My baby girl is to attached to me and i have to go back to work how do i get her to not cry when i leave?
2006-08-10 05:06:42 · 10 answers · asked by missteenqueen1996 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Definintely don't put her to sleep and sneak away. . .she'll be mistrustful and panic and may start becoming afraid to nap for fear that you'll be gone. You don't say how old she is. Typically infants are good with other people and they develop separation anxiety as they get older. Daycare providers are generally good at handling that. Take her there first to get acclimated--before you have to leave her. That way the daycare providor isn't a stranger to her and they have an idea of her temperament. She may be crying because she senses your anxiety for leaving her. When the day comes, drop her off with a smile and a kiss and tell her to have a good day. And then head out! If you need a moment to collect yourself. . .do it in the car, don't linger for her to see you. She will be fine and shortly this will become a non-issue.
2006-08-10 07:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by wrknhrdngttnby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a baby being "too attached" to her mother! Babies need to be DEEPLY attached to their parents. It's normal. It's a survival instinct. It's GOOD that she has a strong attachment to you.
Who will be watching her when you go back to work? Is she familiar and comfortable with that person? Can you spend time with the caregiver so she can start to get to know them before you leave her? When you go back to work, can you have some flexibility in your schedule for the first 1 or 2 weeks? So that you can either work 1/2 days or every other day or something as you begin to transition her to her new routine?
When you leave her, she may cry a bit. But odds are good that she will stop pretty soon after you leave. Have the caregiver holding her and comforting her when you leave. Say goodbye in an upbeat way and YOU try not to cry so she doesn't pick up on your feelings! Have the caregiver call you if she doesn't calm down in a reasonable amount of time after you leave her.
2006-08-10 05:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All children do this....They have been taught that if they cry mommy will pick them up.
Visit your day care with your daughter before you actually have to go back to work so she feels comfortable there and knows that it is a place where she can have fun and is safe without mom.
If you are having her taken care of in your home do the same thing. Have the person that will be watching her come over and play when you are there. Do this a few times until your daughter knows who this person is. She will still cry a little, but at least she will know that she is safe and will have fun with the other person. Also you could try leaving her for an hour with the babysitter, and slowly build up the time you are gone. This way your daughter knows that when mommy is gone this person will watch me, but mommy will be back soon.
2006-08-10 05:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be harder on you than her. It will take a few days for her to get used to going to day care. She will cry when you leave for a few days. If possible, take her to visit the day care beforehand, so she is familiar with it. When you drop her off, tell your baby girl that you will be back after her afternoon nap. Give her a big hug and kiss, and leave. Do not look back. If you are concerned, give your day care a call. Chances are she will stop crying as soon as you leave. A good teacher will get her involved in something right away and do whatever it takes to comfort her. After a few days, she may continue to cry or she may go play happily. It all depends on your baby. I know it is hard. You and her will be just fine.
2006-08-10 09:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have four children and they all cried when i had to leave. my youngest is 3 and he's not as bad now but only because i started making Little promises before i leave like "when mommy comes home will go ride your bike" or when mommy comes home will watch your favorite movie to together" just little things that i know he enjoys doing and i always keep my promises so that way he knows that it is really going to happen and he can look forward to me getting there.
2006-08-10 05:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one no matter what you do it's going to be hard to leave her and if she does cry when you leave she'll stop she won't cry too long. She'll be fine
2006-08-10 05:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing i found that worked forme was to put them to sleep before you leave. because then they dont know your gone and then she wont have a reason to cry,
good luck
2006-08-10 05:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
put her to sleep before you leave. it works for me!
2006-08-10 05:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by graygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be very hard the first week or so.
2006-08-10 05:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by lorena 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, you can't.
2006-08-10 09:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋