My wife is not fond of my parents who are going to fly from the US to stay with us in Switzerland for 4 days. Recently I received news that my Grandparents are going to tag along so they can see my 16 month daughter for the first time...their first great granddaughter. They will be staying at a hotel near our apartment while my parents will stay in our guest room. We were eating dinner when I broke the news to my wife and she went hysterical. "You never think of my feelings," and "I don't deserve this," and "I don't want them touching my child." She threw away the dinner and broke some dishes against the sink while washing. She stayed in the bathroom for 2 hours and slept in a different room. Usually when we fight I go and try to calm her down, but I was just sick of it. I am not very good at confrontation, and so usually stay quiet and let her say what she wants until she calms down. This time i left her alone all night, and she has been pissed all day today. Any suggestns?
2006-08-10 05:00:57 · 6 answers · asked by gnomus12 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you married young and/or married an extremely immature girl.
Unless something prior to that dinner scene had provoked her into feeling upset, noone should ever act like that, especially a wife and mother who is having dinner guests.
Have you considered that maybe something else in the relationship is wrong, or maybe something wrong with her in general?
Sounds like you should learn to be more confrentational, otherwise any problems she has will not be communicated appropriatley, they will only come out in emotional aggression and bursts of rage. Entirely unhealthy for her, you and the child.
2006-08-10 05:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by dork_hollywood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "broke the news" to her. She was not part of the decision making on this. You did that for her. I would be angry too. Not to the degree that she was, but she probably would have liked to know the plans ahead of time, especially since there is a problem with her not liking them. You are forcing a situation on her. But she needs to be more grown up about it and just go with the flow.
She sounds like she has trouble getting her feelings out in a productive manner. Instead of just explaining that she is going to feel uncomfortable, she threw a tantrum. And because you didn't sit down and let her talk it through, she is still mad.
Decision's that involve the two of you, need to be agreed upon mutually. This is why you have this conflict. Your being sick of it, only goes to say that you need to make sure that you don't spring this kind of thing on her in the future. She feels powerless.
Maybe this site will help you. It helped my marriage:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/index.html
2006-08-10 05:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my,maybe its just that time of month.Or maybe you should have involved her in the decision for them to come.Women are funny creatures,why doesnt she want grandparents and great grandparents touching her child??Are there things you havent told,if she doesnt have a legitiment reason for not wanting them there,just leave a dozen roses on the table and then let her figure the rest out.It seems to be her problem.Good luck God bless;O)
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2016-10-15 11:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you should've have told her before hand. Especially if you know how she feels about your parents. But, you need to talk to her and let her know that they're her grandparents but even though they don't get a long she shouldn't let your child not see or get to know her grandparents.
2006-08-10 05:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just feels that as your wife, she shud deserve more of your attention. iunno, us women are just like that :( its sad
2006-08-10 05:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋