They already have one child from a sperm bank. They are getting to the point of maybe having another child and in passing I jokingly offered. My wife has no problem (other than why would they want my sperm) and it would be done in a lab just like their first one but this time they would know the father.
2006-08-10 05:00:17 · 21 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it is sweet and they will know that it is all related. I think family is so important to an emotional bond with a child. If you can be happy just being uncle and not father I think it is great.
2006-08-10 05:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 03:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, it would probably be better for them to seek an anonymous donor.
When it comes to something as emotionally complex, and charged, as reproduction there is always an increased potential for future issues. Why set yourself up for future problems in your marriage, not to mention the relationship with your sisters-in-law?
If the ladies were to get 'divorced', you could have strong opinions about custody of the child and actually believe, with legal precedents to back you up, that you should have a say in the outcome... Have you thought about how your wife and other children might feel about this? Have you considered that as a donor, you might have support obligations that could be enforced later on if they got angry at you for some reason?
The very fact that your wife wonders "...why would they want [your] sperm" is enough to make me think there could be some jealousy and attachment issues, at the very least, already looming on your horizon. An anonymous donor would leave the child totally theirs and any issues they might have as a couple theirs alone to deal with. Think about it.
2006-08-10 07:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by toastposties 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might be in trouble with your wife if you make a direct deposit. Other than that, there is the moral issue that you're fathering a child and a bond might develop between you and your child. If so, what legal rights do you have? Do you have the type of morality that can father a child and just turn your back on it and walk away?I can envision a whole can of worms that you are about to open.
2006-08-10 05:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a choice that is up to you, but there is a lot to think about. You will be the father to this child and she/he will call you Dad. Are you ready for that? Are you ready to support that child? Even if she/he has two Moms that love her/him you will still have a huge part as the known Father figure. You may also have to take the role of Father figure to there other child being that he/she doesn't know who his/her Dad is. Also if they really want another child they could always adopt.
2006-08-10 05:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was asked by his foster sister and her partner for the same thing and we decided against it because we really didn't want to open that can of worms.
It's tough to say how you'll feel about the baby, this can be a really emotional thing and you may not even realise how you feel about this until the baby arrives.
If you have your own kids, how will you explain to them their relationship with this other child?
I'd say that you're better off encouraging them to find an anonymous donor so you won't feel any obligation to this baby other than being his or her uncle.
2006-08-10 05:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just have all legal papers signed and witnessed that YOU will never be held responsible for child support. That is very important when you know the people who are having the child. Make sure it is notarized, that this is a sperm donation only, that you have no responsibility for the child's care, support, or housing...whatever. Good luck
2006-08-10 05:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your wife have children? Also this might be a way your wife is connecting with her sister. I think if you believe they are good parents and have good morals in raising a child, go for it. If you think you don't know how to handle it, talk with all of them and tell them your feelings. Maybe they will say something that will just click, then you will have your answer
2006-08-10 05:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
makesure you know where you would stand in relation to the child - legally. They might not want you involved in raing the baby and that be a real hard thing to do - never let him/her know you're the biological father. And your wife might have some misgivings later. All four of you need to sit down for a SERIOUS pow wow.
2006-08-13 21:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, it's not a bad idea... go for it... but remember that when the child is born, you're not legally the father since you donated the sperm... if you don't have a problem with that, then it's ok
2006-08-10 05:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Gilno E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋