. Good Luck!

Answer 2

There are three people you should have a really good long talk with:
1) Your GP.
Your doctor can help ascertain if this is stemming from a physical problem or snowballing stress.
2) a counselor
They can help you sort out the tornado in your head and start dealing with your worries and stress in a beneficial way.
Sometimes finding someone that wants to help you sift through all the worries and teach you ways of preventing and coping with it all can make all the difference.
3) (most important) yourself
Write out a list of everything you are worried about right now. Look at that list. Are your worries all related to one or two things like school, work, home? Is there something or someone that causes these worries? How can you avoid putting yourself in stressful situations? Do you create worries for attention? Do you take on other people's worries? Do you worry about history repeating because you feel unprepared to prevent doing the same mistakes? Look at yourself and work out what fears you have. Then write a list of everything you are secure about. Things that bring joy, laughter, etc. and see where you can have more day-to-day calm. Take time everyday to look at the worries and joys you had that day.
You have a valid concern. You've taken a big step by asking for help. Check with your school/work a lot of places have free anonymous help available. It is normal to get stressed and feel like you've got too much on your plate. Getting someone to help you sort it takes some inner strength, but is well worth it.

Getting help is intimidating, but so is being worried sick! Look for an anonymous help line to start.... it gets easier.

Answer 3

When you go through an extended time of stress it can alter your brain chemistry, especially if your childhood was difficult. Your mind has a set point for mood, and after a long time, it will get used to being anxious and upset, and you may not be able to change this on your own.Maybe you should try talking to a doctor about your anxiety, and see if there is any help there. It might help to volunteer somewhere, just give yourself away for an hour or two a week. Exercise and a balanced diet also might help. Some times those things just aren't enough and you need more help. I can tell you for sure that realizing I have very little control over the things around me, and this is the beauty of life has helped me, but don't wait too long to seek medical help, you have lived like this long enough.

Answer 4

My boyfriend has situation anxiety - the doctor put him on meds - it seems to help. Also, I have tried to help him - when we leave the house he has to lock the doors - if he doesn't remember that he did or if I was the last one out the door - he has to go back up to the door and check! I told him it drives me nuts but I have learned he has to do things a certain way. Its been 2 1/2 years since I met him and he is getting better. This last year he was able to fly, and I can drive while he is the passenger. It takes time, I try and remind him life is short enjoy - 2 1/2 years ago I had a brain aneurysm and now as a side effect I have seizures - I can't worry what else could happen to me. I have to be happy with what I have, life, family and friends. Tell your boyfriend he has to help - he should listen to you, and see if there are certain things that you worry about more and try and work on a compromise - if he is not willing to help you find somebody else! Your life is hard enough you don't need to worry about him too!! You should talk to your doctor though - it has really helped us!

Answer 5

Its hard to quit worrying. Been there. If its running your life you need to see a psychiatrist. Or a counselor - or even your family doctor might help at your next physical. You need to talk to someone about it, unless you are a chronic worrier, its hard for people to understand what you are going through.

You could also for now, look into meditation. Its hard sometimes. Try counting back from a hundred. (or 50 to start) at each "10" Say something like I am calmer than I was before" Or "I have nothing to worry about" Until yuou get to zero.

Also you could try focusing on the best case scenerio. You could also make lists of the good outcomes..

Good luck..

Answer 6

This may not be what you want to hear, but it sounds like it could be depression to me. Go see a counselor to talk about it. If you worry a lot, that is a huge sign, particularly if the feeling doesn't go away. Getting counseling is not a bad thing, especially if it can help you to lead a happier life. Some worrying in life is normal, but all the time is not.

Don't feel like it makes you less of a person or anything. The important thing for all of us is that we recognize our weaknesses and do something about it.

If you are underage and your parents won't listen, start with a school counselor, or minister if you are a church-goer. Talk to adults that you trust. Hopefully they will help you get to where you need to be to get better.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I was the exact same way I constantly worry about everything and it ran my life most of the time. I've started taking an herb called Valerian "is said to induce a sound sleep, calm the nerves, ease pain and relax nervous tension and anxiety. It has also helped children with hyperactivity and behavioral problems." I've also started going to counceling and have taken up yoga and other excercises. I even changed the way I eat. When ever I was worried I would go for shugars or sweets. Now that I'm eating healthier that helps to. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, getting rid of anxiety is not an easy task. There are non-medical methods -- taking up yoga, meditation, other stress-relieving activities. However, if the anxiety level is extremely high, you will probably want to speak with a doctor. I would suggest a psychologist first: they may suggest a drug-free method, such as cognitive therapy, and help you walk through it.

If you can't afford a psychologist, definitely try talking about it to someone who may point you to free resources. Such someone could be a high school or college counselor or dean, a member of your family, or even a friend who is a doctor or a medical student. Be open about the problem and get your friends to help out -- that's the easiest way to go.

Answer 9

Let me preface my answer by saying that I'm not a doctor. That said, here are some tips for dealing with anxiety: recognize that you are feeling anxious and tell yourself that what you are concerned about is not an emergency--that while you feel uncomfortable, you are not in any danger; relieve tension/energy by exercising or getting a massage; learn and practice relaxation techniques; avoid alcohol, caffeine, and nicotine as they can increase your anxiety level; get out and DO something (walk, hike, etc.); plan your day (having too much or too little to do can make you feel anxious); find someone you CAN confide in about your anxiety.

If you feel that your anxiety is interfering with your daily activities you should call a health professional.

Answer 10

I don't know your age or where you are but if you have a boyfriend you should be able to use a phone book. Find a mental health service and call them. Most cities have free ones. I'm not saying you are crazy but you do need professional help. You are having some kind of anxiety problem. If you can't find this help on your own call your local hospital, fire station or police department. Just don't use 911. If you cant find help let some of us at Answers know where you are and maybe we can help locate services in your area. Good Luck.